Andrew Huberman Explains Why It's So Hard To Get Over A Heartbreak

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[probablynotanagent]

My girlfriend just left me out of the blue last week. Everything was amazing then it wasn't and she was gone.. I'm a prior firefighter in addition to military service w deployments...and I get the same feeling of loss and pain from my memories of it as I do of her.
I hate what's become of me out of the grief

[schneir]

My ex girlfriend completely wrecked me this past August, just two weeks after my dad died. I lost my job of almost five years the next week because my "performance had declined" since my dad died.

I found out that my girlfriend had moved in with this guy she told me I didn't need to worry about and was just her friend. He's a convicted rapist on the sex offender registry. He's ugly af, actually shorter than I am and way fatter, even before I got into shape like I am now.

I started working out when I met my ex, to be more desirable for her. I really started lifting weights and getting into improving my physique after everything happened this past summer. Another bright side is that I didn't relapse on opioids. The last time I got high was December 17, 2018. I overdosed then and it was pretty scary.

[TheRHendershot]

Thank you gentlemen. There are two women I still miss. However, I continue to love my wife more than ever. But that feeling mixture is tough, excruciating, liberating and longing for what was, why could have been, what is and what will be.

[admirallightningbolt]

It’s either you left them, in which case you shouldn’t feel like there was anything lost. Or they left you, in which case you can be sure they weren’t the right person for you since they didn’t appreciate all that you have to offer. Luckily they didn’t stick around any longer to delay you from finding who you’re meant for.

[bondjames]

The mind is like a computer connected with neurons and all working together to form reality.
If you are blindsided by someone who cheated on you or doesn't Love you anymore the fabric of your reality breaks.
If the mind was wrong about something it took for granted as reality the whole system is affected.
Everything becomes questionable especially in relationships.

[GG.Sanchoo]

I still miss my ex. Haven’t talked in a month, feeling better but idk man. I don’t know if she’ll come back or not but I’m not begging or crying for it.

[memastarful]

I still miss my ex Chilean boyfriend even after years have passed. I even have dreams about him sometimes. I'm sure he's moved on long ago

[drrd]

I couldn't get over a break up for 7 years, we broke up because I moved away, I deleted his number thinking I was starting a new life, I kept seeing him on social media and I said "Hi" on social mdia after 4 years, I honestly always checked up on him because I still loved him eventhough our lives went different ways, I stopped checking up on him after he deleted his social media but by then he looked like a different person and was talking about doing drugs and beating people up, he looked like a crack cocaine addict, my attraction went away but I was still very concerned for his safety and health but he deleted all his social media and I got over him fast after that.
He was obviously going through addiction but I had rose tinted glasses on because I was young and he was so handsome and lovely but I think about our time together and he did have an addictive personality for sure.
As a older woman I would have never looked his way but yeah, social media helped me keep the rose tinted glasses on longer than I need to, like, he didn't post about rehab on social media

[robinhoneyman]

Try doing the clean break when your trying to sell your marital home of 20 years. Neither can afford to leave .. its hard

[RUPSIEISMYNAME]

To anyone who is in a heartbreak. And the relation is really ended. Dont contact each other for half a year. Otherwise that heartbrake will drag on for a good amount of years. Something i should have known sooner.

[johnstrawb]

This is nonsense. 30-40 years ago it was just as brutal to get your heart broken. It didn't matter that you couldn't follow your ex- on social media because you could always run into her by accident around town, hear about her from a friend, and just remembering her 24 hours a day ANYWAY is a misery that only very slowly departs even if you're alone on an island.

[KamvaNtontela-rjmo]

She blocked me out of the blue I thought she was happy. Oh well who cares ? 😂