Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken | Gary Lewandowski | TEDxNavesink

Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Jr., professor of psychology at Monmouth University, makes the case that if your relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does. Leaving a bad relationship provides an opportunity for growth and learning.

[RyanMolkentin]

Who else here started watching this because they're feeling like shit? Probably just me

[misvideos]

“If a relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does”. This is the whole purpose of relationships, supporting and helping each other out.

[sauravraut]

who enjoys reading comment section to know personal feelings of others and trying to correlate with your own situation, thinking you're not the only one going through that shit.. :-D

[melissaescobar]

i'm here listening to this and crying because i cannot see the light in anything happening. i got dumped two days ago and i'm a complete wreck. this has been the hardest and most painful thing i've ever been through.

Update: I am doing SO much better now. I look at this comment and feel so sad I ever felt this way. The heartbreak will end, time will pass and you’ll be happy again, I promise. I’ve found someone that makes me so much happier than I ever was, it’s hard to believe I at one point felt this way. It hurts, and it will hurt for a while. Some days i felt physical pain in my chest but that pain has since gone away. I am know happier than I’ve ever been, I’m the most confident I’ve ever felt, and life has never felt so bright. Don’t doubt yourself happiness and don’t give up on the future. It’s very hard and it’s very sad, but please do not rob yourself of everything you can achieve and all the joy you will obtain after the heartbreak is over. It will be better and you will be happy. Do not give up.
If anyone needs someone to talk, I am here for you. Thank you to everyone who has checked in. ❤️

[leh]

Been through excruciatingly painful breakups, but time healed to where it hurts no more. Now I only have warm feelings for them as human beings. Life moved on and I became happy again. Hang in there and have strong faith. Just don't become cynical. Keep your innocence, your trust. Get involved in life again and keep your mind and heart open.

[gracenagy]

The way you love someone does not determine the way that person is going to love you back. Which sucks a lot and I’m learning that the hard way watching break up ted talks crying.

[AprettyLATINA]

Make sure to cry it out everyday. Hug something, your dog or cat, a stuffed animal? A loved one. Read some damn books. Educate yourself with positive stuff. Play video games, sit outside, go for a walk. Talk to anyone or write a journal.

I’m currently going through a tough breakup where I thought this guy loved me & would NEVER leave me. But guess what??? He doesn’t love me and he left me for good. But I’m going to become stronger everyday. It all takes time.
Yes it sucks sometimes. But I know it’s possible to get through anything.

You can and will get through it.
Give it time.

[ROCEMPOWERMENT]

people who feel good about the break up are the ones who initiated the leave in the first place..the ones that are hit hard are those that were not prepared..like those who left were

[TheNbrit]

"Great relationships seldom fail bad ones do as they should."

[francesjames]

The only time a break up does not leave you broken is if you had no deep feelings for your ex. But if you TRULY loved him/her, then the truth is this: You are gonna be shattered, completely and utterly DEVASTATED. You would have to be made of stone to feel okay about breaking up with a person that you loved.

[talkinya]

When my 20 year relationship ended I was like a little boat in a big storm, fighting my way through rough seas it took a while but in the end I reached calm waters and I’m stronger now.

[AliceSinclair]

It's not my first break up, but it's definitely my worst and most painful. If I didn't have a job I'd stay home, but I can't and I can't help but hurt. I don't wish this feeling on anyone

[drgfitdds]

When you really love the person who left you, the break up is not as easy as this guy said

[Billy]

This guy has never had his heart destroyed

[patricesf]

Sorry but the actual breakup experience is actually much, much worse than what I imagined it would be beforehand.

[bidewu]

I think most people end up here are heartbroken. But hey, what happened already happened, and one thing we know for sure is that overthink won’t do any good. I know is hard, is hard for everybody. But life goes on, this is not the end of the world. I hope you all feel better. Love yourself.

[ChillingatLP]

the loss of a romantic relationship will break your heart but you will heal.

[robc]

Soon as he said 'we need to talk' my heart sank.

[lanamuir]

For anyone going through a break-up, what follows will help you and it goes like this, "Gotta along without you before I met you, gonna get along without you now". This is a line from a 60's song that helped me heal from a five year romance with a man that I loved very, very much. I had the melody and words of this song in my head almost by the minute for over two years. I finally stopped crying, started sleeping through the night again, began to find interest in life once more, including people. And yes, I did fall in love again.

[johnq]

Someone once told me after a hard breakup. “It does get better, I can guarantee that but it gets worse before it’s better” and that really hit me at the time. Put things into perspective i guess