4 Reasons A Narcissist Cannot Cope With You

When you have ongoing exposures with strongly narcissistic individuals, it becomes apparent that they don't know how to blend well, especially as differences arise. Predictably, they will blame you for the relationship's deficiencies, but as Dr. Les Carter explains, the problem is not with you. Narcissists can't cope due to their own lack of insight and wisdom. Their blustery, disruptive behavior is evidence that they are in arrested development.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[lovehonesty]

1. No expansive thinking - need to be dominant person, no room for nuance
2. Low level of self awareness - need to protect their self image, they know everything even when they don’t
3. No conception of teamwork, low sense of curiosity
4. No appreciation for your right to choose, don’t like your freedom


I’m a “survivor” and I approve this message. 🤯

[makeitstop]

It’s so devaluing how they just dismiss you. Like you are a boring entity in their life. They are truly disgusting people

[lucypalsgrove]

I named my car, when I finally got one, Freedom. I drove my Freedom to freedom! 😊

[wzbzfns]

They really do not care.
Only pretend to care, if it is in their best interests.

[HonestyIsAVirtue]

The best way to repel a narc parasite is by setting very strong boundaries.
I'm learning this way too late in my life. But, thank God I get it now.

[edwardspriggs]

Try not to argue, that's who they do to trap you into their chaos. Just slowly not say much and very quietly back them out of your life.

[susanlee]

1. You are not them
2. You are not just like them
3. You do not want to be just like them
4. You could not be them even if you tried

[Adrianafaith]

Please people go no contact it's the only thing that will save your soul...

[richardlandis]

The Narc Is always right. Everyone else is automatically wrong. Thank you everyone for responding. I feel like I can call you friends. Good luck.

[Lemana]

Here are my 4 reasons:
1) I don't put up with his bullshit
2) I set up and stick to my boundaries
3) I remind him to not go over them
4) I do not engage in his tantrums
And last but not least another one:
5) I am being myself, happy and healthy

[michellepetersen]

They cannot cope. Period. Unregulated like 2 year Olds.

[MicheleLHarvey]

fits my situation to a tee.
A 5th Narc descriptive would be, " I'm going to tear you down & once done I'm going to continue hammering until I feel better."

[Prophezora]

Here is how you survive the narcs: you leave them and never look back. The end. No revenge, no outsmarting them, no triggering them...just leave. Lol

[drsheilawall]

As a fellow psychological professional, I can say that Dr. Carter is making difficult concepts more accessible. He is totally on target!

[d.]

The narcissist turns my uniqueness into my "weakness"...bc I am "other" than their strengths...my strengths are disdained and devalued. All your points are spot on!

[larryleker]

I'm done with making myself small to appease and soothe the tiny insecure jerks in my life. Ive no time, and no room for them anymore.

[Grace-ftep]

They cannot cope with anyone they perceive to be one up on them! My narc brother used to make derogatory comments about my 12 year old son because my son is taller than him. He felt threatened by his own kid nephew. When I was a child and my father complimented my art work, my narc mother would sulk and say "I can do better". They are extremely insecure and emotionally immature.

[sophial.]

I feel sick just listening to this.
Their total lack of consideration for others is pure evil, whether deliberate or not.
They need to be treated as pariahs.

[YouilAushana]

You think the narcissist is a normal person with issues. Then, you start to see too many coincidences for this to be healthy behavior

[laurajane]

OMG, I burst out laughing when you said, "It's not like you're going to have a brainstorming session with them." Pondering the hillarious idea and impending impossibility of such an attempt had me in hysterics. Thank you, Dr. Carter, I needed that!!