40 Signs That You Have Abandonment Issues

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People who struggle with abandonment issues often face a tough time with relationships. They might feel scared to get too close to others or react strongly to what seems like rejection. This can lead them to cling to their loved ones for reassurance, which is really just a way to cope with their fears. It’s important to understand that these reactions come from a place of vulnerability, and it can be really challenging for them to navigate their emotions while trying to connect with others. Compassion and patience can go a long way in supporting them.

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[Job.Well.Done_]

Sh** let me tell you all about my abandonment: My dad went to prison when I was 6, and I never saw him again.
I tried! He didn’t show up!
My mom completely
abandoned me at 17 even though I was a good kid. She couldn’t get herself together enough to even be a mother. Had to sleep on the floor of a friend’s bedroom all year to finish high school.
Then, enter bad relationships….
Lots of pain and suffering.
I am working on learning from it all so I can heal.
-Best wishes to all

[Valreea]

I don't even need to see what the signs are to know I have all 40. Abandonment issues crippled my life, and its extremely difficult to change this mindset. I don't know if i ever will.

[Maxi_Me]

Hello, can you please also focus on the solutions for us complex trauma survivors? The problems are the past, the solutions the future and healing part. Thank you for making these videos. But it is necessary to focus on the healing part. I hope you can do that more... We need that. Thanks 😊

[JillCee]

This has been a helpful check list to show me I have healed a lot. There is hope! Not there yet, but on the way. Definitely worth celebrating.

[dehsa]

Some of those things are so powerful, emotionally, you still feel the "pull" even though you know better intellectually!

[SusanPortrey]

Oh yeah 🎉 I got 100% A+ on abandonment

[kayligo]

Please have the next video be how to heal abandonment issues 🙏🏻

[hearttalkscoach]

The mantra "How is this affecting my body" at each step of this list / process can re-center on healing, helping us move toward healing and away from sabotage.

[riorisa]

This helped me to realize how far I have come with healing. I used to have probably all of them, now just few.

[sabrinaszabo]

No, it’s because we will attract avoidant people in attempt for us both to play out unconscious childhood issues, and once we get into this unconscious pattern and both of us get triggered then it’s just the same narrative. If you are with somebody having attachment issues, both of you must be aware. It is hard to find healthy partners, and you must be aware of this and really cultivate emotional health within yourself and develop authenticity with values. Do not be superficial about relationship,

[bryanmccaffrey]

This connects with so many other areas. Attachment. Trauma. Neuro.

[angierox]

Looking at past relationships and my different ages/stages, healing and retraumatization, and currently 5 years single and healing... I see many of these but at different times. After a few years when I started noticing patterns I would try to change the pattern but then I would pendulum the extreme other way. And so on and so forth. I've just started dating somebody I have known for many years, I think I will journal throughout this experience to help me be aware of my thoughts and actions. I'm seeing things already but I'm catching them quickly. All these emotions are scary and difficult but worth it I hope.

[Nothing_Left_To_Say]

It's not a fear of abandonment, its a reliable forecast. All relationships doomed to end somehow someday, most of the time not because of death.

There are people that are OK with it, oh well, that's life, it doesn't really affect me or ruin anything for me.

Others get very emotionally invested in intimate deep relationships and therefore very sensitive and concerned about how it will end. Makes perfect sense!

Those people have depths and loyalty that the other "healthier" group of people don't have and won't able to offer, and it comes with a cost. Many times, as you said, those people will come to the conclusion that they had enough of those emotional Rollercoasters, and therefore they decide to put themselves first and avoid getting into those adventures from first place. What's wrong with that? Makes perfect sense to me.

[barkingbubbles]

This is my now ex. I loved him so much. With every fiber of my soul. However due to his abandonment wounds I had to save myself. I was killing myself staying there and in that turmoil. Nothing I ever did was hood enough. It was a bottomless cup. He was 28 when I met him and I was 37. I don't have to waste. I gave him two years. After that I said I had to go, if not just so he could learn from losing me. I was delaying his healing by staying. I love him still and pray for his recovery and healing. He had a very good heart. His family was to blame. They really did a number on him and his siblings. May God bless you all into the light of your healing just like I hope his will be blessed as well.

[harmonicresonanceproject]

Thank you Tim for helping solve so many internal riddles and for providing so many enlightening tools and thoughts.

[aron-jtes]

I classify as an Avoidant, but if someone starts pulling away from me, then come the abandonment wounds. Mix in some ADHD and omfg.. Ugh

[stevesmith-nyjb]

Best video you made. Thank you.
I'm so messed up.☹️

[patormsby]

Oh that was so me in my teens and first marriage. I knew I was driving guys away, but now I think I must have been really scary to some of them, kind of obsessed. Even happily married in my 30s, I had nightmares of a big fight with me storming out the door. Those are rare now, thank heavens, but there are three or four items I still do when stressed.

[sabrinaszabo]

When I discovered how to use boundaries appropriately, I realized I was conflicting myself by not acting as I valued myself, which is what I decided, and I was making decisions based on this if I didn’t realize I would’ve perpetuated the same outcome, which would’ve led to the same narrative and ultimately affected the way I perceived and behaved in the world. If I didn’t realize every decision I made would’ve reinforced this untrue loop of crap. I learned the hard way, but I wasn’t about to do it again because Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Also change is a measure of intelligence. I decided I was smart so I was going to act accordingly, but I am not perfect.