9 Signs You Have Unhealed Trauma (PART 1)

The trauma of a loved one's passing, the end of a meaningful relationship, or the rejection of a loved one often results in a tremendous amount of stress. Do you act as if everything is fine when it isn't?

#shorts #trauma #signs

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animation: Evelvaii
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:
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[TEAforMIND]

"A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. Just because you can take it doesn't mean you have to. You really don't have to!" - Dr. Thema.

[cathy]

1. Resist compliments
2. Fear of failure
3. Fear of success
4. Need to plan everything
5. Difficulty concentrating/zones out

[Psychgo]

Do you know anyone who is not troubled by a difficult past? Comment below if you do.

[codyarmstrong]

The key for me was true acceptance after receiving treatment (bipolar, lots of trauma). In order to fight past my insecurity and doubt, mistrust and anger, I had to just sit for awhile and just accept what happened, come to terms with the fact that not everyone or thing is the same. I looked for examples of good things in my life and found people that gave me the strength to move on and LIVE. It was truly like things turned on a dime. I landed a great job with and even better company. I met my current girlfriend and am incredibly happy. I finally feel like I can relax and not be so on edge all the time. So for anyone out there struggling, I'm begging you please do yourself a favor and book an appointment with your doctor and just go and tell them everything. If your family doesn't believe in it then just don't tell them you're doing it, it's none of their business anyway hence confidentiality. You mean something, and you owe it to yourself to get help and be able to be happy.

[antierkcer]

I noticed my brain, from all the unhealed trauma, it has started to make my trauma as an nostalgia and a depressed themed, comfort feeling when I relive my trauma due to having severe flashbacks that was extremely hard to get out of, years of nothing but Traumatic events since age 13, it has had resulted in my brain making me comfortable in my own suffering, creating a Trauma based nostalgia and a comfort.

[xlightlessx]

Fear of Failure
Definitely me. no matter what people tell me, I just never do things that progress my life or even confessing to someone

[marrytouchstone]

I have been struggling for the "needing to plan everything in my life" thing for a while now, it was a big step for me to delete some of my alarms on my phone to give myself some flexibility in my schedule.

[mia_theblade]

My grandpa was my only father figure growing up since my father left when I was 2. He and my grandma decided to go on a dangerous motorcycle trip to a different state for a vacation. The night before they left I had a really bad nightmare about him crashing and dying and begged them not to go. They went anyways and said they would be careful. It was those two and a family friend and her husband. The went up the mountain and wrecked. I still blame the friends to this day because they swerved over in front of my grandparents, and hit the front of their motorcycles. They wouldn’t even tell us why after. My grandma ended up breaking her foot and leg and my grandpa died. Months later close family just kept dying and I lost all feelings whatsoever. My mom thinks I’m just anxious and that I’ll get over it after I graduate high school. But there is something else than just anxiety. I know for sure that I have anxiety, depression, PTSD, and tics, but she thinks I want to go to the doctor just for medication. I want to move out soon.

[ayumikyoryokuna]

I told my mom I found it hard to concentrate and she said if I weren't so lazy and was actually willing to learn, then it wouldn't be so hard

[mamobee]

I went through a lot of traumatic events as a child teen and young adult but was always told by my dad to never talk about anything and now I have to deal with all my unresolved trauma and my fear of speaking as an adult on my own.

[shleepish]

i could have avoided my trauma but i was too afraid to speak up :(

[emilie]

Things get better for me on that night when I decided to sit down and write all about my trauma and cry my eyes out. I can finally accept who I am, accept the event (not completely tho) and move forward a little bit. I know taking a big step seems impossible, but if I take small steps at a time, I know I will be okay. Right now, all I need is little little improvement everyday, make sure today is slightly better than yesterday. That's enough for me.

[Ember_Kozume]

So according to this I have unhealed trauma… But… What is my trauma? Was it all that weird stuff I did as little, or…?

[lauralagier]

@Psych2Go can you please make a video: How to Heal Unhealed Trauma ? I think we need some more videos on this topic, pretty please!!

[Chrysaetos]

These were very helpful. Could you please do a video on fear of success and self-sabotaging behaviour? I feel like there's so much content on fear of failure, but very little on fear of success and how to deal with it and heal from it. A video on managing it would be highly appreciated. Thank you 💕

[neljay]

how too tell they have unheal trauma, you can see them having flashbacks

[psychicfoxvt]

I resonate with 3/4 of these and haven’t had any trauma that I’m aware of. I have really low self esteem and self deprecate myself far more than necessary, yet I don’t believe I’ve ever had a “traumatic memory”.

[zakeashalife]

The first one called me out like bro i wasnt ready😭

[astral-novasystem]

The gaps in memory are REAL. I have had a lot of trauma throughout my life to the point where I don't remember half of it, or at least most of the first 13ish years. I believe largely due to dissociation as a coping mechanism but Idk, I don't remember lol. Still working on it, my memory has been improving as I make new, better memories. It's just really relatable

[saaraSirpa]

I was bullied for two years and now I am afraid of everything like being alone, failure and other people in the same age