2 Steps to NOT Reacting | Emotional Control

There are two things that you MUST do so you are no longer emotionally charged when you are around this person. Today we are going to get into what those two things are. I want you to understand that staying calm in these situations can absolutely be done, it just takes knowledge, self-awareness, and being mindful.

Let’s stop doing what you’ve always done, which is let your emotions get the best of you. I know you don’t want to do that, and I know you can do it… it just takes practice!

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[devinl]

"What they do to you has nothing to do with you."
Totally going to keep this wisdom to help me care for myself.

[edgreen]

Observe don't absorb. Don't react.

[lajimolala]

Silent, smile, then leave. Even if you cant leave, just keep yourself with you.

[praizzzeee]

1. Taking full responsibility of how you feel: disengage from a conversation when you’re unable to control how you feel.
2. Whatever anybody is doing to trigger you has a lot to do with them and not you.❤❤

[JohnSmith-wons]

Our reactions are their oxygen. Its hard but zip your lip smile and walk away.

[jimzucker]

after so much childhood abuse and conditioning, after 15 years with narcs, so much people pleasing. after all that, when i finally got it and i understood what i was doing wrong, self regulations, don't take thing personally and becoming non reactive became my biggest challenge in life at 41. I wish i could be 20 again now by knowing all this.

[carolsummers]

My husband would come home and immediately begin picking fault. He would pick up things and throw them. I was always baffled and the kids and I walked on eggshells. I could never please him. Then after 30 years he divorced me saying I was too critical and not a good Christian wife. It took years of therapy for me to accept he is a narcissist and it was never me.

[Pacifica]

People are showing us who they are. But the way we idealize them gets in the way.

[victoriavitoroulis]

I never realised the phrase Silence is Golden.. till I met a couple of toxics narcs . 😵‍💫

[cintroberts]

After 26 years in law enforcement I have mastered this. I just don't take anything personally and I have found a deep passionate feelings for my hobbies.

[foolbritannia]

Hard to do at critical moments but I always keep repeating to myself the mantra ‘ I don’t have to go to every drama I’m invited to’ - Think! Be the observer of a situation not the participant. Practice emotional detachment after all does a tree need a bird to come? or even stay? Stand in your own power rather than give it away to someone **** em! … 😮

[JoJo-xofh]

My responsibility!! Own It!! Disengage! Distancing Myself from Situation!! It’s My Job to Own my Reactions!!❤️

[ZenZone-lifr]

I privately thank God for revealing this person's true identity and I choose not to react or respond.

[elli]

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT ALL THEY WANT IS TO CONTROL YOU. DON'T EVEN REACT TO THEIR NONSENSE. YOUR ADVISE CONFIRMED. APPRECIATE VIDEO.

[shavonnehamilton]

This just happened to me something happened earlier in the day with one of my in-laws and my gut and first thought was to stay home … I ended up going anyway and exploding !! The day was terrible but your body is set up to protect you never ignore your feelings when you feel that something is wrong always listen to your first thought it’s a protection. If something feels off it’s because it is.

[ginasmitasin]

I observed my younger sister getting off on getting me to lose my shit completely when I’d do something kind for her and she’d treat me and mine like we were trying to steal from her. I finally instead of being insulted would turn it around and very clearly explain to her that she was blaming me instead of taking responsibility for her own actions. She was in school for marriage and family therapy at the time. After decades of putting up with her manipulation and gossip I cut her out in 2016, never felt better. She was always loud, obnoxious, self centered and opinionated and I don’t have to put up with it anymore just because we are related.

[anonomous]

It makes it more difficult when you know what gaslighting and word salads are. When you recognize it and it is a spiritual battle (Jezabel), all you can do it do your best to cut them off completely. I'm not in or interested in any type of romantic relationship, but still get this manipulative behavior or others trying to lift themselves up by putting me down. I'm sorry for others going through this. It's awful that think they can take the freedoms of others to give pleasure to themselves.

[cynthiawarren]

My brother and sister trigger me; I limit contact and I set boundaries.

[mihneapopa]

In fact, I think more often we’re not actually triggered by the person but by the interraction. Empaths tend to intuitively feel the orher person’s feeling . I think it’s some kind of mirroring

[sadderandwiser]

I have to live with a narcissistic parent and when I am triggered, I have tried counting to 3. And just by giving myself a little bit of time to breathe, I find that by the time I say three in my head, I no longer even want or need to to respond to that person. I'm just learning this habit though, so I write "count to 3" on the back of my hand to help me remember to do this. I hope this helps someone ❤️. It's so hard.