This Is Why 80% Of Relationships DON'T LAST - Jordan Peterson

Speaker: Jordan Peterson Thanks for watching!
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[shegsdev]

"If you can always leave then you don't have to tell each other the truth."

[sumarhasenflue]

it's crazy listening to these because relationships are not relationships anymore. people give up on amazing things for people that will never stay by you. it's sad seeing the way things are now from back then love is not love anymore it's not the same

[margaretjimenez]

The only time my better half left me is when he recently passed away 💔.
We had 43 wonderful years together. We were blessed..

[lechatel]

I always use this analogy: You can be in a room quite happily all day. Knowing you can leave it when you want to, choosing to stay inside it. reading, watching TV whatever. But as soon as you find that someone has locked the door, everything changes and you are desperate to get out.

[Rectyme]

Been living with my girl for 7 years right out of high school. Been in a relationship for almost 11. Been engaged for 1 year. We have no kids and have planned every step of the way so I guess we beat the odds. She is my best friend and I hers we share everything we take care of each other and I wouldn't trade it for anything. We are so blessed. I wish you all the same and more.

[buu.]

Been with my husband since 2005 when we were 14. Married in 2014 at 22. We welcomed our first baby last November. Feeling so grateful for him and our little family.

[tonypetts]

Lived with my wife for 4½ years before we married. Had our first child in the first year of that as well. That was thirty eight years ago and we've been married for the last thirty-three of them and still going strong.
What matters is how you view life, commitment and marriage; if you go into any relationship not thinking this may last for ever then it won't, simple as. Most of these people are taught they can have/be anything they want, because of this everything in life is disposable, including relationships/marriage.
This is mainly a product of how people are taught/indoctrinated in the modern world. Sad ...

[sandywhat]

But there's another thing to this. There really is a loss of community in past decades. I think when everyone got married, stood infront of God and the preacher and the community and grandma and Grandpa and had a big wedding and witnesses to the vows, I think people worked much harder to stay together and community was part of everyones life. Many of us have completely lost community.
Same with parenting. I can see when a parent I know had a community, was part of a community, had witnesses, family around, neighbours around, friends around, they worked harder at parenting. They had standards to uphold, they had people holding them accountable.
When divorce happened and loss of community happened there was child neglect and no one at all holding them accountable. There were now NO standards.
Community is so important, for marriages, raising children, even for single people, elderly people.

[noneofit]

I love his heart and sincerity.. this man speaks volumes all the time..

[SilverLining]

Someone in the comments said it best… “commitment comes from your heart”

[liannemarie]

I always got laughed at for not living with my husband before we were married. I always answered with, "What? Am I going to divorce him because he throws his socks on the floor?". I love the way we did things and we just celebrated our 10 year anniversary. I still would rather spend time with him and our babies than anyone else in the world. And that's all we do, lol

[gutyourtrust]

I strive to have enough integrity to tell the truth even though I can leave

[jennygage]

I hope one day the whole world hears this piece. People need to take such advice. And understand that its purpose is to prevent pain. Sometimes awful pain lasting years.

[livingbyfaith]

Not telling each other the truth will kill any relationship. It's so hard to find someone who is open n willing to stick with their partner through the good n bad. I'm a fighter n I need someone who is willing to fight for the best part of me n vice a versa

[zoezzzarko]

This is the most beautiful one minute of words.

[headlong_gypsy]

Ex left me on the floor for dead when I collapsed, asked for the divorce, began molesting my children, I lost my business when this all came to light after she remarried and he paid for her lawyer and I lost my children in spite of what she did while I get the privilege of rebuilding yet again with my 50th birthday around the corner. Point taken, Jordan, but like hell I'm never again participating in such a broken system that not only honors such treatment of men but increasingly promotes it.

[jeffchilds]

My wife and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. We’ve been married for 25 years and the love and compassion is still there. The teamwork is still there. So it can work.

[barbarawoods]

This is exactly what I just left. 2 years long distance and 5 years living together and he told me (a traditional girl) that I’m not wife material or mother material for him 💀 it broke my heart and felt like a shot in the chest, It’s hard but I’m really glad I’m going.

[witsendtarot]

Thank you for voicing the words and elaborating on how I've always felt about moving in with someone. You have managed to unlock and put the words to what has been my core thought on the subject.

[cjok]

I've been living w/ the same man for 26yrs and I totally agree w/ what he's saying. I regret staying feeling like its temporary.