SELF CHECK: How To NOT Be A Toxic Person

In this video, we'll be discussing the tips on how to not be a toxic person. A toxic person is someone who thrive on conflict and drama, whipping up trouble for themselves and those around them, this video is for you. Have you ever wondered if you were the toxic one in the relationship? This self check video is for you.

Disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This article was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.

Writer: Joshua Munoz
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Grace Cárdenas Cano
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Lilyys]

All my toxic queens and kings, let's at least be proud that we are here to change. We are willing to change, and it's a good start. I hope we get through this and live a positive life, the life we dream and wish for. Good luck to everyone out there.
Also, i am going to change myself this time, so you're not alone❤️

[nickmarch]

1.I don't get mad at little stuff anymore.
2.I forgive people easier coz I understand them.
3.I don't waste energy in arguing and judging people.Infact I act as an antidote to them so that they don't get hurt.
4.I don't need anyone or anything and flow with the time and tide.
5.I remind myself that I am working for myself in the struggle.
Hope this works for you too.

[AfterthymeGaming]

Perfect timing. Because I can't seem to stop myself from not on purposefully offend my friends every message I sent in our group chat.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Check your ego 0:36
2). Don't test others 1:26
3). Don't gossip 2:22
4). Don't be a doormat 2:55
5). Don't control people's mindsets 3:29
6). Don't avoid or delay difficult conversations 4:12

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[Noodle.Paws]

I just broke up with my partner and I realized I was very toxic in the relationship and now that I’m realizing it I want to change for the better. And fix myself mentally and physically. I know soon enough I’ll get better. But for now I know that I need some help to guide me on the way to be better. And this video is helping me out.

[ArjunGhimire-twyo]

Because of my toxic personality, i don't have any friends anymore i hated my self for my trash like personality but i just cannot let go my ego i am the worst..
I am really gratefull for the video thank you so much. I hope i become a good person..😣

[avidhossanmansur]

Habits that me a better person and improved my relationships drastically
1. I stopped lying- by simply not saying things that never occurred and avoiding exaggeration. This makes me more authentic and surprisingly my self-esteem issues just went away. I used to lie about my insecurities but now I realize that lying only added fuel to that fire.
2. I started judging my own daily choices as though I was looking at a character in a movie. This helps me avoid repeating mistakes and look at things from a different point of view.
3. In my journals I started to ask more questions instead of the usual "I'd never be able to do that" self-talk.
This has helped me look at my problems in a new light and get a lot of things I really wanted for a long time.

[viya]

I've always believed that mental illness is actually very common. I have never met anyone who seemed entirely put together right. Even the happy successful people seemed like they were afflicted by issues that were directly affecting their behavior and attitude towards other people. I've seen narcissism, psychosis, personality disorders, ADHD, and basically just insanity in all its various forms in just about everyone I know.

People are complicated, and their beliefs make things even more complicated because it extends beyond just what it takes to survive. They'll dislike you no matter what you do. Being liked, loved, cared about is nice but the only people that benefit from that are usually victims of their own success. Eventually being surrounded by yes men/women who use them to meet their ends.

[ChocoParfaitFra]

Tbh I hope that people won’t feel alarmed because of this video. We’re all guilty of something! That doesn’t make us toxic. It’s HOW OFTEN we manifest these traits
Also, being a doormat isn’t a toxic trait. It is toxic for ourselves, but not others. Usually when people use the word “toxic” they’re referring to the behaviors that hurt others

[Martyn_Wolf]

I think we've gotten to a point in where we now see everything as toxic.

Certain habits, traits, actions etc aren't necessarily toxic, they can be overwhelming in the long run.

Any thing can be toxic if the intention to cause harm is the reason these actions are done. Sometimes it's learnt from parents, relationships, freinds, social media etc

[artemiscat_]

Not testing others is a challenge for me, because I've been betrayed for being vulnerable so many times now I doubt everything. People can always fabricate things to deceive you.
IDK how to get out of it.

[sres]

I have a issue with gossiping, and I'm starting to learn the consequences of it after a long time best friend said she was taking a break from our friendship because of that said gossiping.. Thank you for shedding light on this!

[ceasinghornetd]

yoo perfect timing! i've been doing some serious self reflection and realizing i'm a pretty shitty person a lot of the time, so this is pretty helpful. it's gonna take a lot of work, but i really want to get better. i've been a jerk, and that's the exact opposite of who i want to be.

[Lamosica]

I lost two of my friends because of being defensive over a misunderstanding.

[camie]

I'm a doormat and a people pleaser. Most of the time it's because I'm scared. My childhood has taught me that if I don't give myself up for other people then I will be punished or I told that I'm not good enough. Of course my life is so much better now but I still struggle with these issues. I can understand how it hurts other people, and I am trying to give myself more respect. "You must respect yourself because you're hurting others." Just feels like another way of people-pleasing. I think you should respect yourself to respect yourself. And that is going to take a long time. Of course this is just my opinion I'm not a professional, and I haven't done as much research.

[rambows]

One thing I love about this channel is that it's one of the few self-help content providers that also create content which talks about how YOU can be toxic or have negative traits to improve. Everywhere else I see just explains ways OTHERS can be toxic only.

[Noethos]

Looking back on myself and how toxic my behaviour was pre-Borderline personality disorder diagnosis, I can't understand how I have any of those friends still left in my life 🙊 I'm not perfect now, but therapy has helped a ton, and just getting that diagnosis, having things make sense and learning how to be more introspective has honestly been a life saver. 💜

[bim]

Step 1: Don't throw the word "toxic" at everything you don't like for whatever nonsensical reasons there may be 😅

[azaria]

My ex was manipulative and always victim blamed themselves and a ton of other things, it came to a point where I couldn't talk to them about how I felt about our relationship because they would try and guilt trip me or blow up. while delaying our breakup and a needed talk was a decision that tortured me before it happened, but then I did it and broke it off and that brought me to question myself and belittle myself into staying in that relationship longer than I should have. But coming to terms that I overthink and delay things and seeing how that ended up with me being unhappy and with added trauma, it helped me gain confidence and helped me be more assertive in my boundaries and any difficult situations that Im in

[Matilda_]

Whoever watching this video intentionally I appreciate you guys accepted that you are being toxic!