BOSSY COWORKERS: How to Deal with Bossy People at Work

BOSSY COWORKERS: How to deal with bossy people at work
Are you dealing with a bossy coworker? Whether you’re working with the control freak at work, the entitled coworker (you know, the coworker who think they are the boss), a condescending coworker, or one of the bossy coworkers who doesn’t realize they are bossy, you need to know how to deal with bossy people at work. Good thing you’re here! Because in this video, I’m talking about how to deal with bossy coworkers, including how to deal with coworkers who think they are your boss. If you are dealing with difficult coworkers and a bossy colleague I’ve got you covered with these 5 steps for dealing with bossy coworkers. Maybe you’ll never be bffs and your bossy coworkers are not your friends, dealing with difficult coworkers requires you to lean how to deal with difficult people, build effective relationships with them, navigate the workplace politics they create - and build a heck of a lot of empathy in many cases.

I’d love to know what you would add to this video to help other Career Climbers who are dealing with bossy coworkers.

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[JenniferBrick]

Do you have a script to say no to bossy coworkers?

[dcabral]

My problem with bossy coworkers is simple, they think they are the ones in charge. How about I do my job, you do your job and stay in your lane.

[rubycubez]

"you're not the boss of me" is a whole lot better than my version of "do u ever shut the fuck up and mind your business?" Lol

[asadb]

the most toxic are bossy coworkers who have the big boss's ear. they misuse their trust to bad mouth people they hate. and the boss is worse who only listens to that person.

[BadEconomyOfficial]

I have a bossy coworker, I only talk to him if I have to.

[thinc]

I usually just ignore them. They likely won't rat you out because they would reveal themselves to the boss. If they do then they look bad. If the boss sides with them you need to get a new job.

[Dan]

We had this new worker in my team who thinks she is gods gift. She enjoys delegating all tasks to others and she does none. Unfortunately these types of people end up in management positions making life nightmare for everyone. They are unskilled, uneducated, lack people skills, bad tempered, two faced and baised. Promoted to management only because they are friends with the interviewer. I had many managers like this and I always end up leaving work because of them.

[yvetteshen]

I would appreciate a video on being more assertive

[venturini]

Actually you CAN say “you’re not the boss of me” to a peer.

[MisterMikeTexas]

I've talked back to bossy co-workers, and I've responded "Don't tell me what to do!" I've also done the opposite of what they ordered me which pissed one of them off!

[Strider]

I encountered one of these recently, she liked to act as a go between for the manager, so that she could hand out the managers orders, which of course you couldn't refuse. In the managers presence, if he asked someone to do something, she would parrot his request half a second later, and again it would appear as though you're doing her bidding. She had no common sense and questionable intelligence, she used to fall apart when asked difficult questions or if you pointed out a request was impossible, she must have picked this stuff up in a book or something.

[anniesshenanigans]

this has happened to me recently.... my coworker has been promoted to be the supervisor of our front desk staff. I am clinical staff so she has NO business getting bossy but it IS bleeding into our area. I think she is trying to be assertive, but it is coming off as treating others as if they don't know their job (all of us has done this much longer than she has). It's not giving tasks, it's more like critiquing the way we do our job. For YEARS we have all worked well together and step a fine line in challenging anyone's method of getting a job done, and never intervene unless it is a safety issue. Since she has taken on this extra duty, it is really affecting our teamwork, and most on the team pretty much want to keep her at arms length. I am saddened that she is turning this way, as I like her as a person. I have decided to keep my mouth shut about it, because I am leaving soon and I don't need the friction.

[dg]

I agree context is important. I have a young intern who is a good employee, but communicates in a bossy way. This is with everyone, even our mutual boss. She was rushing to help a customer and said “could you do xyz” to help the situation. I did, but later stated “hey if you feel rushed, I could take over & you could do the other task as well”. Simple, kind & straight forward ☺️

[rickyricardo]

I always had great success with finding the person after work and off the employers property...This changes things at work quite well :)

[Liz-wzdh]

It always depends *how* the person is bossy for me. If the person is really disrespectful and belittling, then I have a problem with it. If they're more collaborative and have experience, then that's fine. Most of the time the person is being really disrespectful. As mentioned below, usually the bossy person is a favorite and the resident control freak as well so you're not allowed to complain about *how* they are 'managing' you.

[savanafletcher]

I actually experienced a bossy coworker very recently and it's been going on for a few weeks. I was thinking of all the things I wanted to tell her based on how I was raised and what I was always taught. I then watched your video and a few videos before and actually thought of what to "perfessionally" per say to tell her. Maybe something along the lines of like "I am glad you are concerned about my job, and I am super glad you've became a crew leader, you really do work really hard. But I have been here since this morning and I understand you just clocked in. Since my shift is almost over, I would like to take the last couple of hours of my shift to calm down from the busy day I have had. Please and thank you."

[Rob-bvew]

This is more aimed at the cooperate business world I see. While it does provide some useful information, it doesn't really help my work environment. What I personally tend to say, is 'my wife is my boss'. It's the truth, and it also contains humour enough to dissolve or de-escalate tension. It also gets the message across without being nasty about it. As far as someone dumping tasking on you 'sorry, I'm busy', is simple honesty.

[starzintheskyz]

I just recently started a new job and one of my co-workers has only been employed for 4 months prior to me, and she acts like she's everyone's manager because she came from management background in the nursing field for the past 15 years so she thinks she can walk into a new company and act like she's the boss of everybody. It's crazy because my first day she trained me she talked s*** about some of the other co-workers who supposedly there was talk going back and forth and she kept running her mouth about people to me on my first day on the job meeting me. Needless to say she never really actually trained me because she wanted to take control over the job itself instead of having me actually do it so I can learn. I feel like it was a manipulating way of keeping me at a lower stance than her in the job itself. Basically a type of sabotage towards me. Last week I stood my ground and asked her politely if she actually wants to train me or not, and she didn't like that question and took offense and and now treats me as if I'm a lower standard than her. I don't understand why we let people like that get away with being that way. There's much more to my story but I'm only on my second week of the job and I'm sure I'll be expecting more to come from her.

[marshmallowcat]

I need help with this. I told my bossy coworker off and she's actually gotten worse.

[izzybizzy]

I've had lazy coworkers in retail that called me "bossy" for reminding them to at least ATTEMPT to do their share of the work. Like they think it's within their rights to put all the work on the one person actually doing their job when two people were scheduled to share the job...and they get mad and call me bossy if I ask them to pull their weight.