how to deal with coworkers who think they are your boss: 3 power tactics + Danger phrases

In this effective communication skills training course video, communication coach Dan O'Connor teaches you how to deal with coworkers who think they are your boss with 3 power tactics, plus you'll learn 3 bonus Danger phrases to purge from your verbal repertoire at work. So if you're dealing with rude coworkers who like to give you orders, you'll learn to do handle them like a boss. All this from the world's number one tactical communication skills trainer, author, and keynote speaker Dan O'Connor. #bossycoworkers #howtodealwithbossycoworkers #professionalcommunicationtrainingonline #communicationcoach

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Being a big believer in listening to what the world is telling you to do rather than telling the world what you’d like to do, once he received enough suggestions to get into teaching, Dan started teaching on the elementary level at Harland Johnson Del Bosque before becoming a professor at Autonoma University Guadalajara, and ultimately taking his unique teaching style to the world with Dan O’Connor Training.

Dan divides his time between the United States and Mexico, where he lives just outside of Guadalajara, in a lakeside village nestled in the Sierra Madres. It is there that Dan lives to spoil his two Springer Spaniels—Maggie Mae, his material girl If you have watched Dan’s videos on the 5 languages of love, appreciation, and respect you’ll know, and the four-legged relationship hero that’s changing the course of communication history: Buddy the Dog.

[Scorpio]

Can’t stand when you are the new person in the block and dealing with these toxic situations

[burrelleful]

“When you speak to me like I’m your employee” is GENIUS and is honestly a phrase I never would have thought about using. Also, it’s 100% HR proof as long as you say is calmly and in a respectful tone.

[riddlekillerkiller]

I was a newbie at work and when I first joined I was trained by an overbearing person that would order me around. Over time, as I learned more and was able to complete the task on hand, her overbearing attitude does not change. She would find fault in every single thing, would take pictures and point out your mistakes in the group chat...(mind you I work in retail, and when I mean little mistakes, I mean little), creating a tense attitude in the team where the atmosphere is cold and icy most of the time. It's been years, nobody has called her out as she is close to the higher-ups, very close. She is hardworking, yes, and I don't mind somebody who takes the lead, in fact, I welcome it. But, the way she orders you around is just rude (calls you names, belittles you, even the boss does not order people around like that)...and after years of working like this I have developed stress on levels I do not understand. I have tried to mediate the situation many times, I have also tried my best to accommodate and adapt to her, but I think it's high time I leave as I am sick of being put down so many times by the very same person. You cannot reason with her, it is impossible.

[monsijimenez]

I find it hard to visualize how a narcissist, arrogant co-worker would react positively to one's kind request.😐

[kellykerr]

I have been a property manager and community manager my whole life. I never stop learning and this is very helpful. Thank you.

[shrishtisrivastava]

Some people boss around intentionally to feel important. So it becomes really hard to give them a benefit of the doubt. BUT I really like the concept of boundary you mentioned. I recently started doing it when a new employee started talking to me as if he's my boss.

[mrc]

This is so good. I love this channel. To all those under the tyranny of working close to a very toxic worker. I salute you for trying to better yourself and lifting up the workplace. Even the toxic co worker

[rivkaruthgolan]

I had steam coming out of my ears today. This video gave me a way to take the high road. I am so grateful, Dan. This is a life-lesson I really need to learn.

[cmickie]

Damn, you’re my favorite. This is how I strive to communicate, and own my space while respecting others. Great advice!

[amerikanviking]

Haha! When someone says something like that to me, I normally just pretend I didn't hear them. If I cannot do that, I say, "Nah. I'm really busy and in a hurry. Maybe another time?", and calmly walk away. Most of the time, that sends the message. If someone is too dense to get that, then I simply continue to ignore them. Pretty simple and professional. Hasn't failed me yet.

[anyacika]

Thanks for the videos, I have a coworker who is rude, bossy, and talking down to us. We had a conflict between the two of us and I am not talking to her at all, just about job-related, nothing more and I am feeling so much better.

[snowvalkyrie]

So that’s where I messed up, I involved my boss in the confrontation, when I didn’t need to. I really suck at confrontation and standing up for myself and I am trying to change for the better.

[missmayajessica]

Thank you for this! I am currently working on a project that has a woman just like this - even barking at me. She has been trying to be the boss and tries to be rude to me because I have favor with the Supervisor and get things done. I have been ignoring her and following the Supervisor, and saying sarcastic comments when she tries me. However, today, I am going to assertively do this professionally and believe it is going to work.

[ezre]

Thanks so much for making these videos. I’ve been feeling so stressed at work because of a shift leader that we have, now I know how to be mindful when she talks AT me instead of with me

[lisar]

This is so helpful, I work with the rudest person and never know how to navigate the situation without sounding rude myself

[LivingWithPurpose]

I’m a huge fan of you, Dan! Your videos have helped improve my communication skills and made them more effective! This video was especially relevant in light of some experiences I’ve had in the past few weeks.

[Su_aSponte]

I’m so glad you exist!! This is a clear and practical message that I am confident I can implement. It rings true because I would feel respected if someone spoke to me this way. It seems like, with practice, i can use this to give language to teach others how I would like to be treated rather than allowing anger and resentment to fester as I tend to do when pressed. It will definitely take a few more listens to let this sink in. I’m looking forward to learning more from you! Much appreciated!

[catherineblue]

I have tried a new technique with my passive aggressive co-worker. When she walked up to my desk, I just yelled kumquat. She became so confused, she stopped coming to my desk 😅

[kameronstout]

This old man I work with literally gets so mad when you don’t do things his way. Maybe it’s because I’m only 21??? He’s not even the boss!

[cynthiamurray]

I love the grace you share for others... while educating others about how they should communicate, we should graceful!