9 Signs Your Partner Doesn't Respect You | Mel Robbins

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When you get into a relationship, it's easy to dismiss the little rude or negative things that can happen as one offs and make excuses for them.

But you NEED to start calling out these 9 disrespectful behaviors that your partner might be engaging in.

These behaviors are real red flags when they go unaddressed.

In this video, I'll explain what makes a healthy relationship, what these 9 disrespectful behaviors are and how to address them with your partner.

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[jodipower]

I’m 62 and I’m so done dealing with my husband and his stone walling me or calling me a B..ch or flipping me off. This is the year that I leave, and Not come back . I so hope and pray I can make it on my own. I think it’ll be great! My part time job will be a full time job. I’m so looking forward to being happy after 30 years. 🙏🏻❤️🌻

[geminimonroe]

“Ignore what they say and watch how they act”. This is priceless.

[srw]

I am silent because anything I say is weaponized against me. Anything I say can and will be used against me. Besides the fact that Anything I say is dismissed or I am cut off and not allowed to say what I want. To me, this is not silent treatment, it means I have been silenced.

[pennymilliken]

I was married for 32 yrs. I'm also 62, and leaving was the best thing I ever did!

[rebeccagibbs]

The silence teaches you how being alone feels. So when you are alone, it isn't nearly as painful. But the person making you feel that loneliness doesn't realize that they are helping you to be comfortable in their absence.

[johnquinn]

Also when your partner is addicted to social media and constantly on their phones, at meal times, in bed,
When your talking to them and they ignore you because they have their head in their phones
It’s a marriage killer

[mijadelsol]

sometimes silence comes from shock, when such unbelievable, insane, hurtful behaviors are happening and you don’t know how to react you can’t react because the situation is too insane and to say that selfish is not an expensive view. Not everyone is silent because they’re manipulating. sometimes they’re silent because they’re scared. They’re traumatized. They’re in disbelief.
It’s an intrinsic instinct of feeling unsafe, that words will entangle you even deeper in a scary situation, that you no longer want to be a part of .

[goldengirl]

The silent treatment can also be because you express your feelings and they continue to be shot down and not taken seriously by your partner. So you then just put up your walls and decide to disengage to protect yourself .

[stoptheinsanity]

Lying is one of the hardest things to deal with in a relationship. It makes you question everything.

[TheMothernerd]

Without respect, there can be no love.

[bassman]

NUMBER 8 led to this comment: I have to say that the silent treatment in my case was done because of years of being unable to be vulnerable with my spouse. EVERY time I brought up a hurt it was turned back onto me. If there ever was and apology it was an angry apology and she would give me the silent treatment afterwards. I stopped be vulnerable which led to the “silent treatment”. I was done becoming vulnerable and having it thrown back into my face. Destroyed my mental health. I don’t feel guilty about it.

[mininggoldmeister]

Sometimes the silent treatment is a passive-agressive behavior that is punshing someone because they hurt you, (because they don't have healthy boundaries and don't know how to resolve conflict in a healthy way), or it can be a way of shutting down after numerous attempts of trying to handle conflict in a healthy way and having an emotionally immature partner who stonewalls, gaslights, or doesn't accept responsibility for their behavior and turns the issue into something being wrong with you.

[saira]

Watching this with tears rolling down my cheeks. This sh*t hurts like hell. Thinking of all of us who had to go through this hell and find the exit sign.

[lavernevictoriacarol]

What really sucks is when you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t, ALWAYS being blamed for whatever happened or didn’t happen. You cannot win with these people who are not honest with themselves about their own issues, all the while brining out the worst in you.

[porky]

After 55 yrs of marriage I can say that marriage is the loneliest place I have ever lived. I’m hoping if I endure to the end, perhaps the next life will be better.

[luceymajor]

The silent treatment can also be from feeling exhausted to the point where you don't even know what to say anymore.

[salomeyul]

I have no regrets when I say that I went through that person's phone and emails to find some sense of reality and break free from the gaslighting and abuse. By seeing all the crap they were hiding from me, the cheating, the lies, the way they were referring to me to others, I was finally able to leave and of course I went straight to therapy.
But going through your partner's private stuff is sometimes your only window to seeing who they actually are, and your only chance to make an informed decision.

[publicserviceannouncement]

I think there's a big difference between the silent treatment and knowing when to walk away from a non-productive discussion. If the other person is interrupting, minimizing, diverting, acting immature, etc. I usually stop talking and/or set a boundary.

[mstadpole]

It’s took me 5 years of therapy to even consider the idea my ex husband of 10 years was abusing me with narcissistic tactics. I thought we could always keep a friendship. After 7 years apart, it’s just not possible where I have taken steps to heal and understand my PTSD, but he still acts immature and childish. No contact was the only resolution to say to him. I am DONE and have a nice life without ME. I chose my value, independence and autonomy. I never needed that toxicity in my life, but everything you mentioned I had experienced with him. There was no true love from him. I was his servant to do his cooking, cleaning, then someone he could bully and tear down emotionally.

[LS-erpf]

Coercive behaviour is another form of trauma to a person - and it is shocking to read how many people become entrapped by it hoping the other person will improve, but they never do.