6 things you can count on a narcissist to say

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[NutsNBerries]

Narcs only apologize when they need something…the apology isn’t genuine

[YedolfWesler]

Biggest thing i noticed about narcissist is they are different depending on who's around. They want nothing more than to uplift themselves in the eyes of others.

[MsMblackwell]

1. I don’t want to make this about me, but… (conversational hijacking)
2. I am sorry you feel that way (pseudo apology)
3. Why are you doing this to me? (Permanent victim)
4. I don’t have time for this (contemptuous toss off)
5. I hope you know who you’re messing with (menace)
6. It’s not fair (immature)

[genevalawrence]

I'm sorry you feel that way, reframed honestly - "I'm sorry you're having feelings that are inconvenient for ME."

[imalwaysright]

I love how Dr Ramani acknowledges they get away with so much. It’s one of the most hurtful and frustrating aspects of experiencing a narc

[benastutchbury]

Three weeks ago I walked out on a narcissistic relationship that I only recognised as such after 15 years together. He was the light of my life. I ran around him like the moon does the sun. We thought ourselves a magical couple. Then we married two years ago and the tables turned. I was just his wife and was used as a full time carer and slave to our work and his ego. All the love and charm disappeared and I found myself so tired and old-feeling that I felt I would die and early death unless I got out of there. After one last argument, I left, with nothing but the clothes on my back and my passport (I was in another country) and went home to my family. It was the best thing I have ever done. I felt the years fall from my shoulders and I have a new job, I am gardening and am seeing friends again who I had missed over the years. I recommend it. Thank you for your videos. Learning that my husband was a narcissist, as is my mother - and I a codependent - has changed my life. I no longer feel tired all the time and yesterday planted up a small garden of vegetables and reclaimed my overgrown garden. I feel twenty years younger.

[malindarayallen]

If someone is being a jerk to me, I 100% don't have time for it. I've done my time in toxic relationships, and I'm done.

[TheMarsha]

I have been married to a narcissist for 40 years. He is always a victim. You have helped me immensely. Thanks for doing these shows ❤️

[neel]

What about:
- Not apologizing at all
- "You are exeggarating"
- "It's your fault"
- "You are always like that"

[kathymankin]

Run for your life from a narcissist because they never change.

[DadHominem]

Narcissists are emotional/psychological vampires who take, take, take and never give.

[guitargod]

I remember calling my dad to tell him about a promotion I achieved. He said he was glad, then went on to talk for triple the amount of time to reminisce on the same work stories that he’s told 400 times already. Can’t just be a proud parent. Always went back to him somehow.

[peterwilliams]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[ho]

0:57 I don't want to make it about myself but... (Conversation hijacking)
3:10 I am sorry you feel that way (Lack of taking accountability)
4:20 Why are you doing this to me ? (Narcs have a constant ability to turn themselves to victim)
6:25 I don't have time for this
8:33 I hope you know who you are messing with
11:05 It is not fair

[Allah.]

I recently was experiencing real stress being around someone and couldn’t figure out why they were having that impact on me. I’m talking like high blood pressure and lack of sleep. Irritable almost immediately around them and constantly feeling like I had to walk on eggshells and “keep the peace” around this person. Watching these videos and learning about exactly what narcissists are helped me so much. I didn’t realize how toxic and dangerous it truly is to be connected to someone who is genuinely like this. Thankyou so much for sharing this info!

[denisefordistrict]

These shows really help me keep strong boundaries with the narcissist in my life, who I don't have the luxury of leaving on the wayside. These shows are a service to humanity.❤

[WinterWarlock]

When dealing with narcissists, I won't say "I'm sorry you feel that way". Infact, I won't say "sorry" to them for ANYTHING, whether I am or not. I find saying "I'm sorry" to a narcissists dangerous because it is basic admittance, from the narcissist's perspective, that you admit you are wrong, agree you are wrong, vindicate the "victim" (read: narcissist), and that you are solely responsible for EVERYTHING (whether related to the topic at hand, or not), admit to and agree to the "fact" you're a "loser" and "always will be", and that you admit and agree you "deserve" any abuse the narcissist gives you, with no right or permission to object or defend yourself. That's what "I'm sorry" means to a narcissist. All they hear is that you're sorry. They don't care why.

When dealing with a narcissist, I will instead say "It is unfortunate that you feel that way." But this is ONLY when dealing with a narcissist. If the person is NOT a narcissist, I am quite open to apologizing for any mistakes and not just saying 'I'm sorry you feel that way" but actually give a PROPER apology. It's basic courtesy, honesty, and respect for the other person.

But narcissists are not entitled to ANYTHING. LEAST of all any basic courtesy, honesty, and/or respect because they're narcissists and spend their time hurting people and creating REAL victims because of their toxic abusive behaviour.

[beckyterry]

My narc thinks saying “I owe you an apology” is the same as saying “im sorry”

[aveywilliams]

I'm sorry you experienced that unkind person. You've helped me more than you'll know.

[bobbye]

My mother is one of the most toxic narcissists in my life. Thank you Dr. Ramani for these videos, they provide me so much catharsis to manage her in my life.