How to Get Over Someone

Getting over someone begins with the need to realise that there are curious pleasures available from NOT getting over them.

FURTHER READING

“We tend to be generous towards people who can’t get over someone. It sounds Romantic, if a little sad. The love affair happened a year ago now, but still the ex’s thoughts remain loyal to every detail of the story. Maybe they’ve moved to another country, perhaps they’ve married someone else, maybe they’re dead…”

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[grisvolonte]

When you’re trying to get over someone you never even dated 😭💀

[okaytommy]

The worst part is when they’ve had such an impact on your life but you had none in their life and don’t even think about you anymore.

[ATrueLoveOfficial]

Feel the pain until it hurts no more. But first, you must accept the fact that it is over.

[lvlwxrw]

Its funny how one day you meet someone that both of you fall in love with each other, share your secrets, share intimacy, be best friend and a lover, fight for it, build trust and make memories, get to know everything for the other significant, make plans for the future, spend years together until one day everything disappears in a second....

[Nillowo]

As my therapist once said “it’s easier to hang onto someone and not give yourself other opportunities than to put yourself out there and risk failure.” That’s a paraphrase but like damn. Too real.

[Breakbeats.]

How did i get over my last girlfriend? I told myself, "look, life is going to suck really bad for the next few months, just ride out the storm and the day will come when you feel better."

[swadey.]

I hate thinking "what if I had done this instead of that?" Trying to fix the past never helped.

[jordanibr]

The most comforting part is that there are others we will eventually meet with the same qualities, but not the same problems. It's almost been a year since my boyfriend of 6 yrs and I split. Yes I still cry, yes I still dream of him, yes it still hurts, but I've learned that working on my insecurities and improving my life financially, physically and mentally have all helped me move on and meet others not just romantically but also helped me make more friendships along the way and reconnect with the things I used to love doing before I met Him. I'm happy i DID meet him because he set a standard of how i want to be treated, and I learned a lot from that relationship. If we stayed together I dont think I would've gone through as much personal growth as I am right now.

[Cireztualp]

For some reason i always get lost in my thoughts at some point of the video.

[Avalik]

I think I'm sort of in love with my ex but I'm more in love with the memories we had together and how many more we could've made

[elytro]

Your mom spent 9 months making your heart, dont let someone break it in one day.

[secondloveadvice]

It’s very hard to get over someone as we all over-romanticise the past and are often in love with being in love rather than in love with the real person we lost.

[EricaShady]

If you can't be happy by yourself then, you will not be happy with someone else. And no human is worth such adoration.

[RuSCc]

It's so hard when you're alone at night, i feel so down..

[yeaimleah_]

it hurts, when ur in love with someone. then they dont love u back

[fhfs]

1.Stay busy.
2. Stay off social media
3. Stay away from clubs or lounges you went to together.
4. Join groups and meet new people
5. Make a weekly planner and weekly goals that has you moving.

[Jessicaunarex]

I have found that at least for me, unrequited love stemmed from my need for validation from the person. 'If I can only get him to want me, then I'll be happy.' But really, think about it. There's a reason, and often a very good one, for why it didn't work out. If they don't feel it in return, they're saving you the angst of more heartache by saying no. Stop idealizing them and don't look at their social media if it hurts. Block them if you need to. You'll recover and find someone better for you.

[danielfadavi]

The problem is I can’t find another person to put my mind on so I keep going back to fixating on the same person

[SadeMetsavirta]

I don't know how to describe it... I wish I had never met this person but somehow that thought terrifies me. I know I need to let go and move on, this person doesn't feel the same way and that's that.

[justmejennab]

I think what we often miss is more of the way the person made us feel, rather than the actual person themselves. If they were the right one, then you would still be together. The sooner you let go of that false hope, the sooner you will find the real one.