HOW TO HEAL ABANDONMENT FEARS BY CHANGING THESE 10 COMPULSIVE RESPONSES

This video explores our fears of abandonment as they may have developed in childhood, and describes 10 compulsive responses we often engage in to deal with our deep abandonment fears and issues, and what you can do to start working on healing your CPTSD related abandonment wounds.

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[hilarypowers]

My fear of abandonment makes me plan my escape if I feel any slight rejection/withdrawal from my partner. So painful and confusing

[MissBluebirddays]

It feels so cruel that the ones severely neglected in childhood have the hardest time finding secure love as adults 😢

[Ana-wtxf]

What breaks my heart is seeing that this video has thousands of views. Whoever is out there needing to watch this, deserves a medal, you have survived, you still have the strength to reach out for help. Whoever you are, I love you, you're worthy of LOVE you were worthy of it since you were born, you don't have to do anything to deserve it. Keep going, keep the faith, you'll get there eventually, you will be happy and you will embrace and enjoy the love and bliss you so rightfully deserve. I love you❤😘

[Sudha]

1. Compulsive shame
2. Compulsive caretaking, people pleasing
3. Compulsive self reliance
4. Compulsive numbing
5. Compulsive perfectionism
6. Compulsive relationships
7. Compulsive dissociation/daydreaming
8. Compulsive distrust
9. Compulsive self-disregulation - staying stuck in survival mode
10. Compulsive hypervigilance

[emelie]

"you didnt choose that childhood, its not your fault" Powerful, thank you

[TheBlairWenchProject]

_I just turned 40 and realized I suffer from abandonment issues. And I lose it completely when anyone tries to leave. Working on this. Praying for us all._

[MacyPooh]

I get very attached to people and don’t want them to leave and if they do I believe it’s my fault. I always say “well if I were better, smaller, prettier, etc., they would stay” and it’s a vicious cycle.

[mammybelle]

I daydreamed my life away. Started as a child and still do. Diagnosed with ADHD at 49. Made perfect sense.

[noremac]

The pain of abandonment and rejection destroys me like nothing else.

[analyseadams]

My fear of abandonment has been so intense that I have avoided all romantic situations for the fear of losing them. I really appreciate you sharing this video as I have recently decided to break that pattern.

[misskuni]

Im so ready to grow out of this fear of rejection and abandonment. It bleeds into my life in ways that do not serve me anymore.

[charchar]

I did so many years of healing on myself and then got into a relationship that was the most unsafe and toxic ever. At this point I don’t even want to heal anymore, I just want to stay away from all people and not share myself with the world. I am so consumed with shame and self hatred that I don’t want anyone to see me.

[anne]

Wow i cried when you said: if I'm being perfect I won't be left alone this time. This is exactly what i think every time with everyone and it consumes me because i know i can't ever reach perfection. 😢

[dsophie]

Compulsive shame
Compulsive Care Taking
Compulsive Self Reliance
Compulsive Perfectionism
Compulsive relationships
Compulsive maladaptive daydreaming
Compulsive distrust
Compulsive dysregulation
Compulsive Hypervigilance

[BecomeConsciousNow]

Yes. I've been single pretty much my entire life through fear of abandonment and not being enough. I would only ever entertain a relationship if I was 100% in love with that person but when I do feel 100% attracted to someone I get extremely dysregulated and avoid them like the plague. Ahh..the Joy's of a traumatic childhood. I am very spiritual, no doubt because of my trauma filled childhood, and I know I am already whole and perfect. I'm trying my best to be my true essence of love, peace and joy and connect with my consciousness. I wish everyone peace, love and joy.

[Johnnystiletto-riht]

Had an abusive father and alcoholic mother... found weight lifting, pilates and martial arts training helped me in many ways...

[madeleinequinn]

I cried the whole way through, that was my life and I'm still suffering at 51 😢

[blueskygal]

"You had no safe space to develop yourself" really resonates for me and how that impacts me now struggling to develop my artistic self. Thankyou Dr Kim ❤

[catherinewilson]

Thank you for this video❣️You have taught me at least two new things. 1. That I abandoned myself for most of my 70 years. 2. That I have a very hard time just “being” instead of “doing”. The main problem for me now is that I am learning all of these things in my retirement years when both the physical and mental body are on the decline. I don’t think I will EVER feel that I will NOT be abandoned. It has happened many times already. Once by my birth mother, once by my adoptive mother, and once by my daughter. (I won’t count the men in my life) But if I can help it, I will never again abandon myself.

[skippress]

Stop abandoning yourself is beautiful. You're a godsend, thank you;