Effects of Neglect, Abandonment & Chaos In Childhood (4-Video Compilation)

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If you were neglected or abandoned as a child, or your home life was full of chaos, you may still feel the effects through a pattern of triggers that push your nervous system into a dysregulated state. In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popular videos about CPTSD triggers that are common -- but most people haven't connected them with early trauma.

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[Kitkatteg]

I think at 50 I’m finally realizing how self centered and absorbed people even people that I considered to be good friends, never had an abandonment issue at all, if anything happy when people show themselves the door. Thinking about getting rid of my phone and go back to when life was simple.

[stevea]

My abandonment issues have taken over my life. I have crazy fear and anxiety. Please pray for me.

[Crownd_]

I have had so many people abandon me I've abandoned society! I'll be 65 years old in November. I just don't care anymore. I'm on the lunatic fringe. ✌️😎

[jendmusic]

Bless your heart. Your mom leaving you alone like that. Terrible. ❤

[AnushkaRoy]

You are making a huge difference in our lives. ❤️ Thank you for everything.

[LilByrdFly]

Yes so true, I have severe abandonment issues! I even start processing myself for being abandoned from friends before it ever happens! And I think doing that I chase them away before the friendship even develops.
I have issues if someone stops contacting me whom once did or I think they think I have too many problems and want to ditch me and it hurts. I stay away from men because my mom married 9 times plus all the boyfriends in between and when she would take off and cheat and ofcourse "she was forced to go with them??" Like they kidnapped her and she had no choice but I remember meeting them with her at Truck stops diners!!! She's was not always truthful
And sometimes she would leave us alone with these abusive "stepfathers", sometimes for months and we didn't know where she was, ofcourse it was probably against her will, why she didn't come home and I had terrible anxiety, I had an eating disorder because of all of this & one of them.... Did
Yeh so that happened too

[DoloresSeurat]

When I was 5 years old, my 15 year old brother ended his life. I have a few memories of him, most intensely a jealousy I felt when he spent time with the neighbors kids instead of me. After his death, I became aware of my father’s alcoholism, and his frequent threats to either leave us or end his own life also. All of my life I have felt like I couldn’t grieve for my brother in the same way my siblings did. They were all much older and had “valid” memories with him, and also because he didn’t like me. As a 50 year old woman just starting to peel away the emotional band aid, I have begun to understand how much all of that really molded my fears. My parents were never neglectful of me, so I couldn’t understand why losing someone is so devastating and impossible to move on from. This pain is more intense in romantic relationships. Thank you for the work you do. I can’t afford to see a doctor, but you are opening my eyes in so many ways. 💐

[christopherleubner]

My dad was an abusive alchoholic, snd my mother took her own life and blamed me for it in her note. Ended up getting raised by the system for most of my childhood. Was raised during teen years by my narcissist grandmother so got mental abuse from her. Went to college and gotva degree but kept to myself. Couldnt keep a job getting fired a lot for vague reasons like you dont fit the corporate culture. Then lived off internet sales of industrial and science stuff, again alone. Then got in legal trouble and lost everything and almost went for decades. Had a relationship with a covert narcissist that discarded me leavibg me homeless, then drifted after that survivibg off odd jobs. Feel hollowed out and dead inside. The feeling that death is freedom is strong.😢

[ionageman]

As weird as it is for this 57 year old man, abandonment is my earliest memory .

[DavidBausch]

Love is a trigger, having said good bye to my mother and sister at 4, and put up for adoption. Adopted parents Denied any help to keep in touch with them, but I was good with all of it the day I got stoned for the first time felt joy and happiness for the first time felt like the world was lifted off my shoulders

[arabellacox]

We're talking Borderline Personality Disorder here which people with CPTSD often acquire.
I can no longer enter into romantic relationships, the fear of abandonment, the dysregulation and intense lack of trust and paranoia are too much to bare.
I'm happier being single and sane!

[nycjanedoe]

This video has helped me the most so far, and ALL of your videos help me. Thank you so, so much. And thank you, Mae, for your openess in writing in. My own experiences with (formerly) close others have involved a lot of emotional avoidance and gaslighting and minimizing of how their avoidance impacted me. As things are now, I am not allowing people oriented that way to have access to me anymore. I have yet to meet people who want to show up, and too, I'm grateful to be free of the pain that wondering and waiting caused me.

[robertbenedek]

Excellent contribution.

Ana is a torch.

[GungaLaGunga]

Writing for me is the only thing that helps me. Thank you CCF!!!

[RealnowFP]

I appreciate your videos so much!
Your voice and energy is very calming. Your delivery of the information is clear and concise.
You are helping so many people and that is how you turn pain into power.

[jasonfitzpatrick]

I wonder if the woman I love was abandoned? I'm not sure what is happening with her. She is going through some tough personal stuff, but I get no details. It is tough to care for someone but to be kept on the outside. I just wish her love, self-love, to be surrounded by caring family and people, and to stay strong while she deals with things. I love you, my dear. Stay strong. You are so special and beautiful.

[Tuesdaywhitt]

Hugs, thank you for being so vulnerable with us ❤

[sunnyadams]

Hello from my Fringe !! I'm 58. Got CATAPULTED to THE Edge in 2020 @ 55 when I figured out that the last 18 insane years with a guy who I was dying for love of was not my own private hell - it was Narcissistic Abuse.

2 years later I had gotten away and had gotten a bunch of healing about him under my belt and had unncovered much broader issues and had to ASk Why was I available for such nonsense for SO long? How do I make sure that never hapoens again?
And I discovered my father really was a jackass and it had a name as well. Narcissist. And my mother had some serious issues being kind or loving or present...and I was codependent as all hell...
Now I'm just done with people. I'm kinda working throughhtge heartache of realizing I have actually been alone for ever...my family has never really been my fam. I just wasted my time trying to let myself believe i belonged there... I enjoy the Fringe now.

[RoadRunnergarage]

Therapy and Meds have helped me with re regulation..

[babaganouche]

The story you told reminded me about a terrible date story where I didn't have enough self respect. I had seen this guy only a few times and he love bombed me (before I knew what it was) and I totally fell for it.

Our next date we were supposed to go out at 6pm. When 6pm rolled around and he never messaged me I was patient because I figured he might have got caught up in school. At 6:30pm I messaged to ask if our plans were still on. He never got back to me until 7:15pm and did not apologize for being late. I was triggered and hungry. I decided to hear out why he was late. He explained that one of his roommate's friends dropped by, but his roommate wasn't home. He felt it would be rude to ask this guy to leave because he had plans and he also felt it would be rude to be on his phone (to message me) while he had company over...

Instead of having the self respect to politely ask him to get out of my car and then take myself out to dinner, I blew up on him. What he did was super rude and disrespectful, but instead of holding onto my dignity I let my CPTSD get the better of me and ended up being more in the wrong.