8 Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect

Childhood is commonly a period of our lives associated with blissfulness, fun, and most importantly, development. Unfortunately, not all of us are fortunate to grow up in great households. We can pick up on unhealthy behaviors that follow us throughout adulthood and impact the way we feel about ourselves and others. To better understand our emotional health and development, in this video, we’ll be looking at eight signs of emotional childhood neglect.

Disclaimer: Hey there Psych2Goers, this is a disclaimer that this video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or prevent any conditions. If you feel that you’re struggling, please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional. If you suspect you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, please contact the child abuse hotline.

Writer: Sidney Thompson
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Zuzia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[ComicalRealm]

"Being a parent means loving your children more than you've ever loved yourself" - Fred Flintstone

[jewell-_-]

TO PARENTS/ FUTURE PARENTS:

Children are...
1. Not your safety blankets
2. *Not your retirement plan or investment*
3. Not your punching bag and anger absorber
4. Not made to save a broken relationship
5. *Not made to save you from your own hell*

[anrijupiter]

When you realize your loving parents have been neglected your emotions to the point you’re emotionally fucked up. I have mom that deny my feelings. I have a dad that doesn’t give a shit (he really doesn’t know how to even talk to me) and blame my mom for me and my brother being the way we are. And what sucks is that I love them and they’ve given me everything except a place to express my emotions. I feel bad for even saying they’ve neglected my emotionally cuz they did give me a lot. But scars I have on my heart is too big to not blame them. But I love them.

[Nimatoir]

1:21 - You bottle up your emotions
1:51 - You put others first
2:15 - You struggle to identify emotions
2:41 - You feel broken
3:13 - You're hard on yourself
3:35 - You fear dependency
4:03 - You lack self esteem
4:31 - You're empty on the inside

[btcxwxy]

Me: my childhood wasn't that bad! I'm overreacti-

Also me: *gets all 8 signs*

[trinaq]

Remember, just because emotional abuse isn't as noticeable as physical abuse, doesn't mean that it's not as damaging or upsetting.

[stephaniesebek]

I'm nearly 50 and just recently learned that emotional neglect is considered abuse as well as contributing to trauma. Better late than never!

[queda]

28 and still in the healing state.
Parents and soon to be parents, validate your children and their feelings.

[NarcSurvivor]

A person who neglects themselves and is neglected by other people. What you experience in childhood created a pattern throughout your life.

[highliving-animatedvideos]

1:21 - You bottle up your emotions
1:50 - You put others first
2:15 - You struggle to identify your emotions
2:41 - You feel broken
3:12 - You're hard on yourself
3:35 - You fear dependency
4:03 - You lack self-esteem
4:32 - You're empty on the inside

Hope this was helpful! Much love from a small YouTuber ❤️🚀🌙

[seyoungchi]

When I was a child I slept in my parent's room. One night heavy rain and nonstop thunder occured all throughout the night. The lightning scared me so much but my mom wasn't next to me. I noticed the light - visible under the door- in the living room was on so she must be there working. I wanted to go to her and tell her I was scared but the fear that she would get angry at me overpowered the fear of deafening thunder and rain. So, I spent the rest of the night under a thin blanket hoping it will help block out the thunder.

When I remembered this I realized that I fear my mom more than I love her, and that sounds messed up.

[artisticweeabo]

My mother dealt with emotional neglect from her mom, even straight up abandonment when she was a baby. My mom once told me the reason why shes often criticized by my grandmother and her older relatives is because she allows me to express myself and talks with me during difficult moments instead if doing what they did which would just be to “get over it”. I’m glad my mom was the one to break the cycle but the neglect shes dealt with as a child up to adulthood has really messed with her, she went through a long phase where she would put others needs before her own needs and even health, it took myself, her aunt and her sister to get her to stop, shes even gotten better at opening up emotionally and I’m glad she has not just myself but other family and friends who have helped her grow into a new more independent and free person. I know she still has a long way to go and we’ve talked about having her and her sister (how had also dealt with mental manipulation from my grandmother) seeking professional help just to have a place to open up freely since I know theres more issues than what i already know now.

[lonewolfnergiganos]

Psych2go: makes a video of childhood neglect.

Toxic parents: *I'm gonna pretend I never saw this*

[justmajaa]

I am really sorry for people who were sad and still I am giving everyone a free birtuall hug <3

[juliabrnssr]

Somehow I knew this video was going to hit close to home, but I think it's better that I confront this. Always felt like I had a horrible childhood, but was too afraid to admit it, as I was well fed, went to a good school, and live in a good house with both parents. After this video I can say with confidence, my Childhood sucked. I would always bottle up my emotions. I would talk about problems I had but nobody cared, so I had to handle it on my own. Definitely put others first, this is all anyone ever wanted me to be so I just kept doing it. I've gotten better as I want to have me time but it's still there. When it came to identifying emotions, I always said "Good" when asked, it was my go to response as that's all anyone ever hears. The only other big one is a fear of dependency. Showing weakness of any kind was just an invitation to be invalidated, or bullied. I highly doubt anyone is going to read this, but this video, and this comment felt like really good therapy for me.

[kdogW-iwoq]

Instead of asking, “am I broken” look at how you are healing. Look at how you have progressed, even in the small victories. Be proud of every step. Each step takes work and you’ve put in the work. Progress isn’t perfection.

[hamcake]

"You can't be depressed! I bought you a hoodie 6 years ago and I feed you sometimes!" Yeah it sucks even more when your basic needs AND your emotional needs are neglected

[antbanks-swpt]

My parents would gaslight me to the point where I didn’t trust my own emotions and I would second guess myself. I’m glad I can use this video to identify the issues of my past and hopefully grow from it.

[aldlkj]

idk... does anyone else feel guilty thinking wether or not/ considering if you were neglected or abused?

[disco_depression]

Everyday feels like crawling in a desert with broken bits of my past coming for me. Childhood photos make me cry for hours. I don't care if there is a rainbow after the rain, I want to feel nothing anymore