2 Steps to NOT Reacting and Keep Emotional Control

Navigating the complexities of life without succumbing to knee-jerk reactions is a skill that can transform your personal and professional relationships. In this episode, we'll uncover two pivotal steps to maintain emotional control and respond thoughtfully to situations that would typically trigger an automatic reaction. By mastering these techniques, you'll empower yourself to handle life's challenges with grace and composure, ensuring that your responses align with the person you aspire to be. Tune in to learn how to stay centered, make intentional choices, and lead a more deliberate and fulfilling life.

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⭐Rebecca Zung is a globally sought after expert in the art of negotiation and high conflict communication.

Speaking on platforms worldwide, she is also a bestselling author of several books including the USA Today National Bestselling book SLAY the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win and she’s a YouTube celebrity (more than 40 million views in just 3 years).

She’s also the founder of the proprietary SLAY® Method of negotiating with narcissists and her programs have transformed thousands of lives in more than 100 countries and on every continent.

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[julianndavis]

I can do it!
My therapist taught me “Remember he’s not a person. He’s a disorder.”
Helps me remember how to stay calm.

[triciakwatson]

I got this!!! Not falling into the BS any more!

[anthonyleveille]

Saying, "I see what you are doing" "I see your desperately needing a reaction" actually gets those narcissist upset. In my case they get more obnoxious, they use noise harassment (meaning the illegally watch me and wait until im done doing something to slam car door or resort to some type of noise making" to harass me so the noise they use will get louder. And occurring more frequent. They also behave this way when I'm not showing any emotions to their repeated annoyance.

[patjones]

Great tips. Thanks. I am no contact since 2021, I left in 2020. You give great advice.

[s_coral]

Yes! 100%. All of this is exactly right. They really do make it their mission to bait you. That is very clear. They have a hard time regulating their own feelings/emotions-they want to see you become unhinged. I have had a narcissist bait me, I remain quiet, watch them, set a boundary. I’ve walked away from them calmly and have had them follow me in rage still attempting to pick a fight with me after I disengaged. It’s almost like validating and putting that pacifier in their mouth so to speak soothes them. It saves you the headache and tension. Getting to a quiet space, even just getting in the car and going for a drive to get relief. I agree with you so much though. You have to hit that pause button. View it for what it is, assess and keep control of your own emotions. Ground yourself, hold onto your peace because they are looking to gain it. I have found if I feel rattled I always ask are you ok? The questions do kind of give you a moment to disengage. Ive also sat calmly watching them unleash and then them becoming disappointed/angry that I sat and stared at them blankly while they are throwing a tantrum. Its very bizarre and uncomfortable. Its better to follow the tactics though because otherwise you become entangled and don’t feel well yourself.

[goodvibes.]

Thank you. I will need this next week when I see my brother

[janetcarrier]

I love listening to this intelligent charismatic woman talk. Very interesting and makes really good sense. Very high quality teaching. Thank you.

[lizbunya]

Thank you Rebecca!I have been No Contact for 2 years now. My elderly Edad is calling and wanting time. My Nmom is a hard NO.
I needed to hear all of this in order to process whether or not I meet up ...❤

[donnalouisewood]

I have not given my ex narcissist a reaction after we split up and he didn’t know what to do with himself it was so empowering to watch his reaction to it

[JennC]

Ya, been there this is beyond bigger then ever before.

[mercymirror]

Don't reward them for treating you badly.

[maggiesalle]

I know what it is like!! I Can Do This!!!

[triciakwatson]

Had a scenario was assisting my great grandson getting him a drink of water and my granddaughter who happened to walk in and piped up telling me she was his mother (mind you she had been breast feeding her 4 month old) and I said yes, you are and I am your grandmother and his great grandmother. Like I did not know she was his mother!

[cheribarnett]

I finally started taking up for myself and staying what's pn my mind.. but then sometimes it seems like it makes me want me even more when I do do that I'm pretty sure that I'm not in love with my narcissist I'm in love or infatuated with the idea of him being my dead husband's brother and I've learned this stuff knowing I know what's going on I just can't let it go and I learned all this stuff in the last 6 months watching you

[Koriynne]

I know, I've been there with such high conflict individual!

[dimondDave]

In the past i don't get worked up or no rasing heart at all i am very calm with solid thoughts on things. I will not get involved in their problems. It is their problem not mine. I do like to step back from the situation or a pattern they are doing then i act with thought

[cheribarnett]

I've been trying to do that and it's not working

[erikawithee]

He set me up it all already happened n I am coming for justice