HOW TO STOP BEING CODEPENDENT IN RELATIONSHIPS | LISA ROMANO

In this YouTube video, learn about how to stop being codependent in relationships with Lisa A. Romano, the Breakthrough Life Coach, codependency recovery expert, and bestselling author. If you are codependent, you will struggle with real intimacy, tend to be secretive, pretend you are happy, say yes when you mean no, and in most cases, you won't even know you're behaving in a maladaptive way.

Adult children of alcoholics, adult children of narcissistic parents, children of emotionally immature parents, and those raised in homes wrought by addiction and denial are denied basic life skills. We grow up feeling loyal to our families despite the negative effects of a toxic family system. Our parent's unhealed childhood trauma gets passed down onto us, otherwise known as generational trauma.

Codependency is born out of childhood emotional neglect. As children, we learn how to fawn and please our parents. This is rooted in a fear of abandonment or rejection. We do not know our psyches are being molded to adapt to our unhealthy environments. Thus, our subconscious minds become downloaded with maladaptive survival skills we do not know we have until some major life event.

Until we awaken from the codependent fog and heal what our parents did not in their lifetimes, we pass codependency and our unhealed childhood trauma onto future generations. The good news is we can heal.

My name is Lisa A. Romano, and after I was diagnosed with codependency, I made a promise to myself that one day, once I figured out how to heal codependency, I would spend the rest of my life helping to inspire other adult children of alcoholics and those who suffered from childhood trauma due to dysfunctional, toxic family systems, to awaken so they could transform their lives. I have successfully healed from codependency, and my life has completely transformed. I no longer live in fear of narcissists, nor do I fear abandonment or rejection. I have found the road back to me, and today, I am committed to finding as many ways to let the light in me shine.

I want the same for all adult children. This is my mission.

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[no-grumpy-old-men]

even after years of recovery and healing I still fall back into old habits so easily. I realise later that I was behaving in a codependent way.

[Waybyways]

No sense of self as a result of neglect and abuse magnified my life of confusion and an underlying animosity for my family which I could not make sense of. I am now 50 years old and after over half of my life being medicated, spent in therapy, and practicing Zen Buddhist meditation, I am only now becoming aware of these resultant thoughts and feelings.
This is in no small part thanks to you and your content. Your videos are so personal, because of your sharing, and very validating.
Unfortunately, my marriage is on the edge of a cliff. The thought of losing my 7 and 6 year old daughters makes it nearly impossible to “pick myself up by my bootstraps” and make a real change. But what will be will be. The challenge is in forgiving myself, not others. While the diagnoses over the years may have felt important at the time, in terms of identity and identification, in the end they don’t mean anything and are only starting points.

[fionapillay]

Thank you so much I typed in how to help stop myself from pleasing people, an you came up, listening you is an awakening itself I thank God you coming across you 🙏

[russellheyns]

14:05 “We think we are our emotions but we’re not” - slow clap. Beautiful

[danilaroche]

Both my parents were narcs. It nearly destroyed me but I realize they were/are sick.
Demonized. People can change if they receive salvation .

[NikkitaChante]

"I feel like my mom is behind a glass of pain" hit home, I can completely understand..

[LesleySASMR]

I’m seeking out therapy because I’m tired of my behavior with codependency. I hate being this way. And setting boundaries feels like a knife in my gut. I’ve been through 4 counselors that only seemed to get frustrated with me because I was struggling to focus on the work. If the new therapist doesn’t work out, Lisa, you’re my last hope. I’m so tired.

[ManolaGarcia-tv]

Beautiful, Lisa. Your words are really healing. Thank you.

[kellishomaker]

My childhood was so similar. Add a sadistic streak to both parents. Thanks for your honesty

[irinamladenoska]

Yes, I think only my father has really showed me love, because he was attuned with me and shared happines with me. He was listeneing music with me. I still have happy feelings about that.

[lisaanne]

This is absolutely an “aha” moment for me…thank you

[thelt]

you look 20 years younger! Gods gift of more youth for your loss of youth. ♡ much love

[tcz]

It took me 70 years to realize that I spent my entire life codependent. Always seeking approval and acceptance. My mother was a Grandiose Narcissistic Witch. She destroyed my father and brother, both committed suicide. I was a magnet for abusing women that took everything more than once. After much introspection, at this age, my favorite person is my German Shepard (and you).

[naturelover-fh]

I 100% know what you mean about the "dark energy" and getting sucked into the fight. The soon to be ex-narc is doing everything in his power to get me sucked in - threats, blackmail, guilt, shame, you name it he does it. He even tried a subtle death threat the other day. I have decided to not join the fight anymore and "shutty shutty".

[jenniferb]

This was so valuable for me, thank you.

[skehagias]

Thank you so much Lisa. I'm 50 years and have experienced my codependency for the first time ever. The realization of my hidden childhood trauma and how it's affected my recent ended relationship is liberating. My healing journey has started. Never too late

[essence____beauty_]

Gm from New York This is amazing thank you so much we still working on this ❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[MargaritaRodriguez-cjri]

Lisa, you are a Jewel! Thank you so much for lightening my/our way for recovery and reconnection! Deeply touching, extremely helpful! All the blessings to you and everyone one here!

[jenilynneful]

I had a wonderful childhood with two devoted parents who made sure I knew o was the center of their world. Unfortunately they had a terrible marriage

[feliciawilliams]

This really helped my. My mother was emotionally abusive and had borderline personality disorder and my ex abused me in the same ways she did and I believed in both cases I thought if I loved them enough theyd love me back and treat me better. My last rship I thought I was finally in a healthy stable rship then realized he was an alcoholic (like my father ) and I was def codeoendant on him and looked past every red flag and did my best to love and care for him till I realized hiw tixic it was and left him. Im going to start my healing journey today so I can attract a healthy rship.