Abandonment Issues: Signs, Causes & How to Overcome

Do you have a fear of being abandoned? Abandonment issues involve a deep fear of being hurt, rejected, or abandoned. Fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety that often develops in response to specific painful or traumatic experiences like childhood abuse, neglect, or the loss of a loved one. Abandonment issues are closely linked to insecure attachment styles which are characterized by difficulty forming close, stable relationships with others. In today's video, we've partnered up with Choosing Therapy to help you learn more about the signs and causes of abandonment issues and how to overcome fear of abandonment.



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[bunille]

Not wanting someone you love to leave is normal, but when you will do everything, even damage your own health, to stick around horrible people just because you don't want to be alone, then that's the real problem.

[Talkinglife]

always wanting to please others (being a “people pleaser”)
giving too much in relationships.
an inability to trust others.
pushing others away to avoid rejection.
feeling insecure in romantic partnerships and friendships.
codependency.

[wisdomsparkproductions]

The one thing I fear most in life is loneliness and emptiness. Its like going through life, except you're already dead.

[apoorva]

I may have abandonment issues, I'm always scared that everyone one day will get sick of me and just leave me, including my parents. That is why i don't trust or rely on anyone, because of this exact reason.

[MentorMyLife]

Solving abandonment issues is one of the most difficult things anyone can do. I believe that one of the best ways to do this is to find a purpose for living. If you develop a life purpose then you will be more ok with being alone. When something happens to you, or if someone leaves you, if you have your purpose for life then you will be ok. Stay strong folks ❤️

[paulgavin]

The thing I found about abandonment, is that feeling of abandonment never really goes away no matter what happens in life whether it's good or bad . Always looking for someone or something to fill that void but always still feeling there's something missing

[joonbee]

how convenient, my mother is getting back together with my abusive step father and leaving me behind. this video outta make me feel better ☺️🍿

[amyhays]

Fear of Abandonment isn't always caused by a parent or a family member sometimes it's caused by "friends" in people outside your family😕

[sammy]

I can’t afford therapy but this is becoming such an issue for me. I hate being alone and I’ll do anything I can to stop people leaving even when they aren’t good for me.

[brycebradleywhite]

That “Is there something wrong with me”? really resonates with me...

[haisesasaki]

To all Borderline and/or Avoidant people like me, you're so beautiful and I wish you get better. ❤

[t.z.b]

Hello to all the people who are currently going through abandonment issues! I hope you'll get better, i know it's hard right now, and it hurts alot, but i believe you can do it! I wish you luck on your journey to healing, i know it will take awhile, but i know that it will be worth it, just hold on tight, we'll get through this together. :)❤

[yoongis.tangerine]

when i was 3 i remember crying every night when my parents left me with my grand parents for a whole year. i remember the feeling of unfamiliarity and extreme fear that they may not come back for me. growing up, i understood that they did that to make a living, but up until today, i still feel the same fear everytime someone leaves

[loddia.]

As a foster child that experienced neglect and abuse, it is almost comforting to get confirmation that I have abandonment issue. Everything that was said was true. This channel means so much to me. I am currently unable to afford a therapist but I realize a lot about myself with your videos that help me better my relationships with friends family and myself. Thank you so much.

P.S. does anyone else get sad when they see the little leaf character bruised and beat up 😅?

[RosheenQuynh]

😭💔 I hate that this is my main issue... I hate the loneliness, the emptiness, the depression, the fear, the anger, the mistrust, the too much trust, the wrong people, the everything...

[AmberWoodMusicx]

I think these issues can be worse if you have a sibling and both have issues and closely look at the balance of attention given

[Sagee]

upload date: valentine’s day
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[AarenHuang]

Fear of abandonment is a big one for me. My ex-boyfriend used to leave unexpectedly when he was upset, and that really bothered me. Thanks for your channel, it's helped inspire me for my animation channel as well!

[euniceong]

My parents were always suddenly cold or warm and pretty narcissistic. Treatment given was based on my grades where they neglect and go cold towards me when i had bad grades, and showing off to their peers when i had good grades. I got cheated on 4 times in my first relationship which was toxic. Everytime when i think of relationships, i get so anxious and want to withdraw and hide. I'm so scared that people will abandon me over small issues like not pleasing them... I know it's wrong but I'm always anxious and stressed out over it. So much that i can't show my true self

[ariel]

As a kid, I've always had this fear that people close to me will leave me. Looking back, I couldn't understand why I had that fear. Seeing this video makes me understand that fear more.