9 Signs You’re a Pleaser Love Style

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Credits:
Writer: Tristian Reed
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Khin Fong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:

Cassidy, J., Jones, J., & Shaver, P. (2013). Contributions of attachment theory and research: a framework for future research, translation, and policy. Development and Psychopathology, 25(4), 1415‐1434.

[beforethecoffeegetscold]

Can we just take a moment and talk about this cute and aesthetic artstyle/ animation😍

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway

[kenny-nkdb]

summary:
1. You want to be everything 0:44
2. You always apologize first 1:09
3. You text your partner constantly 1:35
4. You lie to protect your partner 2:02
5. You feel rejected often 2:36
6. You hesitate to break up 3:10
7. You do all the work 3:41
8. Your partner decides everything 4:14
9. You strive to be perfect 4:41
Recommend watching to learn more 🖤

[jordanlangstieh]

This was an, "oh no" moment for a lot of us. Yikes.

[zylunia]

the girl's voice is so soothing 🌸🎀

[peachesbunny]

And it's sad when you know you were in a pleaser love style relationship and has been taken advantage of, yet you can't bring yourself to change before you get hurt

[kayleedelory]

To the 0.001% that are seeing this, I hope you are well and safe and I want you to know if you are depressed and sad that you are not alone and you can ask anyone to help. If you are sad, I hope you become happy.

[curlymimi]

Gosh, I relate to so many of the points in this vidéo. I remember my past relationship, one day my ex-bf told me how he never travelled and wished so much to go to Poland, so for 2-3 months I litterally STARVE myself in order to save enough money for that trip, during which, my ex spent his whole time on his phone.... I felt so disrespected, and thought of breaking up, but I loved him so much I couldn’t bring myself to do that, and things were back to normal; until the christmas vacation, at a dinner at his parents’ house, he told me things between us couldn’t go further and broke up with me out of nowhere (like I didn’t see it coming, we were close as the beginning, no recent arguments...) and I just spent the worst new year all alone. Now looking back at that relationship, I feel like I disrespected myself in so many ways, and hope to act more consciously and not blinded by love in a future relationship. Psych2Go thank you for sharing this content ❤️

[mhm]

Do these things show in friendships too? I feel like this is how my friendship with one of my "close" friends is. I'm the one pushing it forward.

[DeletedUser]

In my relationships, I’ve been the pleaser love style. I have done all of these things on the list. I just wanted to be the perfect partner for my exes, and I wanted to make them as happy as possible... I prioritized their happiness. I can also relate with feeling constant rejection, and needing constant validation that they weren’t forgetting me. I always did all of the work, because I was afraid they would stop loving me. I realize now that I was always selling myself short. I was always engaging in toxic and unhealthy behavior. It was always so hard for me to let go.. even when the relationship was broken, I still clung onto hope.

[psychsigns]

People-pleasing always leads to massive disappointments. You entered the relationship to be a "partner", not a "pleaser".

[alienvibes]

I feel very called out on the never giving up on them and putting in all the work

[ms.mysterious]

Based on my experience, I realized that pleaser love styles lack trust in their relationships/friendships when it comes to bonding. With trust, there is no need to worry if our partner would leave or forget us if we don’t make the first move. This sense of trust is so powerful it can overcome feelings of anxiety or uneasiness towards our partner especially if there was no conflict to be worried about in the first place. It can also reassure us from any self-doubt that may reach to our head. Practice trust and things will flow your way.

[missjok]

Me, watching this video and relating to the points.


"uh oh..."

[hannah-fgrc]

this video is so aesthetic and it makes the way it's calling me out a little easier to bear

[YellowUtopian]

I love the pastel colors in this video!

[kawaii_kk]

But is there a way i can stop being like this?:(

[akulucy]

I really hope to become a psychologist when i grow up!!

[walelarose]

Me: -Sees title- Hmmm nah
After video: *FRICK*

[Cmdr_Kraid]

The main thing about a pleasurer(assuming I am one)is they feel lonely if they don't have someone to talk mainly a person can become a pleasure after getting rid of depression....like me for nowadays really feel lonely if noone talks to me and when one does talk I try my best to keep them happy and make them feel respectful and much more those which can't be described in