How I Got Over Heartbreak | Russell Brand

I've had my heart broken so much over the years, when I was a kid, a teenager, in my 20s, 30s...

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[Amar.Singh.G]

Heartbreak can be one of the best things to happen to you because you can put yourself back together again better than you were before 👌🏼

[thetricky]

don’t drown the brain in the “potential of what that person COULD HAVE been”

[gurudra]

A certain darkness is needed to see the stars

[fancyfree]

“If you make the non-sacred sacred - trouble and heartbreak is coming”. So true.

[twosocks]

8 years ago I went through a heartbreak. It was the worst pain I had ever experienced. My health diminished badly. It almost killed me. I no longer have a heart for one person, but weirdly I have an even bigger heart for many. I wish everyone on this thread a beautiful life.

[keciafine]

Getting over the death of my husband and daughter. I’ll never fully get over it

[niallmartin]

Heartbreak is a forced annihilation of the self. The older I get, the more I appreciate how fragile we are. You move on, but is there ever really “closure”. You can’t get “over it”, you have to go through it. Heartbreak is the cruellest life lesson. Are there easier ways to learn the same lessons? Probably not.

[Mel-]

My heartbreak was the 20 plus year marriage ending with his affair. Nearly finished me off, but in retrospect he did me a huge favour. I am so much happier without him.

[ShaunMoore-jmrz]

Currently going through the worst heartbreak of my life. On day 6 without her and I’m so lost currently. Though I feel like my world has shattered before me, I’m so glad to have had the opportunity to tell her that I will probably always love her and that I just want her to be happy. We did long distance for 4 years and we were so close to finally living together, but distance and time created a wedge between us. As much as I hurt, I hope she has the most amazing life and experience the richest happiness. It’s really freeing to admit the selflessness in how I love her.

[brandominoeffect]

Silence can be so loud in the beginning after a breakup but eventually it’ll become music to our ears

[jadearthur]

Currently grieving over a 5 year relationship. I still love him with all my heart but he stopped loving me and I can't do a single thing to change it. Feel like my soul has been torn in half. I'm not excited for the journey of getting through grief. I can only hope I can come back to this comment some day and say that I've healed.

[Elvira_Berzina]

It feels like being stabbed in the heart over and over again i Just wish there was a way I could delete him of my memory.

[wonderwoman]

Heartbreak is a physical pain in your heart, a loss and bereavement of a person who is still alive. You understand what drug addicts withdrawal feels like because the dopamine, oxytocin... has been snatched from you when it made you so happy, and made life worth living. You believe your pain is worse than anyone else’s, and depending on how special the person you loved was, you might be right. Time is the only thing that heals. In 4 years you would have completely healed, moved on, and learnt something from this. Just remember to never dwell on what could have been, don’t torture yourself, don’t ruminate. Accept the past

[returninnocence]

The ending of a relationship can actually feel quite similar to a death and people should be allowed time to greave and go through the stages (shock, anger, sadness and hopefully acceptance) 🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟

[mogznwaz]

I've had my heart broken and it is the worst pain I've ever felt. You never really get over it, not really, it changes you forever. Only way I managed to move on was to remember that 1) I only have 1 life and time is precious 2) time is a great healer 3) I tried to think of that experience as a chapter in my book. It's always part of my book but I can start a new chapter. 4) none of us are free from suffering in life 5) it is worth being kind to myself but also reflect on mistakes I might have made and things I could and should have done differently so I don't repeat them

[crystalsuishou]

After two thorough heartbreaks, and while my instincts tried to make me close my heart, I realised that opening my heart instead would be what would be making sense of everything I went through. Opening my heart, beyond anything, this is what healed my heartbreaks. Two months later, I got a nice e-mail from a person abroad, and one year later on the day, we got married. It will be fifteen years now, and I understand what I've been searching: it was deep harmony and tenderness.

[matthewjohngrabow]

Wow. "If you make the non-sacred sacred suffering is coming." Deep. True.

[siamaknooraei]

Heartbreak is a loss of meaning! Having to come to grips with the reality that the person who was once upon a time the centre of your world is now gone, you feel that your whole life story was an illusion. I’ve felt it on several levels with several people. It hurts like Hell. Every time I experienced heartbreak, I felt like I lost a part of myself. I had to eventually accept it and move on. One thing I am certain of is that heartbreak will increase your tolerance for emotional pain and make you more resilient.

[mariahspapaya]

Very spot on, Russell. I’m still experiencing pain over a year now for someone I dated for 2 months, but it felt like I knew him my whole life. I don’t fall in love easily, but when I do I’m all in. It was almost as if we saw right through each other and held each other to a higher standard and our relationship exposed our deepest wounds without any provocation. Maybe we needed time apart to do the inner work. I’m slowly getting towards acceptance and allowing what is, I just miss him so much sometimes. He was a gem in my life and I learned so much from him in such a short period, though sometimes I still grieve for not having more time with him. It is what it is, it’s all on its way...

[LevelUpYourLife]

Yes this is so true, we have to focus INWARDLY on healing our baggage, our trauma and our blocks so that we can free up our energy for actual healthy love.