The narcissist in the face of criticism

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[michaelwatkins]

You never realize how stressful life was until you stop walking on eggshells for people

[lilylady]

You can't say even the tiniest thing to them as they will BLOW UP. But they are "ALLOWED" to say the most HORRIBLE, UNWARRANTED comments to you just out of the blue and will they see it as nothing. If you protest even the tiniest bit for their awful words (behaviors) - they will make you feel like the most irrational person on earth and go after your jugular.

[ponytail]

Just a simple question is perceived as criticism. Crazy shit!

[s.d.]

The narcissist criticizes you, and when you call him or her on it, the narcissist becomes angry at you and storms off as if you hurt that person first, as if his/her hurt feelings are more important than yours.

[DanniiNicole]

The narcissist is so good at flipping it on to you and making you feel as though you did wrong. Even when you know you didn’t, you’ll still find yourself with self doubt. It’s best to get away from a narcissist and stay away as soon as you recognise the signs.

[JC-buvl]

They like to criticize but fly off the handle when people do it to them.

[bryankosfeld]

I have no tolerance for being snapped at. I’ve learned to spot this early on in any of my personal, professional, or romantic relationships. Life is stressful and I expect people to lose their cool occasionally, but I don’t expect to consistently be someone’s punching bag.

[janeloraine]

I moved from an abusive home to an abusive marriage, and learned to walk on eggshells or run away from confrontation. It's a hard habit to break. Understanding the red flags is such a sanity-preserving skill. Thank you Dr Ramani.

[craigsmith]

It's so difficult living in this world. Everybody has been burned before, everyone knows the pain. I Breath a breath of peace when I walk through my front door into the sanctuary and safety of my home.

[mikephilp]

They can criticise you, but don't you DARE criticise them!!

[JuliaCha]

I was in court with my ex covert narc yesterday. It was ridiculous seeing him respond to the judge when her honor pointed out and redirected him to focus and answer the issue, rather than start on a subject that made me look bad, or suggest the court was against him. He started crying at one point trying to demonstrate heart ache - I’ve seen him cry before, and it used to sway me, until over and over I realize the crying is always about getting something to go his way. After the dramatic crying, he proceeded to make suggestions that made me seem like I was unreasonable and lying. I’m grateful for the judge as she truly served justice with all fairness.

[healerscreek]

Narcissist: How do we get there?
Person Being Taken For A Ride: Turn left here, then right there.
Narcissist: STOP TELLING ME HOW TO

[LB-dvdb]

My narcissist ex husband had an affair with my “ good friend” who was also my two sons high school counselor. Whose fault was it? Mine and hers. I was “ untrusting and sneaky ( for finding out by going through his phone to find out) I was a bad wife. SHE chased him. SHE made the first sexual advance. He actually called her, in front of me, and said “ You ruined my life. Don’t ever call
me again.”
When our sons were forced to leave their school because of the gossip from the affair, he blamed me. If I had not told anyone what he had done, then their would not have been any gossip . I was a bad mom, only thinking of myself.

Thank God I got myself out of the craziness.

[Chahlie]

I saw the title and laughed. They absolutely flip out about everything. Constant rage waiting to explode. "Vindictive reactivity" indeed, that's the best description I've seen. Once asked my mother if she wanted to go clothes shopping. Well. "Are you saying there's something wrong with my clothes?" In their world everything is a criticism.

[kimbourne]

I had such a chuckle with this one (sometimes one of my coping mechanisms).. making a suggestion to a narcissist, they instantly fly off the handle, yet they are so eager to tell you how to live, think and react.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

This happened on a date when I asked the guy if he knew how to get to a place we were going, as he was from out of town and I didn’t know if he knew how to get there. But he angrily snapped at me ‘I know how to get there better than you’. I was confused and felt weird, I didn’t mean it in a bad way. Thankfully there were other red flags too that helped me eliminate him from my life.

[sharilyon]

The turn-on-a-dime anger is something I've noticed in Narcissist behaviors and now know people who behave that way must be avoided at all costs.

[aaronhermanson]

Intellectually they can be very intelligent...Emotionally?? Like a defensive, argumentative, temper tantrum throwing, teenager. Spot on Dr. Many thanks!🙏👊🤘

[timothydraper]

I've found that when explaining another side or providing a context, when a narcissistic person gives criticism, that they can take it as them being disagreed with and respond as if an argument is starting, when that isn't actually the case.

[LinNoOne]

growing up with this, you internalize the idea that you are the problem, and think that egg shell walking & taking responsibility for everyone's feelings is normal. whew, my husband & I both did this, and so kept doing it to each other too, and didn't begin healing from these burdens til later in life.