Why Relationships Don't Work Anymore

👉 In this eye-opening episode, Teal Swan exposes the shocking truth that traditional relationship models simply don't work in today's rapidly evolving world. She explains the social shifts that have made old templates for love, marriage and family obsolete. Teal then reveals the key to relationship success going forward: customizing partnerships based on our authentic needs and desires, rather than trying to force ourselves into outdated molds. If your relationships feel stuck in a painful cycle of unmet expectations, this episode will give you the insight and inspiration to rethink the structures and bravely create more authentic connections.

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👉 Who Is Teal Swan?
Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, and Speaker. She was born with a range of extrasensory abilities and is a survivor of severe childhood abuse. Today she uses her gifts as well as her own harrowing life experience to inspire millions of people towards authenticity, freedom, and joy and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pain.

The result when people are restored to wholeness is that the world will be restored to wholeness. Teal Swan's teachings invite people to step fully into their authenticity, knowing that this will bring about the positive change that we want to see in the world.

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[alexanderringler]

Essentially, I need to find someone, who has my level of self-honesty.

[mayirattleyourcage]

I am trying to analyse my personal story in the context of this video. My marriage was very "customised". Both my husband and valued honesty. We thought we could have a long term marriage - planned for the long haul - happily ever after. Went to swingers parties as didn’t want each to miss out and always wander - what if. Thought we could have it all while being in a commited, loving, supportive relationship. We had a child 13 years into our relationship. She's five now, so we've been together for 18 years. And now we are divorcing after all that effort. I am the initiator. Things started to get out of hand after we've purchased a beautiful apartment together. He got involved with another woman and couldn't keep boundaries on that relationship. Started to devalue me and abuse me emotionally. I was perpetually busy with all the responsibilities of raising our child, household chores and full time job, while he had the freedom to "entertainin" himself. I complained for the period of 10 months, saying its not going to end well. I dont know what he thought of me - that I'd be his door mat since I valued unconditional love and marriage. Maybe he thought I wouldn't leave so he could abuse me.

The moral of the story - if both people want to, they'll make the relationship work and last. It takes two. I think it doesn't matter what model of relationship we pick. Unfortunately, when we get involved with another person we take a risk. There are no guarantees in any scenario. I think that perhaps to be authentic, we shouldn't allow ourselves to be abused and practice self love. The goal is not to have a relationship last forever but perhaps to learn and evolve. Let go easier if it doesn't work.

[indigoneutral]

Just some observations as I've struggled with this exact thing: Dating apps turn humans into brands at best or literally act as pimps at worst. The introduction of hookup culture and "corn" has destroyed so much of our culture socially. It's created the illusion of unlimited options and perfect matches. It has also cheapened long term relationships and the sacred nature of intercourse. Polyamory may destigmatize a reality in which humans have complex physical and emotions needs, but it will not address underlying feelings of insecure or avoidant attachment and will act as a lightning rod to draw those in, as well as narcissists looking for a never ending supply. Due to the Coolidge effect, I'm not convinced of the ability to maintain loyalty without resentment bubbling up. Absolutely nobody should be in a relationship with someone who resents them for asking for the bare minimum of commitment. I am not interested in hooking up. I never was, I never will be. I would never cheapen my energy like that. If I'm being honest, serial monogamy just feels like polyamory with more steps. I'm not looking for a companion or experience. I'm looking for a life partner to build with. Someone safe. Someone who can compartmentalize when to be tough and when to be soft. Someone who values growth as a person. Someone who shares my values of longevity, instead of looking where the grass is greener when things get tough. Someone who doesn't suffer from the demons of addiction or believe the world revolves around their wants. Someone who sees the values of responsibility and who would sacrifice now for a better tomorrow. Someone not driven by hedonism, but by care and compassion for others. Someone with hope, instead of nihilism. I am indifferent about having children, because most women I see having them end up as single parents. I am never going to put myself in that position. Children need fathers. Good, present, compassionate fathers. The world is hard. It's easier when we face it together and remember we are on the same team. Choose for values. Don't choose for infatuation masquerading as love. Love is not just a feeling. It's a bond maintained by action of sacrifice. It's also not fair to ask unconditional love of anyone, other than yourself. We read our intentions, but judge the world by its actions. In reality, everyone should be judged by action alone, not hiding behind principles. Good men and good women exist. Now to have a good relationship, we just have to stop being so afraid of each other.

[fbkkhfjlnbh]

I want to share my story. My mother and father were married in a traditional marriage, which means that my mother does not work and my father is the provider, but they are not happy and have been quarreling a lot recently. My mother decided to give up everything and do whatever my father wants because divorce is difficult for women in our society. Their problem is that they are not the same and One of them must submit to the other in order for the relationship to continue on the surface level. Many people in my country suffer from problems in their relationships due to incompatibility. Everyone is forced into one mold. What Teal says is really important, and I read an unfortunate comment that believes that the solution is old traditional relationships, or that women’s work is the reason, but this is not true. I live in a traditional society, and relationships do not work here either.

[Bonsqueesquee]

I just visited my Aunty and Uncle who are in their late 70s who I haven't seen since my brother's funeral... they are celebrating 55 years of marriage! Which is rare. I listened to his life story and from a very young age, he was abandoned by his own mother at the age of 7, who ran off with another man. They just live in harmony with each other. I love seeing them.

[wardeggerrobertmarius]

We prevent a person's authentic expression when we don't allow them to say uncomfortable things to us or in our presence. 😂😂😂😂

[jeremycranford]

My girlfriend just enjoy lying next to each other or sitting next to each other. We have no other expectation except that we enjoy being in each other's company. It's a VERY simple model.

[DHarma]

I feel like people aren’t satisfied or appreciative of what they have. It’s not easy finding a partner you truly get along with who has integrity, is honest, etc. but once they have it they always feel they can do better

[rabidbadger]

FINALLY someone is bringing up the current housing fiasco. Thank you for that.

[Ronald-ui]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[natashanatura]

How are you always reading my mind? The timing of your videos is phenomenal and reminds me that my individual concerns are shared with everyone - you are TUNED IN.

[elainec]

If you’re intelligent, financially independent and have self reverence, you won’t fall for a poor bargain and if things change, you won’t hesitate leaving.

[spiritologija]

The relationship example at the end of the video sounded like a nightmare. Would rather be alone forever.

[xancient_truthx]

Know yourself first.
Love yourself first.
Everything else is SECOND

[FlorinGN]

The best examples of relationships that I saw in my life were so simple and yet so hard. I mean people who fixed most of their red flags instead of using them to disqualify. These people grew old and gray holding their hands while being gentle but firm with each other.
I always had the perception that their love for each other was Godly, unconditional and faithful, and maybe that holy unworldly energy was the fuel for life's transactions and hardships.
God bless! 🙏

[Royan]

Because sex has been devalued by corn, people don't believe in love in a special way anymore so they jump from one person to the other.

[esotericgamedev]

Teal is one of one. There is nobody else like her doing this work.

[Ladydi]

Wow, This video summarizes what I have felt about relationships for years. The reasons why traditional marriages don’t work because of the new roles of men and women in society. I recently got divorced after 30 years of marriage. Essentially our needs were not being met. Thank you for your explanation about this topic. It is very healing to understand the truth about relationships and how they need to be looked at!

[crimsonskiss]

This could all be summarized by simply stating that narcissism is on the rise. That’s it.

[TheCentralSun]

people often negatively judge and shame people for desiring what they were taught to believe is normal and what to expect