Why narcissists can't handle being bored

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[NarcSurvivor]

Narcissists need constant entertainment because they have a dark, empty void inside of them. They cannot be filled, they can never be satisfied.

[ecasey]

My mom used to say “only boring people get bored.”

[kt]

So true that when you’re with a narcissist you feel the need to perform for them to keep them entertained

[wickedlymellow]

“In a healthy relationship your ordinariness is more than enough.” 💕

[MissytheMystic]

They're bored and can't be alone because they may have to look at themselves. A distraction from their self is what they seek.

[Ladidasana]

It took me about a year to start realizing that the constant fun and excitement in our relationship not ‘love and connection’ but rather was actually an addiction to stimulation. It became exhausting to me because we never spent time together with everyday life or had time to just ‘be’. They couldn’t handle that.

[anthonyramirez]

Exactly. The paradox of narcissism: they always want more; but, nothing’s ever enough for them. They crave novelty; but, nothing gold ever stays

[Trollophile]

I believe that narcissists can't handle being bored because it may forced them into self reflection, which forces them into seeing the damage that they are causing to others . . . which is unacceptable.

[rosierose]

Yeah, when the action is over and you’re just sitting alone with them - there’s nobody home. They don’t have a soul, they just act

[Andromeda_M]

Explains why they're so addicted to social media. It ticks all of the boxes.

[pattyvilleneuve]

During the pandemic about two months in he told me he was so bored. When he finally told me he was with someone he said it was my fault. It was then I burned the bridge from his heart to mine to pieces and never looked back. No contact going on 7 months..my life keeps getting better but he always got bored.

[d.l]

The BEST and ONLY time I was happy with my ex was when he was working out of state. I got to sleep when I was tired, I made it to work on time, I was able to relax on my days off or after a long shift, I had more money, I had no stress...Huge sign that this relationship with this person was the problem in my life

[angelaali]

Entitlement!
They believe they deserve to be taken care of all the time.

[G.G.GG]

Instead of the relationship getting deeper and richer and more rewarding, it goes the opposite direction and you can't figure out why.

[Tlenee]

Yes he absolutely always talked about how bored he was pacing the floor back and forth!!! it drove me insane because I'm perfectly content with being home relaxing watching TV and having a day off! that's the most irritating type of person to be in a relationship with!!

[karolinagren]

I got bored with him being superficial and not having a deep connection. I tried to talk about things that matter: concerns, needs, but he always deflected.

[PersonalGrowthNow]

I once dated this narcissist for 3 months. She was beautiful, but really shallow. We were driving somewhere one time and she said, “you want to come to my friends bridal shower party with me?” “You can entertain us”. As if I am an entertainer. People who see others as entertainment and not a real person need a soul upgrade.

[teresafraser]

I'd rather be alone and lonely instead of being with someone and feel lonely

The worst part of a bored narcissist is the projection: “you’re never satisfied” which serves to deflect their boredom and place the blame on, thus becoming a triple hell - narcissist gets bored-projects it on you (it’s you who can’t get no satisfaction)-gaslighting all at same time. If this isn’t a picture of someone who’s suffering from mental/emotional health problems, I don’t know what is.

[Maki-]

They get bored with people in relationships real quick, yet they won’t let them go and will stalk and hoover them and act like they are going to die without them!