Why can narcissists not accept blame? | Stop taking the blame for the narcissist!

Why can narcissists not accept blame? A narcissist has an unstable sense of self and when they feel vulnerable they will use blame shifting and projection as a way to prevent narcissistic injury. When a narcissist has engaged in an action that would require them to accept blame, they might engage in narcissistic rage to ensure that you step away from the conversation. They do not have the self-esteem to take accountability for their actions. Someone with narcissism might also engage in gaslighting or silent treatment as other forms of narcissistic abuse. Relationships with narcissists can be toxic and it is time to stop taking blame for the narcissist!

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[rishekmagadh]

They will always blame you and if you try to talk to them regarding the worst act they have done, they will try to confuse you, making you believe that it too happened because of you.

[daniellem]

These ppl will destroy your life trust me!! I ended things with my verbal abusive narcissist ex. And felt so much better. Narcissist don’t want you to be happy it’s ALL ABOUT THEM.

[garycordle]

They won't except the blame, because they think their perfect, they like to shift the blame.👍

[simonkabuye]

They never take the blame nor apologise. They may apologise to keep you quiet but will do it again and will warn you that’s what I don’t get.

[bobbysgirl]

I handled this with a divorce. I regret not doing it a decade earlier. Thanks for this video ❤

[ThePrincessdi]

Don’t try to work it out w them LEAVE THEM!!! In fact RUN!!! trust me they will never change you’ll just become a shadow of your former self from the mental and possibly physical abuse.

[charlesromero]

My wife has these traits she can never admit fault it’s always me and I can accept my faults that’s why I’m at peace with myself and calm with her she is always on edge. Unfortunately we are divorcing I got tired of doing everything and her trying to make me feel like I’m some bad guy when I know I’m not! Thanks 🙏 for this video it helped a lot.

[AZDC]

The key phrase she throws in that's really hard for me and many other victims to accept is, "a sense of superiority." At first it's covertly done to a point where you can't detect it.. and then it comes screaming out of the closet. The words won't say "they're superior (in their sick heads), " but their actions will!

[coolbanda]

After years up abuse. Today i finally said. Goodbye.

[jessmarie]

“Oh so I’m the bad guy. I see where I stand with you and your family. I’m the black sheep” a constant reaction to when I speak up about my feelings

[masterofwit]

On a short vacation right now and my (alcoholic) narc husband lost our car/hotel keys. He had gone to the car to retrieve something and when he came back he was screaming at me about losing the keys. I watched him take the keys out of the cooler, walk to the car and come back to the hot tub. When we got to the room, he was yelling at me about the whereabouts of said keys. I said “you went to the car, you had them last”. Before I could even finish that sentence i was berated. I stayed up on our balcony outside of our room, calmly looking at the ocean waiting for his return, and about 15 mins later I walked down to the room and he was inside. I asked him why he didnt come get me once he found them. He started screaming that it was my fault I lost the keys. It’s literal insanity. He then proceeded to scream (literally so loud that I was convinced someone would call the cops) and berate me for what was most certainly an hour or more. Through the bathroom door as I showered, all throughout his own shower. I locked myself in the bedroom, he came barging in. Idk how he didn’t break the door. He then packed his suitcase, flipped the mattress looking for our car keys (that I hid in my makeup bag on the bed), took them and told me he was leaving me at the hotel (3 hours from home). It turned into a literal wrestling match as I didn’t even have my wallet or money so I wouldn’t have been able to get home. It got very ugly. He left, told me he’s done with me. Long story short, he rented another room at our same hotel (we have two beds and a pull out couch in the room I’m in), and came by this morning to get his bathing suit. When he walked past me, he was so angry screaming yet again that everything was my fault. The literal insanity these demons project is sickening. It’s mentally, emotionally and spiritually draining. It’s soul crushing. I drove around this beach town stopping in at 7 different motels looking for him. For over 2 hours. When I told him that this morning, he again reiterated that it was all my fault that he had to leave and spend money on another hotel room (at the exact same hotel where we booked this trip). He’s gotten physical quite a bit over the last 10 years. Yet l, when I wrestled him for the car keys so as not to be left so far from home with no means of getting back by myself, it was ALL MY FAULT. I’m still sick over all of this. Sitting on the beach alone watching videos reminding me that this will never get better, I am always at fault and will always be to blame. I’ve apologized profusely in the last many years for my own wrong doing, (ie: reacting to his insanity and abuse) but all that has done is empower his thought process and further drills into him that he’s a victim. It’s so horrific and if I had even one iota of financial stability, or someone who would take me in temporarily until I can get on my feet, I’d leave in a heartbeat.

[deeboy]

It's so much worse when the narcissist is in a codependent relationship with you, and no matter how much you want to stop and seek help they remain in denial and you can't even talk to them about it without getting your head bit off and it turned around on you, so the remaining constant misery and when see you in a good mood have to bring you down to their miserable level

[TheColtLockwoodRealm]

Avoid these people AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

[nathantoddy]

to anyone who reads this message just take it from someone who knows stay the hell away from a narcissist they are toxic nothing is good enough for them they will drain you they will not change who they are because to them they are perfect and never at fault it’s never you it’s them don’t blame your self just laugh in your head at what they actually think of themselves even know they are saying it’s you and just take the exit as fast as possible.

[shawnsnow]

I have found it impossible to prevent a narcissist from blameshifting. However, I also possess some of these traits. It's hard to tell who's the narcissist.

[taranimnono]

He always blame me, critizes and make himself a victim to his parents who control him even after 12 years of marriage.

[KAMALAISHERNAME]

My mom just did this today over something so trivial that SHE started. When I called her out for basically just wanting to fight over something so simple, she must've realized that it was in fact HER that addressed the matter starting this whole argument, she quickly turned it back on me dropping F bombs like there was no tomorrow. If she truly felt as tho she did nothing wrong, she wouldn't feel it necessary to go into a rage the way that she did.

[agnetha]

My husband will always project onto someone in the family. It is never his fault, but somehow it's the other person's fault even when that person hasn't done anything wrong. I am so tired of waiting for him to go after one us and have him rage. My PTSD can't handle it.

[hosseinbanana]

I literally came to this video because someone made me look like everything it's my fault and I won't accept it so I thought maybe I am a narcissist person
But with your explanation I just realized he was gaslighting me and I'm not feeling bad anymore
So I just really wanted to say thank you for what your doing ❤️

[kozubart]

Born to TWO parents who constantly did this. My god, it was extremely hard to keep going, to learn about their emotional immaturity, and to break the cycle.