Narcissistic Friends | The Signs

Dr. Ramani shares how to spot the signs of narcissistic roommates & friends in episode 5 of our Narcissistic Relationships series.

Friendships are one of the most understudied yet impactful types of relationships humans have. They don’t have the same “rules” that other relationships have. So the tools to handle a narcissistic friend, narcissistic roommate, or group of friends are unique. Dr. Ramani explains those tools and how to use them. She shares the most crucial strategies for how to spot the signs of narcissism in a roommate or a friend.

Make sure to watch the rest of this 6-episode series on narcissistic relationships to learn how to deal with every type of narcissistic relationship in your life.

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[MedCircle]

Which of Dr. Ramani's signs of narcissism have you spotted in your roommate or friend? Let us know in the comments below - we want to hear your story.

[colywogable]

People always talk about love bombing in romantic relationships, but it totally happens in friendships too.

[phoeberaymond]

You should always be able to tell someone who is your good friend to stop doing something thats bothering you, without them fighting you about it.

[Ninanotlina]

Narcissistic friends are very charming and helpful. They seem like nice people (the covert ones) but if you’re observant enough, you will catch veiled hostility, triangulation especially when they’re bored and ready to discard you.

[kristalcampbell]

I know I'm friends with a narc when I feel this need to "win" their approval by being clever enough, giving enough, cool enough etc to avoid being lumped in with "everyone else" they trash. It feels like that knot in your stomach of one wrong move and you'll catch hell and be out of their good graces. Like when I start losing myself in who THEY'D approve of rather than who I am. If I get home and I'm like "who was that ...that's not me" I know I'm in the presence of a narc.

[zarim]

For every narcissist, there is an enabler who faithfully builds up the narcissist.

[thesoulfoodpodcast]

The worse thing you can do to yourself is go back to a narcissistic relationship be it friendship or otherwise. Once you shut that door, KEEP IT SHUT!

[hoolieist]

The friend who monopolizes the conversation 80% of the time. Turns every topic you bring up right back to themselves. Gas lights you when you cant follow their tirades with I told you about that don't you listen to me. Gets nasty when you don't agree or point out their flaws. Never asks about your life and on rare occasions when they do, immediately turns conversation back to themselves. Everyone else in their life is wrong, flawed or out to get them. It's exhausting and emotionally unfulfilling.

[amandagalloway]

Keeping narcissistic friends around is not wise if they emotionally abuse you. They don’t have to financially exploit you in order to be toxic.

[milyd]

When you come from a household of narcs, then a friend with the same personality traits would be familiar.

[lrow]

After 10 years invested in what I considered a close friendship, I finally learned this person is a narcissist after I reflected on lots of isolated events that left me doubting myself or feeling disrespected. I realized this person has no empathy, likes to tell me how to live my life, judges, condescends and shames. I tolerated it for years and that was the most painful realization but I just let it all go and feel so much better without the mind twisting.

[anonnymous]

I think the main warning sign which tends to be an early indicator of narcissism, is little digs and sly put downs. They can often be quite subtle so they _almost_ pass you by, but you'll likely find yourself dwelling on them and wonder what they meant or why they said it. This is the narc's way of testing your boundaries and if you challenge them they'll just say 'I was only joking' or 'God. You're so sensitive'.
Eventually, though, when they feel more relaxed in your company, the comments will ramp up and become more personal and insulting and when you outright tell them that it's not acceptable, this is when you will see their explosive narcissistic rage.

[johnmatthewprima]

I recently have an argument with a narcissist. Such a waste of time 😂

[TellSamyra]

So true. You don't truly know a friend until you live or vacation with them.

[nacarreira]

It took me sixteen years to see through a malignant narcissistic friend! Went no contact almost a year ago..best decision I have made for myself.

[jazr]

I recently ended a 6 year friendship with a narcissist! Lack of empathy, self awareness and entitlement superficiality... all of it. Finally saw her true colors tho and I’m so glad I did😊

[totf]

If you keep them “on the shelf” you still need to avoid sharing any of your personal business. Keep topics very generic.

[artistheanswer-fjkf]

You don't see the traits. You see red flags but you don't realise what's happening, until a serious event comes, like you set a boundary or you say a "no", etc. Then you start seeing the true colors.

[Andromeda_M]

I went on a cruise ship trip with a long time friend and omg she went 24/7 histrionics. Everything was a complete blow up, allergic to my hair spray and perfume, went outside of the room yelling and crying. I finally moved into a complete stranger's room who felt bad for me. I knew this woman for over 10 years and had no idea she was like this. I think she was a borderline but I'm not sure. After the trip was over, she sent me a 8 page handwritten letter how much of a horrible person I am. I got past the first page and threw it out, never talked to her again.

[usernameluis]

A tricky thing about a narcissistic friend, they can listen to you when the things you talk about interest them or are simple enough things to respond to, however any more nuance or personal-topic than the most surface level of things will make them disinterested in you as a person.

They can also be good friends to other people and exude these characteristics with just you