9 Signs that You Should Say Nothing and Let it Go

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There's a time and place a way to speak up for yourself, but it's not always clear when it will be helpful and/or healthy, and when it can make things worse - or create unnecessary drama. Here you'll learn 9 different guidelines to follow the next time you're wondering if you should speak up so you can know with certainty whether or not it will be worth it.

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[vyps]

James 1:19 "Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry."

[TASconfidential]

I never address crap with problematic people. Here’s why:
1.) I don’t need their validation to admit they are wrong, because most people will never admit they are wrong.
2.) I don’t need the closure of an apology, because most people will never apologize.
3.) I don’t care to waste my breath telling anyone who has wronged me what they did because they already know what they did, and they already know they shouldn’t have done it.They know this, because they wouldn’t want the same thing done to them.

Just block them, get them out of your life, and move on.

[janathena]

It becomes crystal clear that you are in a troubled marriage when you get to the point that you can't talk to your spouse about anything.

[rainbow]

I think if one has to walk on egg shells with someone, it’s time to end the relationship whether it’s friendship or romantic relationship.

[amygalvin]

Don’t give your energy to energy vampires. You aren’t changing them and you’re only hurting yourself.

[franlawrence]

I learned… that if I have to explain to a grown adult on how to be a decent and civil person as if I’m explaining to a two year old… that conversation shouldn’t even be taking place and is a total waste of time… or worse.

[rebeccajones]

Thank you for this video. It is so true.

1) When they cannot handle feedback well.
2) When you know that it will not make a difference. (eg people who complain).
3) When it will make things worse. (They will use it against you or lash out).
4) When it is unsafe (could get aggressive, dangerous or mean)
5) When you have jot had the time to process. If you are just reacting...
6) When you will hurt someone because you feel wounded. Do not be a doormat but stay stable and assert your boundaries.
7) When the relationship is too superficial to withstand the comment.
8) When it goes against someone else's boundaries.
9) When not reacting is more powerful than getting hooked in. Don't take the bait and protect your peace.

[hieuhuynh]

My peace is too important to me to engage in foolishness. Silence is golden!

[kimhumiston]

Sometimes, you put up with somebody's crap for so long, and it's hard not to say something to lash out. Just walk away.

[Mandrake]

Some survival methods: Don’t give people power they don’t deserve. If someone upsets you, pause before blurting out something you don’t mean. Stay calm and don’t raise your voice. Know your value. Never forget your value, even if you’re surrounded by people who ignore you. Leave toxic people behind. One red flag is too many. Being single has a lot of good aspects. Follow your passion. Nature walks. Confront your fears if they are proving to be a road block to progress.

[tracirex]

not saying anything because you are choosing not to engage in an uncomfortable conversation is life transforming. i am allowed to say nothing. one of the most valuable skills you teach. thank you.

[echopathy]

Anything you say will be used against you.

[BlessedIndeed]

Let them miss your absence. Drives the dark side crazy. Spiritual reciprocity is so comforting.

[Rls]

I have found this "intentional non-engagement" to be really effective in dealing with really aggressive, irritating people.

[Rls]

I have also found that people seem to "take you more seriously" if you speak thoughtfully and intentionally instead of just merely "venting" all the time.

[luckyandblessed]

You should always set boundaries and speak up for yourself in a calm manner. With few words, then move on. Do not allow people to mistreat you, speak up for yourself ❤️

[Cranberries]

I have two “friends” that I recently have decided to fade out of my life. I have observed some of their behaviors over time, and I have realized that they are disordered and unstable (for example, I caught one in a huge lie, one has been struggling with certain issues for nearly 15 years and hasn’t gotten stable, things like that). Because they’re disordered, I came to the conclusion that confronting them, having a chat or setting boundaries would do no good. They need more than I am able to provide. I made my observations and moved on.

[leshpatty]

Sometimes get tired of saying nothing and putting up with the same rubbish all the time

[s.m.]

Also it’s how you give feedback, too. Delivery matters. Instead of saying, “Hey, can you not cut me of?” say “I hadn’t finished my point. Allow me to complete my thought, please.”

[juleskinkead]

each time is different but often in my life.. less is more... not saying something shuts it down, done