Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up #relationships #theschooloflife #shorts

Why do these cycles happen and why are they so hard to break? What might be a better way forward?

[Super-JD]

This is my me (the avoidant) and my ex (the anxious). He was constantly demanding and acusing me of not loving him enough whilst I would push him back because It was too much for me. It was a very passionante relationships at the beginning but we eneded both heartbroken.

[Saint_nobody]

That was me and my ex.... I hope she's doing good.

[晶-ci]

Both are toxic. As the anxiously attached partner, I had to come to terms with my own childhood trauma and realize seeking validation and affection from avoidant partners wouldn’t bring me self-love and acceptance. I had to leave the relationship, and learn how to find fulfillment with myself instead of seeking it out in a romantic partner.

[denzelgariseb]

The number of times I’ve watched this especially the intro with the first 3 shots. 🔥 man this franchise is just so good

[yourredhead]

I hope I won't get into a relationship like that again. I don't know how to avoid the problems that in the end makes us both fall apart

[sadmimikyu]

Shit... I have a dear friend and I am definitely anxiously attached but I wonder if she is avoidant. She is warm and everything but she accuses me often of needing too much. I am not sure.

Anyway we had a fight and she blew up. Tomorrow we will talk it out. I hope I can be the way I want to be. She can be very dramatic so I hope I can get her in a spot where we can talk about our feelings and come to a solution.

[KingOfPain-]

This kinda of relationship really HURTS the Like twin flame

[dierenoppasservice]

The painfully accurate part is that the anxious one is usually is 'right': the avoidant is in fact cold, distant, withholding etc. Even a secure partner would describe an avoidant as such. You almost never see two avoidants in a relationship, it simply most of the times doesn't work other than as one night stands. The avoidant is usually less accurate: they are far more agressive in their pick of words to describe the anxious one, they have normal needs as we all do. The anxious can mostly be 'blamed' in their part by allowing things to continue, not having bounderies, and letting things grow to a point in which emotions are very understandable but not healthy nor helpful.

I do hope these shorts help individuals with becoming more secure in themselves. They are truly very relatable set up and accurate ❤

[BarbieBabeEve]

I'd love to learn more about this topic. Is there a full length video available? ❤

[anabltc]

I was on both sides (w different partners and in different phases of my life ofc) 😂
Relationships don't work. I like being single tho

[phoenixrisin]

All avoidants arent narcissists but all narcissists are avoidants

[S.Elite]

Dang this described my ex and I perfectly.

[naomi_lyon]

So, why is it that anxiously-attached and avoidant types find it so hard to split up?

[grimace]

Don’t be in a relationship you don’t want to be in. It’s not hard.

[crystalramos]

I’ve never understood the avoidant type. I’d rather not be in a relationship at all then with someone like that.

[liltick]

Haven’t spoken to my gf in almost a month, avoidant— this described our dynamic immaculately

[lotus]

According to CONFUCIUSISMS & their books does they(the soul) can feel & realise anything for "forever" even after libration? Please reply soon🙏

[Squirrel-zqoe]

Okay but why is it usually the female that is the avoidant one 🤔

[mohammedessam]

I'm the anxious type, is there some insights on what is that led us to this type of attachment ?

[bobbruce]

I wonder how many are avoidant only pretending in the beginning to be interested in order to benefit (marriage, green card, $$$, etc).