4 Signs You're Abandoning Yourself Without Realizing It

Are you unknowingly neglecting your own well-being? In this video, we explore the subtle signs of self-abandonment that can have a profound impact on your mental health and personal growth journey. Learn how to recognize and address these signs to foster a healthier relationship with yourself.

#selfhelp #psychology

Writer: Drew Baillie
Editor: Morgan Swift
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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References:
Shakespeare, W. (1603). King Henry V, Act II, Scene 4.

[mandywindwalker]

The first mistake is that we tell everyone not to be selfish-some people need to hear that, and some people don’t 😢

[keneillithium]

I've avoided my emotions so much that I've forgotten my own childhood memories

[kuxxgwv]

I feel a lot of self-love when I sing.
I do other kinds of art, but for some reason singing helps me to feel myself the most, I love it, even if it's cringe and not a good singing for someone.
You see, I grew up feeling so small on the inside, like everyone else is bigger than me and even though I acknowledge how untrue it is, I still can't help myself with feeling like I shrinked. And singing is one way for me to unshrink

[Mysterious-Night]

I feel like I’ve lost hope in myself and I kinda just drag along through life, I become what others want me to be, then when I disappoint others, I’m nobody.

[nezugt]

Probably because people have already abandoned me, so I have started to do so aswell.

[HowTo-Psychology]

Thank you for the amazing video! Here are more signs that you might be abandoning yourself:

1. Neglecting Personal Needs: If you consistently ignore your physical, emotional, and mental needs, such as not getting enough rest, not eating well, or ignoring your emotions, you might be disregarding yourself.

2. Lacking Boundaries: If you find it difficult to say "no" to others or allow them to consistently overstep your personal boundaries, you may be neglecting your own needs and desires.

3. People-Pleasing: Continuously prioritizing others' happiness over your own without considering your own wants and needs can lead to self-abandonment.

4. Ignoring Emotions: If you suppress or deny your feelings, you're not allowing yourself to acknowledge and process your emotions, which can lead to disconnection from your true self.

5. Losing Identity: If you're constantly adapting to others' expectations and losing a sense of who you are, it can result in feeling disconnected from your own identity.

6. Seeking External Validation: Relying heavily on others' approval or validation to feel worthy or accepted can indicate that you're not fully valuing yourself.

7. Ignoring Intuition: Dismissing your gut feelings and not trusting your own instincts can lead to making decisions that aren't aligned with your true self.

8. Neglecting Passions: If you've stopped pursuing hobbies or activities that used to bring you joy and fulfillment, you might be abandoning aspects of yourself.

9. Self-Criticism: Constantly berating yourself and having a negative self-talk pattern can be a form of self-abandonment, as you're not offering yourself the kindness and compassion you deserve.

10. Fear of Disapproval: Being overly concerned about what others think or fearing rejection can prevent you from expressing your authentic self.

11. Loss of Purpose: If you feel aimless or lack a sense of purpose in life, it's possible you're not taking the time to understand and nurture your own aspirations.

12. Avoidance of Conflict: Always avoiding conflicts or disagreements can indicate that you're suppressing your own opinions and needs to maintain harmony.

13. Constant Self-Sacrifice: If you consistently put others' needs before your own, to the point where it's detrimental to your well-being, you're likely abandoning yourself.

14. Isolating Yourself: Withdrawing from social interactions or cutting off relationships due to a fear of vulnerability can lead to a sense of isolation and self-abandonment.

Recognizing these signs is the first step toward reclaiming a healthier relationship with yourself. Engaging in self-care, practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your needs can help you reconnect with your true self and prevent unintentional self-abandonment.

[shannonw]

I'm a probation officer and always find these videos useful, not only to help myself but to consider these things with the people I work with as part of their rehabilitation ♥️

[inquisitive.octopus]

Sometimes you're just trying to love yourself for a while to avoid self-abandonment and someone comes and says something along the lines of, "Stop being so selfish, " and it suddenly makes you fall back into the well you had just about climbed out of.

[mikeschuett]

I was raised that being a people pleaser/thinking of others was right, and thinking of myself was selfish. I realize how wrong that is. Thing is, that's how I grew up, that's pretty much how my mindset is. I'm trying to get past that and learn to put myself first, and others how I see fit.

[bartoszcichosz]

Have been neglecting/abandoning myself ever since I remember. Well, safe to say this has built up to me feeling empty. Every time anyone tells me I need to take care of myself and speak my mind feels weird, as if I am about to commit the most heinous crime ever. It's very difficult to me to do that. I simply can't. But that's okay. Also, things like "having potential" or "knowing self-worth" sound very alien to me. I have absolutely no idea what those mean, what those are and how to understand that.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). People-pleasing 0:36
2). You seek external validation 1:22
3). You avoid emotions 2:06
4). You don't respect yourself or set boundaries 3:04
5). How to self-abandon less 3:58

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[LadyGoddessSephiroth]

I just started setting boundaries and I feel a lot better about myself. In fact I went off on someone for the first time in years bc they were a jerk to me. They were shocked. So was I. But I felt a lot better afterward. I stood up for myself, which is part of setting boundaries. And they've been a better person to me since.

[username]

I honestly don't know how to do a lot of the advice anymore. I barely can read my own emotions anymore, so it is a little hard to manage boundaries when you don't even know what you feel anymore or what you want.

[BCSchmerker]

+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list o' symptoms for self abandonment:*

0:36 *1. People-pleasing*
1:22 *2. Seeking External Validation*
2:06 *3. Avoidance of Emotions*
3:04 *4. Lack of Self-Respect and/or Boundaries*

3:57 *Initial Self-Awareness Questions*
A. Is it right to hold such tension at work?
B. Is Partner's acceptance conditional?
C. Are others expecting your fit-ins?

[Lvely_Ghstly]

I accidentally abandoned myself when i was very young

[carljames]

Now I know why I can't grow on my own, I always want someone beside me to make decision and being approved it by them (even little desicion). Now, I'm done being people pleaser.. thanks to this video. 😊😊😊

[c_man-sswo]

I just love how soothing her voice is.

[percubit]

This is true, selfishness is bad. Pleasing others is not good practice.

[juliabrnssr]

I remember would I used to say yes to all 4 items in this video. Now only 1 of them is a maybe (It's difficult to find friends with the same values). It's a combination of things that made me start caring about myself. Spreading too thing, Transitioning into the person I want to be, and Discovering my favorite Book. It feels great to live for yourself rather than everyone else.

[hayleeramos]

I’m definitely a people pleaser not gonna lie🥺✋🏼
I feel like taking care of myself is selfish 😞