Healing Abandonment Issues and the Fear of Being Alone

Healing Abandonment Issues and the Fear of Being Alone. Abandonment issues are extremely painful and get in the way of having healthy relationships and healthy self-esteem. Learn what abandonment issues look like so you can heal them. #abandonmentissues #abandonment #abandoned

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00:00 Introduction
00:22 Two forms of abandonment issues
00:49 What is emotional abandonment?
01:28 What causes someone to abandon their children?
02:24 How do you know if you have abandonment issues?
03:16 You stay in abusive relationships
04:11 How does being abandoned impacts us as adults?
05:59 How do heal from abandonment issues?

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Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management, specialist. She’s been featured in The Daily Positive, BossMom, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, and Your Tango just to name a few. Her relationship recovery helps people go from relationships that don’t serve them, to learning how to trust themselves and create mutually satisfying connections that work. Michelle loves creating online products and courses on relationship skills, codependency recovery, anger management, conflict resolution, self-esteem, and self-trust.

[deborahwolff]

I've had relationships when the guy would never show up or stand up. I refused to wait, I would just get in my car and take off. I felt so much better!

[tammyb]

Hi, New subscriber here and I think your content is great. I've been binge watching your episodes.

I'm 49 and found out in the last year I'm codependent lol (from a therapist client of mine) so I've been working on that for the past year. I should probably really do in-person therapy but haven't gotten there yet. Anyhoo, I definitely have severe abandonment, etc, issues (I had a traumatic childhood) but I don't do the clingy I do the exact opposite where I will just drop someone and not talk to them again. ever. And it's not like they're trying to contact me and I'm not available it's that I stop communicating with them and I never hear from them again and so I figure I must have been right which I don't know if that's true or not. Therefore I have a hard time with reciprocity in friendships because I have to weigh how much I'm giving and just recently I had a DOH 🤦 moment when I realized l was giving too much in a friendship and kinda of got lost in it and I had to pull back and again the person didn't reciprocate so it gave me that panicky feeling but instead of following up with them, I went radio silent.
Oddly, me stating this is progress because I'm at least aware of it and how I reacted and I caught it quickly. (I also did reach out to my friend again but will detach a little.)

This is a novel, thank you for letting me share.

[michaelforbes]

I am really grateful to you. A new journey just started for my wife and me today as we separated. A very hard thing for both of us and yes I feel abandoned. Heck, even the dog is gone. I have shared some of what I have seen in your videos with my therapist and am certainly going to be talking about this one because I have one scared child in me. The dialogue exercise will be interesting to try once I get a journal. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :)

[suef]

I found this fascinating! When I look back at previous relationships and that need to connect quickly this describes me to a T. I got involved far too quickly and ignored the big red flags just to fill that void. Looking back at my family of origin my mother had been abandoned at the age of 7 and she hated being alone for as long as I can remember. Us kids, especially me as I was the oldest, were conditioned to put mum first and our needs were either non existent or put on the back burner. It's taken me a long time to change these patterns of being enmeshed with another and it's definitely a work in progress. Thanks Michelle.

[cassivolkwyn]

Coming from parents of father being killed when I was a child and mother who died from alcoholism and anorexia as a young adult. I have not been in a relationship for decades for fear of failure. I am a recovered alcoholic but while in addiction, my children were taken away from me.
I struggle with finances no matter how hard I work. Currently, I have developed health issues. I feel that my body is abandoning me. I have been in therapy for so many years but it hasn’t helped. They did medicate me but I felt it wasn’t helping. Felt more numb than I do without medication.
I’m practicing meditation and yoga. I’m trying self help inner work. But I sense that I’m self sabotaging . Is there hope for me out there?

[JC]

I have monophobia and agoraphobia with panic disorder. Is this due to abandonment?

[matthewjahnke]

it's not the fear of being alone (or left out) by family, it's due to society. I know I've got a pretty good anchor, but once I'm actually alone, meaning, not able to find a partner, to find a wife, or girlfriend. what then?

[joshsaundh]

Hi Michelle what should I do can you please help me because my girlfriend has not texted me since last Wednesday and I feel like I did something wrong or I feel like my girlfriend is sick so should I keep texting my girlfriend or give my girlfriend space and let my girlfriend text me and if I do not text my girlfriend do you think my girlfriend will miss me please help thanks 🙏

[deborahwolff]

My mother used to walk away when ahe didn't know what to say