The Power of NOT Reacting - How To Control Your Emotions

Here's how to stop overreacting and how to control your emotions in the moment! The power of not reacting means leaving space to respond instead of reacting emotionally during a difficult conversation or situation. It's important to learn some self control techniques so that impulsive behavior doesn't get out of hand! This is where a little bit of psychology comes in handy!

Self control is a skill that's useful for all areas of your life, including interpersonal relationships. If you're able to stay calm and collected even when someone else triggers you, then you'll be able to better communicate and resolve conflicts more quickly. And that's just one way this skill can help you out!

If you feel like your emotions control you and you're always reacting to things and never get a chance to think about what's going on, then you need to learn how to control your reactivity. This video will teach you how to stop overreacting and stay calm when triggered emotionally, so you can start responding rationally instead.

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[joshuadavido]

Raise your hand if you’re still learning how to be human 🙋‍♂️

[lbflshm]

Not reacting is literally a superpower.

[beckyhayob]

I find it impossible to have empathy for a narcissist who has been verbally abusive, physically threatening and has told lies about me ... but the rationale and logic, controlling my voice is a helpful reminder. Thanks.

[jpelx]

My wife says that I have so many good qualities but one serious flaw, that is my anger issue. This one flaw has seriously undermined my potential in both professional and personal level. I am 65 now and can understand now that I have wasted my youth just by being angry.
I hope my belated realisation helps some angry young man!

[amourmtungo]

🤔I have also learned that anger is a punishment we give to ourselves because of the someone else’s mistakes. Thank you for the tips.

[curtismiller]

A friend of mine once told me to worry only about the things I can control, that's it. If you cant get along with someone, then it's time for someone to move along, and that's it.

[joshuaanzalone]

It's amazing when you finally learn to control your emotions

[MichelleFarrismft]

Identifying what triggers you emotionally IS the key, great content. The most common triggers I see are tone of voice, feeling criticized or disrespected or left out. We often take things another person doest to mean something negative about us or the relationship but often that's NOT true. We all make negative assumptions and if we can catch those before they trigger us, it can avoid that feeling getting more intense.

[chaseatlanticfan]

I would say controlling my emotions has helped me a tremendous amount. Even when I get angry, sad, or stressed I ALWAYS, ALWAYS take a deep breathe. Sometimes you even need to remove yourself from the situation *completely* to control yourself.
I’ve gotten good at controlling myself, even at my most ANGRIEST point because I had an abusive, narcissistic mother. Man, this woman knew how to push buttons. It was to an extent that she wanted me to blow up and give a reaction so she could have something else to feed off of to continue a petty disagreement/argument that wasn’t going anywhere. So I learned to immediately switch to logic mode. I detach myself from the situation entirely. It’s almost like I’m outside of myself looking at the other person reacting.

I make mental bulletpoints. I think about it logically from my perspective and how I’m seeing things, then I switch over to the other persons perspective. I try to rationalize how they might feel and possibly what their thinking. By this point I’m pretty calm and I can see a situation for what it is.

I bring myself back to the present moment. The entire time this person is reacting solely off of emotion, I just stare at them. Most of the time when people without thinking, their reacting based off of what they’ve assumed a situation to be without asking questions first. This doesn’t apply to EVERY situation, though. But most of the time, when it’s between you and another person and there’s that fine line of misunderstanding, that’s usually the case.

Another thing, if someone cannot communicate with you effectively in a respectful manner, disengage the conversation. They have no right to disrespect or talk down to you because their upset. Set that boundary, “If you can’t speak to me with respect, let’s not talk until you regulate yourself”.

Not reacting has saved me SO many times from saying/doing things that could seriously damage my relationships.

Identifying your triggers is also REALLY IMPORTANT to this whole process. My triggers are
-someone cursing at me
-someone raising their voice
-someone being disrespectful
-someone talking to me like I’m stupid or as if I should be intimidated by them

I say nothing when I get angry. No, not stonewalling. I don’t speak because I know how I get when I’m angry. I get incredibly disrespectful, insulting, and I curse people out.

Those were habits I had when I spoke out of turn based on my anger alone. That…isn’t a healthy thing to do so I committed for a year to control my anger. It was difficult at first but overtime I learned to get it under control pretty well. Now I don’t react. I explain my emotions best when I have time to think and analyze, since in my Carlie they can get very irrational. So I practice daily reflection and mindful thinking.

Like I said, every situation is different and this doesn’t apply to EVERY circumstance. But these are just pointers and things I’ve observed and reflected about over a 4 year period studying emotions

[KiwikimNZ]

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.

[WhitneyDahlin]

The best relationship advice I was ever given was always assume ignorance not malice. Because most people aren't intentionally trying to hurt you. They are just ignorant of how much they're hurting you, or not thinking of you at all. Very rarely is someone maliciously trying to hurt you. Human nature is to strike out and hurt someone who's hurt us especially when it's someone we care about. But that is the wrong thing to do and you have to fight that instinct. The vast majority of the time especially if it's someone you love they are not maliciously trying to hurt you. You shouldn't intentionally try to hurt someone you love. Because when you strike out at someone who's hurt you on purpose to hurt them back you are acting maliciously and being the malicious one.

[Jen_FromThaBloc]

My trigger is disrespect. Big or small doesn’t matter. Once I feel disrespected.. I feel like people think they can get over on me, then I feel like they think I’m weak or stupid. So I BLOW. I have no STOP once I’ve been triggered it happens so fast. I’m numb when I’m speaking. It’s scary.

[jannamartens]

I’ve been getting better at this . Especially important when dealing with toxic unstable people who like to pick fights

[retard_activated]

Oh boy! It took me a time to learn this on my own!!!! Once I realized that someone was deliberately provoking me for his own amusement I felt angry and determined to conquer my very intense emotions. I really wish I had B.D.'s wonderful videos back then, but grateful they're here now to help us all be better people!

Good Morning, B.D.! Great video, thanks for sharing!!! 💖

[avril.]

Occasionally people really are bullies. You don’t have to always be nice. You aren’t responsible for being empathetic with rude people. Sometimes just yawning or laughing while they are intentionally using you as a verbal punching bag works just as effectively and catches them off card.

[lglirik]

Controlling your emotions is not only a good practice for your professional well-being, but also for your social life. If you can control your emotions you can avoid making people upset with unpredictable emotional reactions.

[sieunpark]

I recently realized that controlling emotions especially toward somebody is really important, although it is not easy especially to parents because they are mostly expected to control and be responsible themselves. It needs a lot of practice, more than we think!

I do agree with most of the strategies discussed in this video but I also think at times it’s not ok to empathize and give someone a free pass for treating me poorly and I don’t want a compromise.

[katarzynakaczor]

You may not react - just ignore it is a good advise but to some point. If you never react people think they can do what they want to you! Sometimes you just need to set the boundries. Not everbody knows what emphaty is. It is important to know your triggers ...and take care of yourself.

[ynlgcnh]

I was looking for an English study video with a script for a long time with the right speed, pronunciation, and length of the video, and I finally found it. The content of the videos is beneficial and everything is perfect