[FREE TRAINING] Releasing the Pain of Relational Trauma

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[bernicewilson]

40 min in it came to me that for forgiveness I first have to neutralise the belief that the wounding is in some way, MY FAULT. And then forgive and soothe the child and the present part of me that has that belief. Thanks for dedicating the effort to look at this piece.

[Odetta-cy]

This is my first time listening to this particular video I'm not even finished yet but I just want to say that I am so grateful that you are a part of this YouTube space. Please keep bringing on the videos because you come from a different perspective that is so important especially how you talk about trauma and forgiveness it has helped me so much and I have stopped beating myself up because at times I don't feel like I've forgiven and I don't have any empathy or compassion. It waivers it comes and goes but I will say the anger and resentment is gone. Thank you

[inthevortex-derh]

I think the most important thing is to heal. I feel that if i didn't feel the pain, everything would be easier.

[SummerLove-uo]

5:40 talks directly to my pain. I need my mom to acknowledge the pain she caused me to forgive her. She denies that her gaslighting is harmful in any shape or form and tells me I'm the problem & I need to go talk to a therapist not her. And that she's perfect & she's not causing any pain.

[saraya]

This is amazing! Thank you for uploading and sharing

[mercyspencer]

I did not understand the release part. How exactly do I release? How do I know I really released something?

[SummerLove-uo]

❤❤❤ 21:12 soooo good. What do you think of John Demartini's model? He says: Nothing to forgive, Everything Serves. No mistakes in the universe. There's always upsides to every down and vice versa. & Once you see that you naturally come to the moment of love & understanding. & All the emotional charges & noise in the brain neutralizes as you see the event from both sides & you come to the executive center of the brain. & That our pain & suffering is due to our lopsided 1sided perceptions.

[garrettp]

I do recommend having strepsills and halls handy for scratchy throat. When i work as a translator on a health and safety courses i consider those tablets as essential for myself

[penniroyal]

I don’t know if forgiveness is necessary. My adopted father molested me and when I confronted him as an adult he never was sorry. All he could say was that “now that you’re a parent you’ll make mistakes too. I replied that what he did was on purpose not a mistake. After I started talking to my sisters about our father and his disgusting behavior my oldest sister reached out to me to tell me she too was molested by our father. Her exit strategy to get away from him was to get pregnant in high school by a marine. They got married and 6 months later had a baby. My adopted father also pretty much had affairs with my mom’s best friends and also his best friends repeatedly meaning multiple best friends. wives too. He was a hot mess and never felt bad about what he did. I literally watched him takes his last breath alongside his best friends wife whom he had been having an affair with while my mother was alive. I only know because I found a tape he had recorded for her( my moms best friend) before be died and let’s just say it was totally inappropriate! So some people don’t need or deserve forgiveness because they didn’t care who they hurt as long as their needs were being met. In my opinion forgiveness is earned not an entitlement.