ADHD Life Lesson 4/50

Can you relate? 💙 - lesson 4
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Disclaimer: Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.

[Misfit.Sanctuary]

This was me for most of my life. Then i hit burniut and now just cant keep up with people pleasing anymore. Its so freeing to finally let that go

[EnVee]

Ask yourself " who are you doing it for" that hits hard because I don't know

[baronblitz]

I just live to make people happy, and it kills me to do so.

[heathertoomey]

This seems to be exactly what I've done until this year. I did enviably well in school all my life, since I actually started caring after elementary school, and did so well at not showing my negative emotions for fear of burdening other people that my family almost seemed to think I was literally flawless. Behind the scenes, I had panic attacks and emotional breakdowns, as well as frequent bouts of numbness or depression. I figured that hiding this was part of being perfect.

But recently I learned that it isn't a bad thing for me to feel or express negative emotions. And that when I tell others about my feelings, it makes me feel better. And some people don't feel burdened or overwhelmed by them. I am still in this learning process, but I'm finding it to be a revelatory experience and very worth it.

In Buddhism, I think it is refered to as "opening the throat chakra (the chakra of truth)". I'm Christian thru and thru, but I find Buddhist philosophy to be amazingly instructive, too. 😊

[mythrisrinivasan]

Thank you for bringing these things to light

[caymankatie]

damn....this hit spot on and deep....ty

[mytimedied]

Yes love and kindness and more will heal you

[ankleproblem]

ADHD Life Lessons. 4/50
ADHD 인생 교육. 4/50

If you're a high performer with ADHD
당신이 고성과자(많은 일을 해내는)인 ADHD라면

you might not enjoy your life as much as others think you do
다른 사람들이 느끼는 것보다 당신은 삶이 즐겁지 않을 수 있습니다.

because you're not actually doing it for yourself
왜냐하면 당신은 당신을 위해서 일하는 것이 아니기 때문입니다.

but to people please and avoid rejection
다른 사람들을 기쁘게 하고 거절당하는것을 피하기 위해서 하고있죠.

you put immense pressure on yourself to maintain this flawless image
이런 능력있는 모습을 유지하기 위해 스스로에게 엄청 압박을 하고 있습니다.

while you're mentally falling apart behind the scenes
동시에 내면에서는 정신적으로 떨어져나가고 있죠.

you bottle up your emotions because of that emotional pain
당신은 감정적 고통으로 인해 스스로의 감정을 옥죄고 막아둡니다.

you felt the last time you exposed yourself and others didn't approve
당신은 당신이 마지막으로 스스로를 보여줬을때 다른 사람들이 당신을 긍정하지 않았다고 느낍니다.

this is when i've had to learn the importance of vulnerability
이것이 내가 '약한 모습의 중요성'에 대해 배우고

and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care who honestly ask you how are you feeling and allow you to be yourself
당신 주변의 사람들을 당신을 케어하고, 솔직하게 어떻게 느끼는지 물어보고, 당신 자체로 있도록 허락해주는 사람들로 채우는 것의 중요성을 알게 했습니다.

practicing mindfulness has helped because once you actually observe your thoughts and beliefs from the outside
마옴보기(알아차림) 연습은 당신의 생각과 믿음을 외부에서 관찰하도록 도와주기 때문에 도움이 되었어요.

it's almost scary to learn how many things you're actually doing only to please others
얼마나 많은것들을 오직 다른 사람들을 위해서 하고있는지 알아나가는것은 거의 무서울 지경이었습니다.

being honest with yourself, setting boundaries and becoming vulnerable has been essential for me to not become numb and feel like i'm truly alive
스스로에게 솔직해지고, 내 경계를 설정하고, 약한 모습대로 있는 것이, 나를 이완되고 살아있다고 느끼게 하는데 필수적이라고 봅니다.

lesson 4 : ask yourself who you are really doing it for
레슨 4 : 당신이 누구를 위해서 이 일을 하는지를 스스로에게 물어보아라.

[_InsertName_]

Ah yes. My perfectionism now makes sense.

[tori]

I wish I could learn how do to this but I have never been surrounded by true people and even if I am now I can't tell because I don't know what it looks like. My mum never truly loved me she try's but she can't my father's not there much he's always at work and my little brother could not give a f@#$ about me my older brother just wouldn't understand and have friends but they wouldn't get it I haven't met anyone who gets me and I have the feeling of being numb to everything. My life is so much harder than people think it is I often wonder what someone else would think if they could see the real thoughts in my head

[Veronika-ke]

This hits!But not me. Because as much it hits I am closer to Most Dear God who understands me and loves me so much! My life is beautiful and more funny and substatnial than of all others surrounding me!❤😂

[FaithAndRepentance]

Until i couldnt and didnt anymore. Thenni broke. Afyer 3 years, im almost 5 months out of bed. Although sometimes i o ly get rhe dishes done before i rest again but im ok with thar for now

[jazzi]

Could u stop calling me out. It's getting weird. 😅

[Kaycebauer]

Why is people pleasing a negative as opposed to just being apart of who someone is?

[dlewis]

DONT STUFF FEELINGS UTS DEADLY GET IT UP OUT MINFULNESS TAKES POWER OUT OF STINKIN NEG THINKING. AA 12 STEP MTGS HUGE HELPS GROW WERE NOT ALONE WERE DO BOTH 1 ONE OF MANY 2 BE YOUR OWN BESTFRIEND