If You Are Dealing With HEARTBREAK, Watch This! | Mel Robbins

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Break ups, divorce, heart break... It's all painful. But they don't have to make you feel BROKEN.

Here are my top 4 tips for navigating heart break ❤️

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[tikioluu]

I loved him with all my heart. I chose to grieve in peace than to stay and hope in anxiety.

[sophiesworld]

I’m going through a painful breakup. There were red flags early on in the relationship and I chose to ignore them. There was a voice inside my head saying this is not right, but I still kept going. Now it hurts. I feel empty, confused, angry, heartbroken. We didn’t even talk things through thoroughly. It ended in chaos and anger, even though there were parts of this love that were very deep and beautiful. I will get better. It’s just very tough right now. Time heals all wounds. May we rise again.

[Bossjennyb]

I just broke up with my BF of over a year. he is a good person and has a good heart, but there were red flags. Ive always ignored red flags. I did the right thing even though it was so beyond hard. Its not that I didn't love ended it because it was not right for me and ultimately for him as well. I am very proud of myself. Thank you Mel for always being there for me/us <3

[heyu]

He broke up with me because he’s an avoidant. The past 3 weeks since the breakup, I picked up F45, learned my 6th language, started buying myself flowers again, and have read 6 books and traveled to 3 new countries. And yes im freezing my eggs at 39! I’m no longer the person he broke up with.

[Ytdeletesallmycomments]

Broke it off. Avoidant crazy. I was done. I miss him his heart was good but i deserve real love and someone who deals with trauma just like i did.

[trinityp]

I am hurting and have noone to talk to. People always confide in me yet I have no one to talk to. It’s so painful. The worse part is having no energy, no desire, no spark for anything. I hope it gets better soon.
I just have to find the strength not to go into the same old cycle of he comes back. It hurts so much more every time.

[OrisStories]

For about a week? With all due respect, my last breakup brought me into a deep depression full of suicidal ideations for nearly half a year.

[ryankennedy]

I did a month ago. It broke me at first. However it was crucial. I was painting to many red flags, white. Reflecting on things I found myself being in love with the illusion of what I thought we were going to be. In reality it was tumultuous, toxic is the best way to describe it.
Don't worry. They will realize your worth when they can't find someone like you.

[moumitamandal]

If I get a notification of 'like' in this comment, I will get reminded that, I am not alone... People are with me...

[chrisgeorgiou]

I am currently in the midst of a break up that is completely 1 sided, im feeling as low as imaginable, what makes things even harder is she seems to be absolutely fine while I am falling apart. We have been together for 13 years, have 2 beautiful children and share a family home..it just feels my entire world has ended, over the past 2 weeks I have slept maybe 1-2 hours per night. I really hope this can get better.

[BloodBoughtMinistries]

It's been over 3 years and it still hurts. I no longer desire to have the person back who broke my heart. But it still hurts. I'm tired.

[sheonaghgall]

It takes more than WEEKS to get over a separation due to all of the practicalities. It also effects so many other relationships.

[John-jqxt]

I'm so sorry for everyone here all going through the same experience I did too I'm getting there but god it's hard when you believe you love them, I ignored red flags too I knew it wasn't right there were many problems along the way it became toxic, the break up was dreadful what happened and the confusion I feel at this moment and the pain just doesn't go away I'm with everyone here take care all

[isaachernandez]

This is the best advice I have seen or heard ! This is so me right now. I knew the 5 year relationship I was in was not someone I was gonna grow old with. Yes I stayed with her cause I loved her and I didn’t want to be alone. In the end she broke up with me for the same reason, she said we grew apart and it was beyond repair. Yes it hurt and I will be fine because I know it was over at least a year ago. The only thing I deal with is anger because less than a week after we broke up I saw her on a date. I had a gut feeling there was someone else and that confirmed it. Thing is you gotta let go and move on and even wish them the best. I’m working on me now and looking in the mirror.

[jfdc]

So much of our attractions are based on our parents. Not only do we need to learn and heal from this relationship, we also need to find the wound from our parents that’s having us be attracted to the same type of person for a partner. We keep trying to heal that parent wound by finding someone who will create the same wound so we can heal it this time.
Trauma bonding is a real thing.

[amalieuw]

I just broke up with my boyfriend that I’ve dated for a year. The attraction between us is so great and I really love him, but I ignored so many red flags and there were many times I had doubts about him. Decided to finally rip up that bandaid. Whole body is aching now. The pain is just so strong but I know it will get better

[TiffanyJ]

I’m dealing with heartbreak still after a rejection. We never dated or anything, but I will always remember him as a kind soul. This man really impacted me in ways I don’t even think about. He led me to some powerful speakers and I will always carry that with me. We weren’t meant to be, but I thank him for that.

[Bitplex]

Some fairly clinical and correct advice and also some very dismissive advice that minimises a lot of people's issues. Saying you'll feel a million times better in a week (post break up) is utterly ludicrous. It's also insanity to completely disregard a relationship's history, family dynamic, other roles the SO plays, sickness, motivational ruts, depression, ambivalence caused by external components such as pressures from family, friends, financial distress etc. The list goes on. Relationships are very intricate interwoven and THE most important social dynamic seen in humans, and we need to approach considering losing somebody exceptional from our lives with greater care and consideration than A+B =C.

[latonyaupchurch]

I was married for 17 years. If ghosted me and left me for someone else. It’s been 2 years. Still feeling heartbroken. I tried moving on just a few weeks ago . I felt so guilty. The hurt is unreal, I’ve been cheated on times before but this one was rough. I wish this would go away . The pain. The tears . I think it’s the rejection, not sure but I know he’s not worthy of all this energy.

[ChasenX]

Lost my girlfriend after 4 years because I wasn’t up to par with her expectations. I come from a bigger struggle than her and the last 6 months have been really hard on me. I wasn’t motivated and I lacked drive. I felt like I wasn’t what people wanted and I ended up being exactly that to her. I manifested my own downfall. I loved her with all my heart, I’d talk with her everyday, see each other weekly and take her out to nice places. I’d always praise her and I guess I put too much emotional dependency on her and it became overwhelming for her. I wished we communicated better and were able to resolve these issues. Most were fixable but she did not want to give us a chance to work through it. She claims to have fallen out of love with me. I gave her time, love and attention. It wasn’t enough and I’m feeling at all time low.