How to stop fear of abandonment: #1 REAL CAUSE OF FEAR REVEALED

Overcoming Fear of Abandonment - the root cause revealed so we can heal the root instead of endlessly fighting the symptoms.

Only when we know the real cause, we can heal the root and there for automatically liberate ourselves from every other FEAR OF ABANDONMENT-symptoms too, like jealousy, feeling powerless, moodiness, feeling dependant, feeling a victim, having a bad temper, feeling lonely, having relational problems etc.
Only if we know what the real root of the problem is, we will know how we can STOP OUR FEAR OF ABANDONMENT completely and for once and for all.
FEAR OF ABANDONMENT comes down to FEAR, fear for feeling what we would feel, without any distraction when we would be left alone with ourselves.
To end the root of the problem together with all it symptoms for once and for all, and there for to shine the light onto our ‘dark’ FEAR, I came up with a drawing to show you.

[cindyalfaro]

This is a life changing video. Loved how you explained it on the board.

[asstanley]

Good advice. This reminds me of other advice ''Sit with the discomfort''. I read that once. It helped me. It's not easy to just sit there with the anxieties and refuse to work or work out or drink. But let the anxieties pass through you at their own rate. And each time, they come back for another round, you feel their effect less.

[PerrySkyePhoenix]

I think my fear of abandonment has more to do with fear of rejection. I don't have a fear of being by myself. I'm most often alone and I'm most comfortable being by myself.

[Lilredjeanie]

Understanding this has been the most significant enlightement in my life as a person coming from a very unhealthy background with strong traumas of abuse, neglect and abandonment. But it is actually possible to heal. To become the parent to yourself who can sit and give space to all the pain and discomfort and through that reach the peace and wisdom of the true self. It feels amazing to finally little by little start to live your OWN life. To be yourself. To create. To focus. To boost the energy rather than draining it. Level up from survival and distractions to consciousness and being present. You explained it all so well and clear, thank you.

[moonlookingforthesun]

You realize you have trouble feeling your real emotions when it takes you one day to watch the whole video lol

[Rebecca-vtrp]

This has really changed my outlook on life. I always find myself coming back to this video and realising I'm going back to that list of trying to distract myself from feeling pain.

[darwinreantaso]

Wow this is an eye opener for me! I never knew that my restlessness and anxieties are the actual manifestation of me experiencing pain! I definitely want to get rid of this fear forever!

[basicbase]

I have been looking for a relationship to feel secure but ironically my abandonment issues are backfiring my whole effort. I have realized I need to fix my abandonment fears before I can even imagine of being in a healthy relationship

[geenejames]

The moment you started drawing and explained why we want to have controll in our lives, tears started rolling down my cheeks. I knew it right away that you are speaking from and to my heart. That you were speaking (my) truth, if you whish. I can't wait to see your other videos. Thank you for sharing this one!!! I trully appreciate it. You brought great relief to me.

[susanasierra]

Ted talk worthy! Thank you! It is so moving to see a guy in touch with his emotions. This is the ultimate courage, not the silly "men don't cry", "don't talk about feelings" bullshit. Absolutely inspiring! Imagine what the world would look like, our relationships, if each of us worked through out pain. The only way out will always be through!

[jaclyncopeland]

God has not given us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power and a sound mind. I don"t know the verse but I know its there.

[mirellaxyz]

This should be a TED talk :) VERY inspiring and true

[georginarandolphgirl]

This makes so much sense. Years ago I was working 2 jobs and taking care of everyone but myself and after having a full hysterectomy I plummeted into major depression and developed an anxiety disorder and the fears that I have on a daily basis are the ones I had as a child that never got dealt with and the trauma from abuse. I use to push myself through the feelings by being busy and now I don't feel like doing much of anything even good and fun things.

[Hhzaer]

This is so far one of the best explanations I have come across

[EBM_Worldwide]

great video - the secret - create and do things from a good place without attachment to outcomes. do your own thing, live your own life pleasurably and on your own terms. be apart of something you want to be apart of... my understanding is not complete but thats what i get

[princessconsuelamanyfaces]

spoiler: he's not actually gonna tell you how.

[madmanmoz]

Im a pisces and its in my nature to be emotional and wanting that real connection with everyone not just my partner.. I do have fear of everyone leaving me. Just last night I had a conversation with my partner abiut my insecurities, she reasurred me everything was fine and instantly I felt assured and relaxed. But being a pisces I also read in-between the lines so im always pulling and pushing within my own thoughts from my experience and abandonment from a baby. Im here because I need to change the thoughts I have in my head. Good luck every

[savysteeven]

Your explanations are crystal clear and are immediately understood intellectually and emotionally as well. Keep it up, great job

[TheIllerX]

Yes, of course it would be nice to let go of the fear of abandonment, but just saying you should let it go does not make it go.
This video tells you nothing at all how to stop it, but just refers to a blog at the end.

[madforsweet]

This creator is a genius. Never understood why I feel this all this time.