Stop Reacting To Difficult Coworkers ⛔

Your toxic coworker is trying to get you to react. They want to make you look bad. That means if you react, they win. Which means you know how to stop reacting to toxic coworkers. Responding not reacting is really, key but it’s easier said than done. So in this video I’m sharing how to deescalate your reaction so you now how not to react emotionally, and three career success strategies that will help you rise above your difficult coworker’s drama and antics (‘cause let’s face it, playing their game you’re gonna lose, so you need to play your own).

CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro
0:21 We need to acknowledge this...
1:15 Why you can't react
2:26 This is why you WANT to react
3:50 How to deescalate your reaction
7:22 How to respond
12:11 Be prepared for conflict

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[caringdevotionals]

Just be a stone. A cold stone. Don't talk unless absolutely necessary. Just be a stone. A boring, unexciting, stone. Nothing interesting about you. Just a regular stone.

[heatherstacy]

It's called reactive abuse and they do it on purpose to make you look unstable. I have worked with people who will RELENTLESSLY say passive-aggressive crap, highlight your mistakes (while hiding their own), and play the victim when you try to bridge the gap and talk it out with them. Best thing you can do is keep your proficiency high and jump ship if your leadership is too stupid to see them as a problem. Funny thing is that you eventually learn that this means they are threatened by you.

[ilovemybeard]

It sucks that when bullies feel threatened...they like to sabotage, but no worries because I believe in Karma

[matthewsmith]

I hate co workers who undermine you and knock your confidence

[BeautifulJocelyn]

We had a team meeting at work to discuss things that need to improve. My manager asked if anyone had anything to say and I was surprised no one wanted to say anything, especially since lots of my coworkers are toxic. So, I bravely said this: “I just want to speak for myself and anyone who needs it. We spend most of the hours of our days here. We come here to do a job, not to be disrespected. I will not tolerate any unprofessional and disrespectful behavior around me. I am a very kind and respectful person so I expect to be treated like that. We are not in high school.”

Everyone was shocked that I said that and my manager was actually very happy I spoke up. So she said she also won’t tolerate toxic behavior.

[whistlinjug]

I really don’t get why people have to act toxic in the first place it baffles me

[YoungoneYoung-lmxe]

Be proactive and not reactive because once they get a reaction from you, they know how to push your buttons and they will do so anytime. Don't give them the satisfaction. The best response is no response.

[l.mack]

I wish not reacting would have worked for me. I kept my distance from people and did my best to keep my focus on work and keep conversations professional. I ended up losing my job because a few of my toxic coworkers spread false rumors about me to management trying to get me in trouble, and it WORKED. I'm not even exaggerating, when I tried to defend my truth, the manager looked me right in the eyes and told me he didn't believe me. They won. I feel hopeless, it feels that bad people will always win no matter what you do. 😞

[luisriba]

If someone is bullying you repetitively, highlighting your mistakes and undermining your work in front of everyone. Passive behavior is consider harassment and should not be tolerated.

[pnxpgzl]

This is why I’m so glad that I no longer work at these toxic jobs anymore. From being underestimated, bullied, underpaid and getting cut hours to a full time business entrepreneur feels good!!! Don’t let these toxic coworkers stop you from achieving your dreams!!!

[arizonaskye]

Wanting to "save face" is NOT the reason I want to react. It's bc I want to show them they don't intimidate me. So I disagree that they always want you to react. They like to think they have intimidated you into silence. They think you are too embarrassed to speak up. They themselves should be ashamed by showing such a lack of social skill and social grace. So once again, in my humble opinion, staying silent and letting them think they are intimidating you is NOT ALWAYS the best way to handle it. Not saying you are completely wrong as it varies case to case. But this is MY opinion in my own personal bully experiences.

[seshlauren]

Coworkers that always push work onto you and never help.

[sarahk]

Standing up for yourself while not reacting is called assertiveness

[StillGamingTM]

8:02 I once witnessed a teammate of color respond with exactly this question "What do you mean?" to a truly terrible racist joke the team leader made about banana's, casually referring to the teammate of color. The teammate who made the joke started tripping over words and stuff trying to get away from having to explain the joke -- it was so awkward and it was such a perfect response to the racist joke, I'll never forget it

[virtuouzgirl]

I don't feel like this is very realistic. Especially when dealing with discrimination as a black person, this doesn't work. I'm very non-confrontational and I can tell you that holding my tongue etc. has done nothing but enable bullies and toxic coworkers to ruin my reputation and try to get rid of me every time. In my experience, it's best to speak up but be wise about how you do it. Your peace of mind is also important.

[Noodleloveeeer]

I started a new job. And I was so excited and willing to do anything and help and it turned sideways. Your videos seriously helps me get through this new environment. And is helping me try to handle the situations better. Thank you.

[ccsnd]

The worst thing about being targeted by toxic coworkers is that it erodes at your sense of self-worth. You have to approach this from the inside-out. In other words, start from a place of truly respecting and honoring yourself no matter how you are treated by your coworkers and the right behavior/approach will automatically follow.

[Ninastarr]

There should really be support group meetings for people dealing with this stuff because it really drains the soul from u..I was so passionate for so long about my type of work and im mad at myself for allowing them to kill the enthusiasm inside me

[youyoujim]

Unfortunately I call people out on their shit Regardless if it's their game or not if your being a shitty person you should be reminded that you are being one . Because at the end of the day it'll make me feel better that I just didn't let that happen to me, I said what I said and didn't hold back, sometimes you have to take a stand against these people .

[hilmandapandula]

Silence sometimes is the key guys....do not waste your time with unnecessary co-workers. some co-workers ruin peoples day in order to feel better about themselves.... however I feel if it gets unprofessional I believe setting up a meeting and confronting them individually that will do...
I have experienced bullying as well but having your mind set on the goal they all disappear when you don’t react to their actions...., and while you do that, keep applying for a new you will get a company where it will feel better going to work every morning.