How to Identify a Narcissist from Conversation

Feeling like you're dealing with an uncontrollable narcissist in your life and don't know what to do? In this video, you'll learn how to quickly identify a narcissist from the conversation they have with you. My expert insights and advice will help you take back control and put your needs first. Watch now to learn valuable tips on how to tackle conversation with a narcissist!

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[kathleenlangenecker]

In 7 years, I never heard I am sorry and never saw a tear shed. Total lack of empathy for anyone.

[billkilpatrick]

They always try to one up you, and turn all conversations back to themselves.

[carparthero]

8 ways to identify a narcissist from conversation

1-interrupts a lot.
2-they don't stop talking about themselves.
3-they don't stop to ask about you.
4-if they ask about you, they don't stop to listen to the answer.
5-constant criticism of others.
6-gaslighting
7-lack of interest in others
8-inability to accept any type of criticism

[Kdaniels]

Narcs Ive dealt with never apologize, they never admit they are wrong and they always gaslight and find fault with the other people and its never, ever, ever theirs!

[Gkm]

#2: they often deploy this conversational trick: they will ask you a question about yourself, but use it as a vector to talk about themselves. It goes like this: “Lucas, tell me about your trip to Ireland.” “Well we flew in to Dublin and” “OH I WAS THERE A FEW YEARS AGO! I STAYED AT BLAHBLAHBLAH AND DID - and that goes on for eight minutes, and Lucas has not had a chance to say another word in that time.

[pclifton]

The main thing I watch out for is the sob story, their almost shakespearean tale of tragic woe that is their life they seem almost proud of. It sounds rehearsed and like a performance because it is.

[u.m.a.]

As someone with ADHD, the interrupting and the getting distracted when someone else is talking can be viewed as narcissistic and/or self-centered, when it’s totally not.

[AudraGibson]

Vulnerable narcissists will ask you about yourself. But they are on a research/fact finding mission. They are sizing you up to see if the other person fits a profile to provide narcissistic supply.

[sudenims]

I think sometimes narcissists can appear to be interested in you to start with as they are gathering information that they might want to use against you at a later date. So it’s important to look for consistencies in things. A person might be distracted when with you if they have something drastic going on in their life, but if they are consistently like that, then it’s a pointer.

[SoundsBogus]

The narcissist in my life never stops talking; drones on and on. Everything is a problem to rage about. I can't get a word in edgewise, I HAVE to interrupt, which makes him insane that I'd want to clarify a detail. Then I'm accused of "interrupting all the time". When I'm talking he listens intently, to come back later with, "You said, you said" 🙄but it's a twisted interpretation, not what I said at all. I have to be so so careful about choosing my words. 😳

[sehryn]

I have ADHD CPTSD Severe Sleep Deprivation and severe Social Anxiety. I interrupt, focus on myself, etc etc.

By this definition I could be seen as a narcissist. I know I’m not. So anyone watching this with ADHD, please do not think you are a narcissist just from this list.

[gracesanity]

I certainly have allot of these traits. I am not proud of how entiteled l get. I am growing to learn how to treat others with respect and dignity. Bounderious are vital. Both inner and outer. I will change l will. Amen

[maureenwilson]

This resonates with me. Married to one for 30 years. Nuts in the head. I've learned how to handle him to keep my sanity. It can be done, but you loose alot of yourself along the way.

[hollyn]

My boyfriend of 4 years would never ask how I was doing, never ask how my day was. Even after I asked him how he was and how his day was. He'd give me a detailed answer and then never even ask how my day was lol. He would also go into great detail about something that happened at work, tell me the whole story and how he fixed everything... it usually involved him being so awesome and the best of course lol. But when I would tell him stories of my work day his eyes would wander off and he showed absolutely no interest in what I had to say. Yet he expected my complete attention and interest when it involved him. There are so many behaviors he displayed that match all the topics in this video. I still struggle with feeling loss over our relationship because we did have so many good times together. But overall, he didn't value me as a true partner. I constantly felt like I was just a fixture. He liked having me around and how I made him feel. But I didn't deeply matter to him. If I was struggling with something, it was just "my problem". To any of you out there in a relationship like this- you deserve far better.

[mercenary]

Hi Rebecca I dated a woman recently, I noticed a few times I had to put her on ice for poor behaviour, this sent her insane. HOWEVER upon reconciling she had a saying "But they(men) always come back" I found this sinister, she basically wanted to see how far she could push men, instead of being a well rounded human.

[trolololl]

My mother in law definitely ticked all the boxes. Always felt like we had to be careful or check her mood before planning anything. Felt like walking on thin ice.

[StressFreeDentistry]

I think it’s important to define and distinguish between narcissistic personality disorder and just narcissistic traits or tendencies.

[cassiewifenarrowgatehomestead]

I used to work for the court system. We had a judge that loved to tell us about his life and how successful he was. I figured out if I started talking to him about my kids and life he would cut the conversation and walk away. I used that to my advantage.

[KoKo-gudh]

One thing with a narcissist is they dont know how to read a room everyone would be talking bad about him & yet he will say: they like me, they really like me!

[janeglover]

"What do you want me to do about it?" A favorite phrase they use when they don't want to address an issue