Why is a narcissist nice to everyone? | When only you see the TRUE version of the NARCISSIST

Why is a narcissist nice to everyone? Do you feel like you are the only person who sees the true version of the narcissist and can't figure out why the narcissist is nice to everyone but you? Narcissistic abuse by a narcissist can be damaging to your mental health and lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health concerns. Even if you know that the narcissist is nice to everyone one but you, you might wonder if you stay and if you have been trauma bonded. Narcissists use impression management as a way to devalue you while making themselves appear competent to others. Through their manipulation, narcissists can control how others see you and you are not the crazy one!

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[unapologeticella]

This is driving me insane everyone loves him and thinks he's a good person

[melindamcclain]

My narc mom was nice to everyone but me. She treated me like trash. They do this because they know you have figured them out and they can't win you over.

[kay]

My narcissist would take from me to give to others just to make them happy. It make me feel so sad.

[JRDavis-hjsi]

100%. It's gotten so commonplace in our society, especially the workplace, that there's so few of us that can spot it anymore. It's the real Pandemic.

[naomi]

i almost cried when you said "i trust your perceptions"

[michelleheltz]

My husband is singled out by his brother. His brother is nice to EVERYONE but my husband. He has a great family, nice children, but when it comes to my husband, he is very mean and abusive. We have now set boundaries! We have such a happy life distancing from his brother!

[peachesmcgee]

I hate this about them. It's crazy making.

[sandrakirch]

Absolutely, seeing through Narcs' true selves often engenders the priviledge of being targeted.

Narcs are nice with the duped ones falling under their spell.
Narcs'mindset: being uncovered is being threatened.
As a consequence, Narcs isolate, silence, slander or abuse those who dare see right through them and are able to discern their true intentions.

[katiemacnish]

Yes, you got it! Then the infamous smear campaign. They have everyone else thinking your trash, even people who don’t know you. ‘I have experienced this in the Christian circles, wow, wow, wow. All I can say is God’s watching and taking notes. 💕

[karengoodwin]

That's why he never takes me anywhere. Because when people meet me they like me and he is jealous of that. Also he pokes in to listen for fear that I am telling what he is really like. I kept recordings of him leaving me messages on the phone. His tone for me is anger, demanding, impatient and condescending.

[DrEmilyMayfield]

Every social encounter for a narcissist is an opportunity for them to determine who will help them in their quest to be viewed as superior and boost their self-esteem.  The more people they can bring into this circle, the better for them!

[carmelgreen]

YES! Thankyou. He's a charmer to everyone but me. Goes to mass, does volunteer work and noone would believe me if I told them. He ignores me, uses silent treatment, discards and returns when he feels like it. Has been physically abusive tome and my daughter but now he's triangulating us when I called him out. And she's falling for it because she wants her dad's approval.
He denies his contempt for me, gaslighting. Stonewalls me. Has done sneaky things behind my back. Recipe for insanity or Cptsd at the very least.

[kusnttimoyakin]

being with a narc- makes me think " what did i do wrong-oh its proabably just me being alive" then suicidal thoughts start kicking In.. #feeling Useless-worthless#

[battlevain]

It's also known as "Street Angel and House devil". They are skilled actors, as they have spent a lifetime mastering the art of deception.

[Yellowroseintexas]

Exactly! Have everyone fooled. Mean and cruel

[gwendolynwehage]

I have experienced this many times with family members, they have gossiped among themselves, act angry at me but never tell me what they are angry about.

[loradavis]

I'm stuck with a narcissist who is mean to me but nice to everyone else, everyone thinks he's amazing but truly hes a bullie to me. im trying to get my life back on track an be strong enough to get him out my home I'm registered as disabled dew to my mental health, hes registered as my carer, I'm trying to educate myself so I can understand what hes doing. I'm not horrible like he makes out to people. I do everything I can an more for everyone in my life. Xx

[lucybeckmann]

I lost a whole community, which I set up, because of a psychic attack from a narcissist. She has done a really good job at making everyone see that I’m the one that’s being unreasonable. I’ve learnt to step away. It’s not worth the stress! She may have done a smear campaign on me, but nobody is letting me know about this. I see narcissists everywhere!

[markcollins]

This was exactly what I experienced in 18 years of marriage. Spot on.

[steveholloway]

I'm sooo married to the person you just described... 30 yrs and so fed up ... I just turned 60 . Peace of mind is never allowed in my home . You hit the nail on the head with your Discription. Thank you. Signed: help...