Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome? | Debi Silber | TEDxCherryCreekWomen

[billjordan]

the most tragic thing about betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy...

[taniagill]

The worst part about betrayal, I think, is the shock. It kind of puts you in this place where you think anyone is capable of anything, and from there it's very easy to never let anyone back in.

[andreaaufmuth]

It’s a double crush. The betrayal itself and then absolutely zero support because they are the person you normally run to for comfort and now you have no one. It’s horrid.

[johnfrehley]

The worst part is that it's the one you'd never have imagined in your wildest dreams, would destroy you or have a wish to. It's never an enemy, it's the one you trusted completely, the one you loved with all your heart and let into every aspect of your life. It's beyond devastating.

[tedfinger]

Her description of betrayal trauma is exactly on target. It changes you. I feel like an empty shell of my former self and I don’t see a path towards transformation. I’ve lost all motivation and enthusiasm for life itself. This is the trauma that’s invisible to the rest of society. No one really understands the pain of a betrayal, except for those of us who live with it.

[mattsaysvideo]

“Even though it was done to you, it wasn’t about you, ” very well said.

[derrickrr]

The vast majority of betrayers score high in narcissism, sociopathy or psychopathy. So don’t expect the betrayer to show remorse.

[pattiobrien]

I grieve for the man I thought he was, for the future I thought we had, the one person who knew all of me. But what she left out, I grieve for the ability to trust myself to protect myself. That’s the one part I can’t get past. It also affected all of my friendships. I sabotaged them to keep myself safe. The loneliness is overwhelming but I don’t know how to heal this part.

[zero-olnt]

What betrayal taught me was to never be attached to the amazing happiness that a partner can bring. You could give everything to a person, walk over broken glass and one day they can decide for whatever reason they are not happy. Instead look for your happiness in other things.

[komalkoul]

"its hurts so much bcz on some level we know its intentional"

[Michael]

One thing I've learned is when people kick you to the curb, it speaks about them. It is not necessary that you feel bad about yourself.

[duncanboone]

It's weirdly comforting for me to hear that there's actual research to back up that there are physical responses to betrayal.

[Lakshman_Handle]

*Unable to breath* . .
Only the victims can realise how true this is.

[haydeejohnson]

Betrayal is betrayal, once it's done to you, it's hard to trust, even after reconciliation🙏🏻.

[Gbenneful]

For someone fighting back tears at my desk, thank you for helping to paint a picture of something that I have really struggled to understand, manage, and overcome.

[stephenskayla]

It is intentional and you never see it coming when it hits you. A good person doesn't even let their mind go to the place of a betraying person. So when it hits you it is devastating. It's unbelievable that someone could do this to another person. A person they say they love. Yeah right.

[colleenbishop]

Once my house is rebuild there's no letting the destroyer back in. That's my lesson learned.

[loricarrier]

I always describe what happened as if he was wearing a mask for 14 years, and then it fell off. I saw him. I saw this complete stranger

[xw]

Videos like this are so helpful. My health insurance doesn't cover therapy, so when I can't see anyone, I watch youtube videos from counselors and therapists. It helps to have my feelings validated and not feel so alone. Thank you sister for this blessing of a video 🙏🏼

[DeviantMotives]

One relationship where I was really betrayed and hurt I literally look like I aged 10 years in one year. I really can’t believe I didn’t have a heart attack because of my profound grief.

But after this last betrayal, I highly doubt I will ever be able to trust anyone again. There was no red flags with these betrayals. There’s no way of telling a good guy from a bad guy nowadays because they are such good liars