Why does a narcissist see your feelings as criticism. why dont narcissist talk about their feelings

Why does a narcissist see your feelings as criticism. why dont narcissist talk about their feelings

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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[linsexposingthenarcabuse]

This one made me cry. As you were talking, I got all of these flashbacks and that's exactly how it goes down. Years of unresolved arguments and discussions just swept under an imaginary carpet building up and never being released.. that's why people snap, come outta character. It's such an awful way to live. Thank you for your courage and honesty. Most men don't have the balls to step up. They just wanna step on. Keep it going Lee!!!

[barbaraviniegra]

Spot on. My feelings were always responded with “wow you make me sound like a really sh*tty boyfriend” or “something always with you”.

[hv]

This is simply evil, all you can do is leave and find someone who sees and respect your Feelings!

[MiaC.]

Life is too short to deal with someone who doesn’t have the mildest level of decency to care how I feel. My attitude is, if you don’t care, why should I. But I’ve noticed narcissist want people to listen when “they” want to be heard but rarely are they willing to be an ear for you unless it’s to collect ammunition for a later date. It’s very selfish to want what they aren’t willing to give. Fooled me once lol. Being single is less stressful. Much luck to you on your journey.

[godsfavor]

The narc would always say “What did I do now?” Knowing dog gone well he just got finished cheating. Like he was so innocent 🙄

[Gthesecondpower]

As usual, you explain my experience in my 14-year marriage to a T. That is exactly what I experienced every time. You just can't understand why the two of you can't just have an adult conversation. You wind up feeling worthless after a while because you can never, ever resolve your issues. I would try to just move past things without having them resolved. I tried to just let go of as much as I could and live with it, but I was kidding myself. I couldn't keep it up.

[beccamartin]

😂💯👏 Yup apparently I'm too emotional / unstable / insecure! Seems I am "in control of my own feelings" .... As well as his it's utter bullshit! Can't discuss anything with him without him taking it as a personal attack 😢

[FullyYoked]

They know they are the problem, probably the worst part for them, self hate and anger all right there like a ticking time bomb.

[missgreeneyesx]

My ex would shout at me and turn aggressive when I tried to express my feelings. Even when he was violent and I tried to tell him he hurt me he was the victim, or he would gas light me and downplay what he did. Trying to get him to take accountability was exhausting and he never did so I gave up. So glad I left him. He stalked me, threatened and harassed me for over a year once I ended it and he blames me for everything that went wrong. I went no contact and the harassment finally stopped. I have to move as I live in fear he is going to pop out of no where one day and try to hurt me. He sees no issue with his behaviour and his the victim.

[Marina-rcpx]

When u get to the nitty gritty of it... it’s good old fashioned Cowardice 🦁

[Ninabeana]

I can absolutely understand this, I couldn't pinpoint the way I was feeling for years. I just knew something wasn't right. Almost 100% of the time that I would bring up any issues or feelings about situations, it was always turned back on me. I'm so glad I found this channel and community. I thought I was crazy, overly sensitive, imagining things, forgetful, etc... I started having to record most interactions and even then I was feeling petty and not normal for doing this. After years of therapy and research I'm finally getting clarity and standing in my truth. Thank you Lee and everyone who has been supportive and honestly sharing your stories! I hope you all are rising up from the ashes like a beautiful Phoenix after narcissistic abuse!

[ashleyg]

Accountability feels like an attack when you aren’t willing to acknowledge how your behavior harms others.

You just confirmed what I’ve thought all along. He used to always accuse me of trying to “ruin his day” and yes nothing ever got resolved. It’s exhausting and draining and it leaves you frustrated and empty. I pray for anybody who is going through this.

[sharon]

Accountability is kryptonite. Damn, that says all you need to know....

[Karlien]

Well...he didn't say anything. Just retreated. Ignoring me. Or just leaving the room because he said it is too much to handle.

[xkmtx]

he straight up accused me of WANTING an argument, WANTING to fight, me WANTING to PUSH HIM and PUSH HIM. I kept trying to tell him if he acknowledged the work I did around the house, it would make me feel good, give me some motivation to, idk, maybe do even more. But he says to me I shouldn't need acknowledgement or praise, I should just want too because I know that's something I'm supposed to do given the terms he moved me in under (he never told me he moved me in as a means of having maid service) I always cleaned up after myself, but he refuses to clean up after himself. he says he sees it as if something needs to be done and u have free time, u should do it (though he doesn't usually apply that rule to himself, the house will be just as destroyed as I left it that morning while he stayed home) I told him that's a recipe for problems. I took care of my shit, so now that I have free time, your mess should become my responsibility now? he doesn't understand I have no motivation to do shit for this man cause, who the fuck argues against praising someone's work?? I mean really.

[TremaynePrice]

Even the TikTok hit me...lived this shit. With the added *joy* of hearing "Oh, poor you" or "I didn't know this was about YOU" when trying to talk through how our actions made each other feel. 🙄

[edgreen]

They know they caused it. Level up is what i would say.

[valentinanocross]

I already learned what we say and what they hear is different. And the work of Marshall Rosenberg is quite important. And a lot of context. And in the end until both parties are doing the healing work, it won't be ok. I also heard a Study that 75℅ of men are narcissistic, ( makes sense due to men always being repressed by emotions) really it just means everybody needs to do the work. We are all patterned and programmed by someone else and scared inside.

[daniellemorse]

Great video, Lee. It is so nice to hear this information from someone who recognizes they are a narcissist and getting the help to be a better person.

I do not miss being told I'm too emotional. Maybe if they didn't do the things they did to us we wouldn't have to be so emotional. Most women are emotional and if male narc's don't want to deal with that, they shouldn't get into relationships to destroy someone who really wants to be in one, especially a committed one.

[Nancy-ywrr]

When do narcissists ever want to listen to anything that doesn't directly benefit them?