Understanding Trauma - Part 9 - Fear

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To properly understand Complex Trauma, one must realize that the prominent, controlling emotion becomes fear (even though people may not even realize this about themselves). Tim helps us understand why this is so and what it looks like.

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[victoriamacgregor]

Was kicked out of my parents house at age 16 by narcissistic parents and have a ton of abandonment issues. I am a teacher now and my life is about taking care of my students. All of this is very true for me.

[ybois]

This is golden 🥇 praying for 7 billion views because everyone on this earth need to hear this

[rosaferreira]

fear has ruined my life and has controlled my life in all aspects of my life. Thank u for all that u do. Life changing 😢

[rubberbiscuit]

My unconscious beliefs were that anyone who really knew me would leave me, and I had to do things that others wanted in order to get "love". What a mess I made of my life with these beliefs! Unlearning this garbage has been good for me.

[johnjones]

His, lectures need to be played in prisons to help people in jail, just to be able to explain this let alone understand it shows how brilliant he is

[scottytv]

Mr. Tim is a genius as far as I am concerned. Thank you for this extremely informative and helpful talk. I wish I would have been in therapy with you and not wasted so years with other therapists. I learned more in 40 minutes than the last 50 years of therapy. God bless you sir and God bless everyone who gets this...

[lynnfisher]

Dr. Fletcher
I'am recovering from childhood trauma at the age of 77. Your videos have helped me immensely and I want to thank you for your dedication and compassion. My story, like everyone who suffers from childhood trauma is multifaceted and intensely complex. I am getting better everyday. I had to get to the where I realized that I had experienced this trauma beginning at age four and that all of my subconscious coping mechanisms had not only severely injured me but pretty much everyone with which I have had a relationship. One day I realized that I' had had enough physical and mental injury that it was time to begin to change my life. A quote from author George Sand, (Mary Ann Evans) is now my mantra " It is never too late to become the person you were meant to be."

[sarafantaye]

Mr. Fletcher, I hope this message is delivered to you. Please accept my deepest thanks and my sincere appreciation for what you are doing !!!

[velvetbees]

Some parents are emotionally immature people. So they are also emotionally immature parents too. . They can be shockingly detached from their kids emotional realities. Therefore, kids must not whine or complain. It messes up an emotionally immature parent's day. What a terrible thing for children to go through.

[lulalane]

I'm just coming to the realization that fear has major control over me. Lots of trauma, physical and verbal abuse. Thanks for validating what I've been feeling all of my life. You're a God send.

[angelag]

Yup this is me. My mom told me in my early teens she was going to give me up for adoption. That she had the papers ready, but when she held me she couldn't. That messed me up big time. Knowing you were about to be thrown away. Then grow up in an abusive home. Awesome. My siblings fron another marriage called me half breed. Yeah i get abandonment issues. This is so helpful. Thank you.

[keithboyer]

Oh my god. I have fear of FAILURE and fear of SUCCESS. I finally understand why I've been paralyzed these past few years.

[kurt]

This fits me perfectly. I've lived my entire life in fear. And when I meet a new person today if I just get the slightest hint of rejection from them I reject them first that way I don't have to deal with the pain of being rejected. But as I grow older my biggest fear is that I'm going to be rejected by God. Even though I believe in God and I pray and try to do right I don't believe that God loves me. It terrifies me to death that I'm going to stand in front of God and hear him say I never knew you

[awaywithfairies]

THIS man saves lives.

I can't thank you enough sir. God bless you ❤

[launacasey]

Ah, the painful truth. One of the hardest things to come to terms with is acknowledging your own value and worth. Your brain is literally wired to believe the opposite so it's a nasty battle of providing evidence that you have worth. You have to find a way to stay a step or two ahead of your inner critic. It can be so exhausting but it's definitely worth the fight.

[shaeholden]

I tried listening to this a few weeks ago and could not do it; I wasn't ready yet. I'm being treated for CPTSD due to narcissistic abuse throughout 24-year "marriage." Fear has always dominated my life and I am finally coming to grips with where it's rooted from, including my father leaving the home when I was a young child. Your wisdom is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[ms.suzylee]

Tim's work is a blessing for the many!

[iamwabisabi]

Riddled in fear since 4 years old when I watched my parents beat the shit out of each other. Then my mother emotionally detached. I was completely alone. This is so very true.

[LeighAnne-zg]

I had no one to run too. No one to connect with. It was a horrible childhood. These videos are amazing.