Can narcissists change?

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[Dynamic_heart]

I do have empathy for my husband's unfortunate childhood, but that isn't an excuse to mistreat me.

[homechiq]

i stayed because i believed he will change, i left because i realized he never will... ❤️

[elinatuominen]

I really really really wanted to be the person who'd fix him with my pure love but that was impossible and it totally broke me. Now I'm picking up the pieces again and learning to love myself ❤️

[ruelpile]

I had a childhood that prompted narcissism within me. And for most of my life I was horribly narcissistic. I did not care about anyone other than myself. I was a horrible husband and father. It wasn’t until I ran into someone that I fell in love with who happened to be as narcissistic as me. OMG I finally felt the pain that had inflicted to everyone in my life. And I finally started to care about learning about myself. This is what started me on the path to change. I am so much more mindful to others’ feelings and emotions. So I do respectfully disagree—if a narcissist wants to change it is actually possible. And it definitely is worth doing the work. I am still working on myself but I am not the same person I was before I started to understand the harm I was causing.

[scorp]

One thing you said once was "Don't tell a narsasist where they're going wrong or they will know where to up their game"

[sigia]

Changing needs for them to take accountability and narcs will never take responsibility for anything...

[harremsis]

Nietzsche had a point when he said:
Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.

[annmccafferty]

Loving a narcissist can be extremely difficult because you cannot truly trust them with your vulnerability. One minute they are kind, the next they are cruel. Thank you Dr. Ramani!! As always, you are spot on!

[ericorr]

I am a mechanic and there are cars you can't fix. And that is the same thing I have found to be the case with a Narcissist. You just got to walk away.

[travis]

It’s always a power struggle with them. They are so empty inside and dark that they need to belittle you and make you feel inferior and instill fear in you. It’s so twisted, almost demonic.

[VizAnyaMSC]

It's not that people don't love you enough to change, it's more often that they don't love themselves enough.

[KeleiaJesus]

I thought he would change... NOW, I'm getting a divorce after 33 years AND now I'm moving on and wanting to volunteer somehow to help others who are stuck in this to get out! Praising God, I'm getting free of this nonsense.

[safebet]

They NEVER change, it’s their daily bread. Live it, eat it and love it, they feed off pain.

[webeducation]

Exactly how I got stuck. By believing anything and everything was possible.

[innocentnemesis]

Summary: not when it serves them so well. Society rewards narcissism

[Dan-udhz]

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

“A man who will enslave his own blood, may not be safely relied on for magnanimity.”

“We have all met a class of men, very remarkable for their activity, and who yet make but little headway in life; men who, in their noisy and impulsive pursuit of knowledge, never get beyond the outer bark of an idea, from a lack of patience and perseverance to dig to the core; men who begin everything and complete nothing; who see, but do not perceive; who read, but forget what they read, and are as if they had not read; who travel but go nowhere in particular, and have nothing of value to impart when they return.”


― Frederick Douglass

[ee_podcast]

They will never change. If they did, we as a society wouldn’t be in this mess that we are in today.

[immaculatedocnato]

Well, with time and mirroring, they may modify behavior a little but their mind is not wired towards empathy. You can't copy empathy or feelings.

[leovirgo]

My therapist once told me about my narcissistic mother, "That well is dry." Life changing advice.

[creepyamy]

Apologies without change are manipulation. Give up on the need of fixing with love, give up the hope for change. You are enough and you don't need a human reminder of the opposite. You deserve to be happy use all that love on yourself and invest it on warmhearted mutual people. Let the narcs do their homework for once. Decentralize them of your life!