Understanding Trauma - Part 21 - Parable of the Beginning of Trauma

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Tim tells a parable about how trauma began, and it highlights a subtle subconscious template that exists in our limbic brain - a template we are all vulnerable to listen to when our limbic brain is triggered today.

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[TrueSelf]

I made it to midnight. One day at a time. Learned much from this channel. My life hurts a lot. And I need to feel safe to heal & be real. 66 yrs old. 42 yrs sober. Raw and naked.

[claudine]

This is the story of my childhood or rather, the torture facility I used to survive in. Thank you Sir! You are providing precious service to those of us who suffered and those who have no access to mental health services. God bless you!

[MaryEavey-dcsk]

This is the story of my 37.5 yr marriage, except we never started on even ground. He was the Man of the Christian house and I was his Helpmeet to complete him and take care of him and the kids and it all went downhill really fast and hard. In 2005 he had a near-fatal motorcycle accident with a frontal lobe injury and that put the limbic brain in the drivers seat. I hung in there until my youngest turned 18 so there would not be any custody issues and left. Took her with me and started my new life at age 60. Best thing I ever did. He was not physically abusive and not really verbally so to me (but he was to the kids) but King Me selfish to the point of bankruptcy for the second time around if I had not left. First came in 2013. I developed autoimmune disease and he could not understand why his refusal to take care of staph infection wounds was making me feel like my life was in danger. His response was: "and your point The realtor would not even come into our house because she didnt think it was safe. I thought very long and hard about leaving him. A good 10 years before I did; so I did not take my vows lightly. But it was all take, take, take and when I wanted some give, give it always turned out to be more of a pain in the rear, so I just learned to go along to get along until I got the courage and opportunity to JUMP OUT!!!! Sad thing, is that there has not BEEN a turnaround and I doubt that there ever will be one because every person in the family has been pushed away except one son who hopes without much hope that he will change.

Thank God for dont think about the wish I woulda, coulda thoughts (much) anymore and I forgive him for the hurts, but I dont care to continue them, and only love him as a Brother In Christ, but really dont care to see him. He is sorry, but more like sorry he got caught. Regretful, but cannot have empathy for us. everything is on King Me's terms.

[BODIEDwithBRI]

You described my father to a T…
I woke up one day in my late 20’s and felt like I had no idea who I was
Thank you
Understanding further saves ❤

[arjulala]

How did Tim summarize my late father and our family life so perfectly!

[janemarlo]

Super-excellent explanation! Thanks for figuring it out for all of us 😊

[sloth]

Finally the story of Adam and Eve makes some sense! God bless you wise one.

[MariaPardo-MaryVi]

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[Retrogamer]

The distinction from the "child limbic " system is very helpful. Abuse of power, abuse or authority as the source of trauma. Looking forward to reading about those 12 needs. Alex.

[jessicabrittany]

I'm listening to this and I'm screaming internally. This could be a breakdown of my family and my childhood experience. Just swap Alex for my mother and this is almost a play by play of what my childhood looked like. Wow, it's equal parts sad and validating that what I went through was NOT normal

[meganpelletier]

You are saving so many lives with your brilliance ! Earth Angle Tim ! A infinite thank you!💐✨💖🥰

[lrain]

Thank you for posting this. I now understand my childhood, it's the story of my father. Years have gone by since he died and I've realised I've put so much hurt behind me, or rather thought I had! Your video puts everything into context. I'm starting to understand. It's time to heal now. I wish this subject was taught in school. Suffering would be stopped at a much younger age as we could get help to understand what's normal in a parent child relationship. I've followed you for a while and I'm starting to get to grips with the trauma. I never thought of it as trauma before. I believed beatings, criticism and authoritarian behaviour was normal.
Thank you again.

[Lyrielonwind]

I think your story explained human nature beautifully and easy to understand it. Thanks again Tim. ❤

[athomson]

Mothers often behave in the same way as Alex. It would be interesting to re-tell the story with the mother of Alex as the protagonist, ie. in the role of the traumatising narcissist.

[Cassie-ptmt]

You have described my childhood perfectly. My father was an authoritarian, raging, abusive alcoholic. I was his Scapegoat.

He was an Electrical Engineer and the managing Engineer of a team who built top secret military things.

He was God in our home.

[jkqgece]

Thank you so much, Tim, for pointing to reality so clearly.

These Christian stories (isolated, and distorted) are SO used to manipulate kids, that it has made me sick to a degree of suicidal life-situation (and recovering, as I’m able to).

Thanks ! 🙌🏼

[MyPrimeone]

LIFT saved me from hurting myself further, I'm graduating soon after six months of great therapy and will continue was just the surface I discovered about myself and my childhood
Healing starts with the LIFT program

[giezios]

Thank you so much for make us to understand who we are. Knowing who we are helps us to heal, individually, as a family and as a collective. Thanks for sharing your light and love with all of us 🙏🏼💕

[blessedly]

Commenting for your algorithm good sir & to thank you for what you're doing! I found you from the amazingly wholesome Theo Von interview. May your channel grow to the millions as it's much needed in this world. God bless you, your work & your whole family.

[JudyFrench-xj]

This parable is the story of my 40+ yr relationship with my soon-to-be ex-husband. The family is completely dismantled right now, and God knows I tried everything to heal this family (15 yrs. of marriage counseling, going to church and attending faith-charing/bible study sessions) but nothing was ever permanent. :(