What causes Avoidant Attachment?

#avoidantattachment #attachment #drkimsage

[bleh]

It usually happens to me in the begging of relationships- I crave love so much but at the first sign of conflict i recoil into myself and detach. It’s a constant battle.

[jackwilcox]

Thank you so much for this. I’m one of these people, and I’m working very hard in my healing. Thank you for your encouragement.

[timothypoling]

Dr Kim, I began to ball my eyes out when listening to this. Also feeling pressure and tension in my chest or around the heart chakra. I have been watching your videos and they absolutely drill down to exactly what has and is happening to me. You tell me I can change but I have no idea where to start.

[armyoftwo]

I a DA. Going to therapy and reading some books. I don’t want to make my wife feel alone anymore

[johnjohnstone]

I Think I Might Have A P.H.D In Appearing O.K.

[jicdove]

These people never change. I married one and mother is one as well. They are aware of how their avoidance hurts the other person, but because the other person is doing the chasing they don’t feel the urgency to change.

[abbyshelley]

Woof I definitely feel called out. Literally just saying a have a problem and I’m sad constantly is like pulling out teeth.

[DEADDOLO]

I’m hear to Learn. is this a less desirable style? Does the avoidant attachment person NEED to heal? Or do all people develop styles naturally?

[naga]

These people require that a person be a monk and have a PhD in psychology just to know them.

[AlastorSanchez-is]

Exactly. I don't know why this happened though, I had supportive parents and basically supportive siblings, how the hell did it happen though?

[Getit_gotit_good]

Hmm… and I how do we know this is an actual causal link and not Barnum effect?

[whit]

I love him and I know it's not all intentional, but I just can't be responsible for the whole fucking relationship. I'm fucking tired.

[alchemical.fitness]

Not sure if it sounds like me or I'm just falling prey to confirmation bias

[ingeborgswieten]

The blue butterfly can go if u ask me 😣