Narcissists do not see their partners as equals, they see them as competition and can be jealous

Narcissists do not see their partners as equals, they see them as competition and can be jealous

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[Jenjenn]

My ex would always say when we argued, “Im not trying to win the battle, I’m trying to win the war.” I’m like “what war?” Everything was a competition with him. He was so exhausting…so glad I’m done with him.

[niomizandervelt]

You're absolutely right. Everything & I mean EVERYTHING is turned into a competition.

[BriW]

I knew I wasn’t crazy when I did see this issue a lot in my past relationship 😂

[rastabae]

OMG !!! This was my relationship !!!! He was in competition with me all the way !!!! It was exhausting. Happy I left that situation because it wasn’t a relationship !!!
He never supportive of me at all. Never wanted to see me do good. Leave.. RUN !!!

[chrysiemeowrie]

Lee, I love that you entertain while you educate! You make my laugh every time. 😂

I was constantly arguing with my narc because it's like everything was a competition with him. If we both worked, and I mentioned how my back was hurting or I had a headache, he would say he was in pain too but he was somehow in "more" pain than I was because he worked a "longer" or "harder" shift. I would tell him it's not a competition. We can both hurt at the same time, but he made sure he would "one-up" me every time. Smh so glad to finally be moving forward and not being invalidated Every. Single. Day.

[Libbyloukrtc]

My narcissist X said, he wanted someone who would do whatever he said, without question and I wouldn't do that for him.

[IsabelGarcia-xlmb]

My ex constantly said i was arrogant. I could never speak of bettering myself in any way because he’d start calling me arrogant or telling me I think I’m Better than others. I will say though towards the end he had me really doubting myself. They have a way of making you feel inferior and actually doubting yourself.

[nisha]

Lee . My husband is narcissistic.. and my mother in law is also covert narcissists... They are codependent with each other.

[cherishedhouseofbeauty]

My current situation. Lee, You confirm for me every day that I'm doing right by leaving this man. Thanks!

[a.w.]

Lee., 💯 on target! It gets worse! I'm so glad that I divorce him, 9 months free and not looking back. I'm doing better in every area of my life!

[uduakudo]

Lee thank you! This information helped tremendously! I'm new to the world of narcissism.... & my experiences are starting to make sense.... I didn't want to accept that my Mother is a narc.... she's been sabotaging me for many years 😡

[M.T.]

Typically my brother. For him, everything is a competition. Just everything. He stays nice and polite when he speaks. But also thàt is part of the game of wanting to win. Because when anyone gets annoyed, he wins. He sees himself as the best person in everything. And he's my youngest brother but acts like he is my father.

[erikazella]

This always breaks my heart because my brother is going through the same thing with his wife and it’s sad to me because we used to be best friends 👯‍♂️my brother and I. And he’s super awesome so I understand that she would be jealous of him because she’s not as awesome although she could be but she’d rather bring him down rather than bring her self up. Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️💔

[siamesedreamsx]

We went to a lake recently, and the dementor (that's what I'm calling him now) took turns driving the boat with his brother.
When we arrived back at the dock, he had to loudly profess to his brother, how he drove it "so much better than he did."
His brother responded with, _"dude, why is everything a competition with you? Not everything is a competition!"_
It was the first time I ever heard anyone in his family really call him out on his arrogant behavior. It was so validating for me.

[adriancampbell]

Absolutely true to the core. My father once told my mother that she stole my brother and I from him. He also told me one time that he took care of us better than she did. What type of a person says these things? I’ll tell you…a self righteous narcissistic prick! Please keep in my mind they are married and have been for the past 40 years. He’s very jealous of the relationship she has with us and not. He can’t understand why he’s not like purely off of raising us and doing things for us. Believes he should be praised like God.

[MJ-qbph]

My mother had so much anger. No surprise that my narc brother married he bullies his wife into ‘submission’. It took me 30 years for the mask of his vulnerable covert wife to reveal she had turned into my mother and he my ground down father (he was an amazing guy who disengaged from the family and I can see why). So two narcs in a marriage - golden child and scared enabler kids later I have followed my dads lead - it is an inter generational curse and I like my dad have stepped out

[laurabriscoe]

Yes! My ex would interrupt me when I was meditating, beat me up before a job interview, call me a fake at every success, and when none of that worked he started sending memes to me where they degrade women "as a joke". I also heard after going no contact he would post lives on instagram smearing me over my ability to work from home. I mean seriously! What the actual F have I been dealing with. I'm actually embarrassed, in a positive way.

[cherrybacon]

My Wx used to get jealous if I got more attention than he did. He'd go silent on me if we were out somewhere then even silenter (if there is such a word) when we got home. 🍒

[orchidlily]

Looking back on old texts is so crazy bc over the yrs before knowing he was a narc one of my ongoing problems is I never felt like we were partners after 15yrs yet he wanted to use my credit to purchase a home & tried to take control over that bc he was putting down lil money. Bruh I’m the mortgage. Boy bye ✌🏽

[sallyb]

Yes, we either get stronger or we die.