How to Get Over a Heartbreak

How I got here…

21: Graduated Vanderbilt in 3 years Magna Cum Laude, and took a fancy consulting job.
23 yrs old: Left my fancy consulting job to start a business (a gym).
24 yrs old: Opened 5 gym locations.
26 yrs old: Closed down 6th gym. Lost everything.
26 yrs old: Got back to launching gyms (launched 33). Then, lost everything for a 2nd time.
26 yrs old: In desperation, started licensing model as a hail mary. It worked.
27 yrs old: "Gym Launch" does $3M profit the next 6 months. Then $17M profit next 12 months.
28 yrs old: Started Prestige Labs. $20M the first year.
29 yrs old: Launched ALAN, a software company for agencies to work leads for customers. Scaled to $1.7mmo within 6 months.
31 yrs old: Sold 75% of UseAlan to a strategic buyer in an all stock deal.
31 yrs old: Sold 66% of Gym Launch & Prestige Labs at $46.2M valuation in all-cash deal to American Pacific Group. (you can google it)
32 yrs old: Started making free content showing how we grow companies to make real business education accessible to everyone (and) to attract business owners to invest or scale their businesses.

Today: Our portfolio now does $200M/yr between 10 companies. The largest doing $100M/yr the smallest doing $5M per year. Our ownership varies between 20% and 100% ownership of the companies. Many of them we invested in early and helped grow (which is how we make our money - not youtube videos).

To all the gladiators in the arena, we’re all in the middle of writing our own stories. The worse the monsters, the more epic the story.

You either get an epic outcome or an epic story. Both mean you win.

Keep crushing. May your desires be greater than your obstacles.

Never quit,

Alex

*FULL DISCLOSURE*
I make content to make money - just - on a longer time horizon than most. I want to build trust with business owners so we can find the best ones and help them scale. And if they’re awesome, write them a check and go all the way as partners.

[lc-fuxy]

The person you move on with immediately after a relationship is a Rebound.

[prof.soares]

Terrible advice. After a break up, just pretend relationships don't exist. Focus on other areas of life.

[jabez]

This is advice for men who haven’t fully developed their frontal lobes yet.

[joeyrivera]

I did this after breakups when I was younger and it never made me forget her. I just felt better at the moment and ended up taking out my hurt on her and just using the new person... thats not cool. As you get older you learn that after a breakup the best thing to do is to elevate yourself and your life!! Forget about women til you elevate your life, at that point you will find someone better! Trust me!

[chez_calabrese]

Rebounding and infecting a new person with your heartache is absolutely the wrong thing to do and not fair to the new person either

[robblivion]

Tell me you’re a sociopath without telling me you’re a sociopath

[Dboyy]

This made me feel even worse about my current situation 😭😭😭

[sinaakesta]

Alex: i have brain, i don’t need feelings😂

[TheBeautifulShutin]

How would it be possible to find someone compatible that quickly? You would have to be extremely lucky, or your standards would have to be low to non-existent.

[rhpmike]

One problem with very successful people is that they think that because they are experts in a field or two they're an expert in everything so they just spout advice about topics they have no idea what they're talking about.

[yellowishgreendragon.-.]

I don't want anyone else. I could. But I don't want to. I've put 110% into this the entire 3 years. It feels like I was never enough, that this proves nothing will ever work.

[YAKSRIGHT]

Yep that’s it carry the pain straight into the next relationship and use the honeymoon period to glaze over any growth or accountability

[dbez]

Alex when was the last time you had to get over a breakup? I think you’ve been out of the game too long 😂

[hrsjageryt]

I split with my fiance in 2022.

I started working in clubs, i started running 3 clubs for my boss & my boss became my best friend.

My boss is a G .. he honestly is badass and the girls he introduced me to are probably 3 to 5 times upgraded from my last but id go back to my ex any day.

[mahikumawat]

LISTEN - Its not about valuing a relationship we were in its just that we need break to vaalue ourselves and our feelings first and heal ourselves first and get to a emotionally healthy state so that we dont have a next unhealthy connection where we end up being codependent and be sad coz you think that other person will fix our broken heart ..the only person who can heal you is you yourself thats why we shouldn't just jump into next relationship after getting a heartbreak coz then we will sign up for a worst heartbreak then before due to previous unhealed emotions ..

[zachnewkirk]

If you aren’t heartbroken over loosing someone and you can immediately date someone else then you just figured out you never loved them. You don’t get over being heartbroken instantly that’s not how it works

[Alex-xtff]

This advice applies mostly to guys. I can’t do that, I have to grieve honestly. Because it is like a lost, someone die, you won’t go immediately to find someone else, you grieve that loss

[Rafedavic]

The field of psychology would beg to differ.

[NorthernElevation]

I'm not sure that it's normally healthy to move abruptly from a longer meaningful relationship to a new relationship you expect to have meaning, but I think there are exceptions and circumstances that could contribute to making it healthy and successful.

Definitely try to grow and improve your partner selection and relationship health upon starting a new relationship vs your previous ones!

[tresjolieme]

Even if the next person is better they deserve better then being a rebound they deserve you fully. He's never been in love its obvious.