Abandonment Issues | The Signs

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In this video, Grace Smith, an expert in overcoming mental & emotional blocks discusses the three signs someone has fear of abandonment.

Fear of abandonment is a very common symptom of borderline personality disorder AKA BPD. Even if someone is not diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or another specific mental illness, a hidden fear of abandonment can still impact their emotions, thoughts, behavior, and relationships.

Topics:
00:00 Intro
00:24 How fear of abandonment secretly impacts you
01:12 The subconscious brain: what you need to know
02:18 1. Quickness to move on in relationships
03:35 2. Separation anxiety
06:06 3. Feeling insecure & unworthy of love

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[Gigiravioli]

1. Quickness to move on in relationships
2. Separation anxiety
3. Feeling insecure and unworthy of love

[yoramalon]

Excellent film.
There is another factor that can contribute to fear of abandonment/fear of loss.
A person that suffered repeated loss of every person he ever loved, would reason to himself, that loving someone would grant its loss/abandonment.
Worse, he might blame himself.
If i love it, it would be gone.

[suelizmungai]

I don't have fear of abandonment but my take away from this is that I'm worthy and deserving of feeling my best! 💜 needed to hear that😊

[alla]

I’m crying when you say I am not worthy of love which is how I feel in subconscious mind thank you❤️

[openmindz]

I live with fear of abandonment. I can remember in very early years of my life being sexually abused by family members. It lasted until I got away at age 19. I still have it. I wish I could rewire my brain. I've been diagnosed with PTSD.
I don't love myself very often.

[Visionery]

I don't have an abandonment issue, but having grown up in a family where money (or rather the lack thereof) was a constant issue, my biggest fear is ending up in similar circumstances. I'm self-employed and start getting anxious when my bank balance drops to a certain point.

[kathymiller]

I suffer horribly with abandonment. I have a lot of trouble being the age I am with having this fear. Always happened as a little girl thru adult with the people who should have taken care of me. Dad was just gone over and over. We were left with a deeply abusive mom. So she would leave us, as kids, we kept it quiet, still taking on adult chores, it was terrifying . Mom blamed my sister and I for her leaving us. I held that in my whole life. My parents continue to just leave us, my husband followed that just leaving me and my kids. I did everything with my kids. I didn’t follow them with my kids. Obviously there was verbal and physical abuse and all three of those relationships. I can’t find help for that Extreme emotions physical reactions to being abandoned. I make it my fault, but my physical and mental health have gotten so poor, I need help

[pinstripesuitandheels]

When I was about 16 or 18 months, my mum was on holiday with my siblings and I at the seaside. Dad was working as usual. I suddenly developed a high fever that couldn't come down and started convulsing. They took me to the ER, where doctors concluded I had meningitis and had to be quarantined. My mother was not allowed to visit me, she could only look at me through a glass barrier. I received food, medication, and basic hygiene and that was it. Nobody held me, nobody played with me, nobody comforted me een outside of basic care by nurses, I was left alone in an empty room. My mother said I started to refuse food, sat motionless with a blank stare, and a nurse even told her to take me home because I was wasting away. After a week or so they figured out it wasn't meningitis and I was allowed to go home. My mum says that since then I was a different child, and I refused to to sleep night. I remember refusing to go to sleep as a toddler and older child. I've talked about it with my therapist, and I think it's likely that I developed separation anxiety at that point.
Well, that and an absent and agressive father, a psycho grandfather who hated and bullied me, a mother who suddenly became very ill, and basically the loss of an important parental figure when the eldest moved out when I was eleven, the severe bullying and loneliness as a child. I even wonder if my dissociation disorder could be linked to that first important traumatic experience.

[milenaseymour]

I know I have a couple of these abandonment issues . Not surprised I know there were key issues /programs I picked up from my parents . Things they said and did effected me deeply even into late adulthood . But they were also very loving and supportive in other ways . It’s so interesting how much we pick up in childhood . But regardless I think everyone is doing the best job that they can with the resources available to them at the time (their parents, caregivers, social influences they were influenced by). The subconscious mind is a fascinating topic! Thank u for the great video! I believe our souls r here to learn more and more throughout each lifetime . Even struggles, hardships, childhood influences can teach a person many important lessons .

[missindependentwife]

Self love and confidence is the needed key … thank you and so needed this confirmation today three times a charm🌬✌🏽🙏🏽

[MinaBlak]

Thank you for this video, I really needed to be reminded of this! 💓

[yukio_saito]

03:35 2. Separation anxiety

My ex-coworker had a strong fear of abandonment. He assumed another coworker was going to be gone so he made everyone else confused. He was so toxic and I think he had both traits of narcissist and borderline personality.

[rickyfactz]

I didn’t know i had these issues until i got in the relationship with my ex. hit me out of nowhere and when she ended it, it was like all my fears had came true. i probably self sabotaged a lot of it. but bouncing back for me isn’t as easy as it is for her. co dependency, and abandonment issues definitely make things harder.

[boostmobile]

Thanks SO MUCH FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE 👍 Reason for & how to think differently is helpful!!! 👍

[theepicadventures]

This is a great video about knowing who has Abndonment issues however; being an adoptee, we deal with constant abandonment issues. We do not know who we can trust and who we can't. In addition, we have to learn who is mom and who is dad.

[lla]

Kinda the opposite I'm afraid of getting people closer I prefer being alone, a person's presence make me anxious .

[shaneneighbors]

Definitely feel the abandonment from my parents which has definitely caused me many problems in my relationships. Especially gf. Not ever feeling like I’m enough.

[hardworkerforlife]

Growing up in a single parent household will give anyone fear of abandonment you only got one person who's there with you and when they are gone and nobody truly cares about you will do it.

[Shortkonner]

I know i certainly am scared of abandonment. It's real af.

[haseebamir]

well i am sure now that i have fear of abandonment, i used to think that i am a bit too emotional and scared to give love, affection and care to someone because whenever i did that they used me or just treat me like i am shit but now when i focus on past and present it was me who used to be very afraid that my friends, my family will leave me so that why i gave a bit too much but it didn't did anything good to me and now i am afraid, i am held back from giving and taking love and care