Have Fear of Abandonment? 6 Telltale Signs..

The fear of abandonment is one of the most damaging fears to many. A form of anxiety, a fear of abandonment often starts to form in childhood for those who have it. Usually, abandonment issues begin when one has experienced some sort of trauma or loss already, thus developing a fear from an already traumatic loss. Each individual's experience is different, with some mental health experts theorizing that an abandonment wound can arise due to challenges with past relationships, troubling social and life experiences, or interruptions in one’s development of certain cognitive and emotional capacities. So, do you suspect you may have a fear of abandonment? Watch along.

Disclaimer: This video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional if you are struggling.

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[KaedeAlpha]

1. You attach too quickly.
2. You don’t fully commit to relationships.
3. You are a people pleaser.
4. You struggle with emotional intimacy.
5. You look for flaws in your partner.
6. You experience separation anxiety.

Hope this helps!

[WisdomWealth]

A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are. 🧡

[GChezlynD]

Kid version of me: don't leave... Pls!!

Adult version: here... Let me open the door for you.

[michaelokeke]

“Never get too attached because people wake up with different feelings everyday. It’s only natural.”
—Unknown
Forgot who quoted that

[RinRin-pnif]

It's hard to trust when you've been betrayed and abandoned countless of times, but not everyone you meet will be the same. Give yourself a chance and give others the benefit of the doubt if you think they deserve it. :)

[ICEcoldJT]

“When someone goes all out for you, be sure to value that energy and effort to the best of your ability. Never take it for granted because we often lose what and who we don’t appreciate.” ✨

[pravihrvat]

Being diagnosed with BPD and having an intense fear of abandonment is rough. 8 months strong with the guy who isn’t afraid to call me out for worrying too much and be there for when I need a shoulder to cry on. Even after all my mood swings and mistakes he still cared and won’t let me go. It’s so difficult and I know I’m not alone in these problems. Hope everyone can also learn to reconcile with this and find the right person :)

[lexinightmare]

3:05 My musical theatre kid self not recognizing until five seconds into the lyrics: OH I'm dumb.

Love the reference

[goroakechi]

I honestly don't know if I have a fear of abandonment or a fear of being manipulated and played with, or a mixture of both. It makes me scared that my partner may not have the same feelings for me as I do for them. And I feel like lately they've been getting a bit more cold towards me. And honestly. It scares me. A lot.

[darthturtle]

I feel like I might be like this. For me, though, I find that I’m clingy, people pleasing to the point of annoying to those around me, and feel the need to always help others with their emotional problems and not thinking of/covering up my own. I’m a very open person naturally about how I feel so sometimes it sounds pushy. it genuinely makes me feel good to see others feeling better, but I’m so drained after. Does anyone else feel this way?

[-shreyasidas]

This channel understands me more than anyone

[galaxy_mooncat]

I have a fear of people leaving me because my family has abandoned me

[kaseyhussle]

My logic:
“I’m afraid of being alone so I don’t try to get into a relationship with anyone.” 😳

[anja]

I think it is also about them reassuring us and understanding we have trust issues. I think abandonment issues comes from a lack of trust in others and ourselves after a devastating event

[valerie]

Another reason is you got abandoned in the past. I got abandoned a lot and my friends didn't understand my huge fear of being abandoned so I cut them out of my life since the friendship was getting toxic too anyways. Not only they didn't understand, but they also worsened it. I still miss my best friend but I'm slowly moving on and slowly getting my life back together.

[oliviakam]

not me shutting everyone out because i’m afraid of being abandoned 😳🤚

[The_Anthologist]

These all describe me perfectly, like 100%. The issue is, that while I don't want to stay like this, I also feel like these behaviors/feelings keep me safe/defend me on some level so I feel too scared to change :(

[beebait]

My partner seems to have abandonment issues and i have helped it a lot by just being patient and supportive. She seems to be getting more confident in herself and our relationship. Also more confdent in her relationship with her parents and friends.

[SuperWiiBros]

I relate a lot with these, not in the exaggerated way is being shown but close enough, I think my fear of abandonment ruined my important friendships (and is not about a gf or relationships with a girl and such)

[art.of.verser]

I may have feared the worst when I watched this video. I can't live with anyone yet I can't live without anyone. I still need space occasionally. Extreme isolation only worsen that fear further. I'm confused. 💔