EP 54: Healing Abandonment Issues

Dr. Thema describes the causes and signs of abandonment issues and then gives practical tips to heal.

[callmeahshuh]

Girl i am in TEARS and I’m not even finished listening to this. I was never able to truly identify this until now. I know it’s time to heal these wounds. Thank you.

[jamaicanbrowntone]

Wow😭😭 with my abandonment issues being thrown away as a baby and later adopted. To being this woman and mom that attract men and Friends with abandonment issues as well. The problem with me no matter how bad people treat me I can't find it in my heart to hate them. I will still do for them despite of what they did to me. I pray and ask God why my heart won't grow hard and cold. In fact my heart gets bigger and warmer not sure of my purpose in life but I stand here with a lot of war wounds that needs healing

[untothewhirlwind]

This week I settled on this being my issue. Today I am researching this TOPIC.

[melanatedone]

My dad was in the military's so we moved ALOT. I was the oldest and my mom's assistant.
I wasn't built for that life.

[ollietheartist]

I’m glad I took my time with this one. I hadn’t realized how much this was a pattern in my life.

[rebecca]

Your voice sounds so compassionate and kind and I find it really soothing.

[jabeth]

Oh my heart ❤️ is weeping and crying 😢. Please keep teaching so we can heal. I’m running out of time to get this right!

[crymeariver.]

wow, something you said in this video really hit me hard. I always complained of how I only ever attract superficial relationships, without realizing I’m keeping most of these relationships superficial.

[feelthebriez]

I’m on a healing journey mentally, physically and spiritually and this helped me ALOT on understanding my abandonment issues. Thank you Queen 🙏🏽

[estheruthh]

I appreciate this video/podcast so much. Growing up my relationship with my dad was very unstable and my mom would work 3-4 jobs at a time to keep us above water. So during this podcast I went back to the memory of my mom trying to drop me off at school in the morning and this paralyzing fear overwhelming my body and I would cry and beg for her not to leave. As an adult I can now see how this has affected many of my relationships now. I appreciate this conversation so much and really considering looking into therapy to make real change in my life. ❤️👏🏼❤️👏🏼❤️

[conswaylacarter]

I can’t even find the words to explain how much this has blessed me 🥹 I am tired of allowing this wound to keep me in painful cycles!! Thank you so much for this message 🧡

[Tutume]

I struggle with abandoment a lot.Starting from my mum leaving me when I was young to the men who left unexpectedly when I was the most emotionally engaged in those relationships

[Positivevibes]

This was amazing. I grew up without my dad and I see abandonment issues as I get into relationships.

[her.thecreole]

this had me in TEARS! I felt so heard and seen. thank you so much for this. this was healing in itself.

[mahlatseledwaba]

Thank you, this triggered so much in me 😭

[kenediii_ryan]

I'm 47 and feel like I'll never get past this 😪 I try so hard, but so much of it is unconscious behaviour. I've started to tell myself that I know I'll be alone, and I'm not meant to be loved. It just wasn't the way my life was meant to be.

[varnishyourboard]

Great information. First real relationship at 44. Never felt worthy of one (dead-end jobs). Her finally dumping me because of it has been the most devestsated I've ever felt and that's saying a lot. In therapy and read dozens of books in the last few months. Seeing her with my replacement has been a huge setback but I'm more motivated than ever to quit underachieving in life. That's a positive out of all of this.

[_InfiniteAscension]

We were separated from our mother due to her alcohol and drug problems and slung into foster care 3 different homes up to the point of adoption until our family came and got us took us south. This was the move until my mother passed the programs to get us back which she kept failing bc of her habits severity. My dad also went to prison for murder but it was self defense never met him til I was 12 and he came at me like an angry mad man. Mom got us back participating in compliance instead of true healing only to continue doing the same thing but we were around family this time and we were somewhat older and we’re able to take care of ourselves to a point. This video is really lifting something off of me and lifting me up at the same time I really needed this. We were poor and it was 9 of us this life is movie and book worthy. Thank you so much 🙏🏾 You have no idea how this greatly this changes paradigms. I listened to this 3 times on my 3rd now. Thank you again!

[brookekearney]

Girl when I tell you, you read my whole entire life throughout this whole video. I'm so broken stuff this really helped

[Divineblk]

I went through depression, anxiety, Social anxiety, social awkwardness, low self-esteem, abandoned by my father as a baby (he was married), covert narcissistic mother who appears as a good Christian woman but really is emotionally and mentally neglectful to her kids. I overcame so much, and I truly thank you for this advice. I definitely want to be in therapy, but it is just not in my budget. I use videos on YouTube to gain an understanding of my trauma and work through it as I heal. This is definitely one that I will save when I need some advice.🤎