Complex Trauma - Dysfunctional Parenting + the DSM

Science is proving that the majority of mental health and addiction issues stem from Complex Trauma. Complex Trauma begins to occur in childhood, so truly understanding it requires looking at our childhoods and our parents/caregivers critically, honestly and compassionately. It isn’t always easy but worth the exploration. #addiction #addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #mental #timfletcher #complextrauma #complextraumaawareness #healing #fyp

[lahicks]

I work in behavioral health. Let me let you in on a secret, everyone can be diagnosed with something even the professionals giving you the diagnosis. Sometimes, the professionals are worse off than the client. Do not let someone tell you who you are, that is your job. When you think these professionals have all the answers that is when you are really lost. You are suppose to figure it out. Counseling is great as long as you are the one doing the work. Learning, growing and healing is an inside job no one can do it for you.

[kadrei]

I told my therapist not to diagnose me. My problem is more complex than that. I spend my life panicking while beeing stuck in freeze mode trying to be invisible, not to draw any attention towards me ever. I'm not autistic, I just missed learning how to be human, because both my parents were mentally ill and it wasn't safe for me to have needs as a Baby, toddler, child, teen and young adult. I need to catch up in every aspect of life. Fast.

[EbbingTowards]

Parental abuse of children is the number one predictor of a child's psychological dis-ease. IMHO

[truewantsaband]

Yes, because abused kids blame themselves. So a lot of people that probably could be diagnosed with PTSD, get other diagnoses that blame biology.

[heyerikan]

Couldn’t agree more. The love that my mother and I share today has healed all of my anxiety and depression. I love her so dearly.

[d.a.tsun]

PTSD = Parents Traumatized Sons & Daughters.

[lilianflynn]

There are many of these dysfunctional adults around wreaking havoc on society 😢
Bad parenting!!

[DonTwanX]

From my anecdotal experiences, I have found very few people who will entertain the idea that they are messed up because of their parents, and even less people who admit they may have messed up their kids. “We/they did the best we/they could do” is the refrain. I feel like a blob of clay that never got molded into anything. I feel useless in this corrupt world, just a lump drying up. I’m a very capable man, I just can’t seem to fit in with the modern workplace due to trauma responses to the corrosive competitiveness of the workplace. It seems like I just have super bad luck as well. In my current job, I got selected to be the expendable one placed in a role no one wants and no one stays in. Yet I am hanging on as a temp to (hopefully) hire employee. It’s caused me so much mental pain. A friend says I should leave but I feel so close to actually earning a decent income with benefits. I’ve already struggled through an extremely difficult new guy experience, why quit now. Boss has been unavailable for 11 weeks, went on leave without addressing anything about when I would be hired on. I’m getting impatient and starting to look else where. When she comes back, which I hope is soon, I hope she gives me an idea of where I will be hired on. I have done a great job with very little support. I was put on night shift by myself as a temp with a month of training in a complicated lab that requires a bachelors degree in a physical science just to get in as a temp. The median income of someone with a bachelor’s degree is $64, 000. I make $18 per hour with no benefits. I’m 37 years old and graduated in 2008. Only got one interview for a lab job after many job fairs and applications and didn’t get the job, likely because the person I would have replaced was young and left the lab after less than a year and they didn’t want to go through that again. This is my first lab job. I have more options in the labor market now, but I’m so sick of starting from the bottom. It seems like I do everything right in life and can’t get a break and it destroys my mental heath. I feel abandoned by life/god/the universe the way my parents neglected and abused me. It’s all one big dysregulated flashback from my first memories to my current state at 37 years old. At least now I know what went wrong. At one time I thought I was just defective and wanted to end myself to be free of the pain. Didn’t really want to die, just didn’t know who to escape the pain of constant failure and disappointment, guilt and envy make me hate myself and hate everyone who is happy and has a comfortable life. At least I know what went wrong and I have some hope things can get better.

[stavoreal]

I lovevthis man for the information he has brought to light. God bless him.

[doreenplischke]

Yes! And moving forward I thoroughly hope we will integrate that knowledge. It’s not hocus pocus but what is the missing link for now to even to begin to put all the models of psychology and psychiatry into a real context.

[blueskyalldayeveryday]

This gave me goosebumps. It is 100% true. And this is why there’s such thing as “generational trauma”. When these things are not caught and treated. People continue the cycle. I opted for not having chindren because I didn’t find effective help with my trauma and I’m positive I would continue passing something on one way or another. Although we’re doing much better in terms of awareness, we need to do much better in treatment. And we can’t stop procreating. 😢

[HappyDog-rjyk]

Dr. JUDITH HERMAN was the pioneer researcher in trauma and is the one who coined the term complex PTSD …. She never gets any credit for all her work.
I started reading her works over 10 years ago and it saved my life. It even told a therapist many years ago that I have C-PTSD (based on what I’ve had read)….. they didn’t even know what that meant. So much for board certified, gotta a bunch of letters behind their name therapists.

[Whatnow]

It’s truly criminal. It needs to be recognized. My mother got away with murder.

[DonnaBurke-pb]

Have gone to many counseling sessions with no mention of trauma at all.. I often wonder if I had any business having two kids.. so sad. I totally agree with you to. Thank you.

[ranc]

In 1952 the 1st edition of DSM had 100 pages. Text revision of 5th edition published in 2022 is 1100 pages. How do you explain this? We were complete idiots 60 years ago? Or something substantially wrong is going on.
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[debbiesday]

How did we as a species get to be such pathological parents?

[felishataylor]

It’s a cycle….the traumatized child grows up and so many times unaware of how to deal with their trauma as adults and in turn their children also grow up with dysfunction and so on.

[Ngan.marianguyen]

My mom NEVER listens to me. I have to keep repeating myself and screaming and get physical for her to pretend to take mw seriously. I feel sooo dismissed and overlooked, unimportant. Like i dont exist😢😢

[RubyLucero-utmd]

That's what happened to me as a kid I can't remember my 23456 old why I was abused as a baby from my dad and my mother didn't say anything as a teenager all she would say is stop it already your going to kill her wow

[catherinethorpe]

Agree, stop putting energy into catching bolted horses, stop them from needing to bolt.